Peer Relationships Chapter 8, Lessons 1-3

Peer Relationships Ch 8, Lesson 1 Different Types of Friendships and Being Safe Casual, Close, Platonic, On-line

Friendships: Many types throughout life Casual: - Share similar interests - No deep emotional bonds Close: - Strong emotional ties - Support/encouragement; listens to concerns without judgment - Talk about problems

Friendships: Many types throughout life Platonic: - Shared affection with opposite gender - Not considered a couple On-line: - Communication through Internet Positive vs. Negative Rewarding to know people from all over the world (cultures/traditions) Dangerous when others aren’t truthful

What should you do to be safe on Internet? Don’t share personal information Don’t share photos (facebook?) Never arrange face/face meetings Tell a trusted adult if… you become uncomfortable

Recognizing Problems in Friendships Important to know how to recognize and resolve problems in friendships Cliques – small circle of friends who exclude others as outsiders Ways to avoid negative aspects of cliques... Become active in several activities Develop variety in friendships Envy or jealousy – you have unique talents, don’t compare yourself; think positive (self-talk)

Student Activity: (5 minutes) Read “When Friendships Change” on page 197 in Glencoe Health textbook – Health Skills Activity With a classmate, role-play a scene to end this scenario using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ section OR You may write or draw a cartoon ending the scene using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ section

Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills Ch 8, Lesson 2 People your age can influence how you think, feel, and act Can be negative or positive…

Positive Peer Pressure: Positive Friends… Inspire you to try something new Encourage you to participate in activities Influence you in healthful ways… Negative Peer Pressure: Take part in negative behaviors Accept beliefs with negative consequences Cliques who are disrespectful to others Bullying or acts of bullying

Harassment: Persistently annoying others Manipulation: Indirect, dishonest way to control or influence other people Examples (pg. 200, Figure 8.5): making threats, blackmail, mocking or teasing, ‘guilt trips’, bargaining, flattery, bribing

Resisting Negative Peer Pressure: Practicing Refusal Skills (communication strategies) will help you deal with NPP Assertive Refusal 1. state your position - reason 2. suggest alternatives - activities 3. stand your ground – body language, eye contact; walk away

Passive and Aggressive Responses Passive = easier? Viewed as pushover, not worthy of respect Aggressive = get your way? Viewed as forceful, pushy, or hostile Being assertive shows you stand up for your rights, beliefs, and needs. It shows you respect yourself and those around you.

Practicing Abstinence Ch 8, Lesson 3

To protect your health and safety Age of people you date Where you go? Setting Limits To protect your health and safety Age of people you date Where you go? How will you get there? What will you do when you get there?

Abstinence A deliberate decision to avoid high-risk behaviors Intimacy – closeness between two people developed over time. Infatuation – exaggerated feelings of passion Self-control – a person’s ability to use responsibility to override emotions (control reaction) set limits for expressing affection communicate with partner talk with trusted adult low-pressure dating situations date someone who respects/shares same values

What do you think? (class discussion) Avoiding Risk Situations What do you think? (class discussion) Avoid places where alcohol and other drugs are present Avoid being alone with a date at home or in an isolated place

Considering the Consequences what do you think? (class discussion) STIs/STDs Unplanned pregnancy Consent Law – NC consent law - age is 16

The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years Effects on Mental/Emotional Health: Aren’t committed as in marital relationship Guilt feelings – truthful to parents about sexual activity? Would they approve? Loss of self-respect going against values Regret and anxiety in consequences

The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years Effects on Social Health: May lose opportunity for new friendships May lose opportunity for new activities Tension in family from disappointment/worry Challenges in financial and emotional support Teen parents put own education/career and dreams on hold to raise child

Know the facts before you react… Is it normal to have sexual feelings? Yes. Can you control the reaction to these feelings? Deliberate decision = planning and self-control Re-commit to Abstinence – ALWAYS an option – never too late to decide/act on protecting your health and well-being! Know the facts before you react…

Dating Decisions – personal values and priorities will influence your dating decisions Are you ready to date? Other priorities? (goals, tasks, values, and activities you judge to be more important than others) Set healthful dating expectations… consideration and respect communicate thoughts and feelings honestly never feel pressured to do anything against you or your family’s values

Refusal Skills Suggestions to Say No to NPP “Everybody does it” No. Not everybody is doing it. “I thought you were cool” I am cool, and the answer is still no. “No one will know” I’ll know, and I’m the one who matters. “If you loved me, you’d do it” If you loved me, you’d respect my decision.

What is your website address? Student Enrichment: Design a website on abstinence for teens. You will draw this on paper. The site should be accurate, informative, and creative. It should also contain links to other reliable abstinence websites… (link ideas: more information on refusal skills, decisions to date, peer pressure, considering consequences, sexual content on tv, benefits of abstinence…) What is your website address?