A Webcast presented by: St. John’s Seminary & The Office of Vicar for Clergy [Archdiocese of Los Angeles]
Compete Avoid Compromise Accommodate Satisfy Own Interests Satisfy Other’s Interests Divine Collaboration
Align with God’s Will
Increase security and love.
Reduce fear. Be Not Afraid
God Brother [ Trinity ] 15
... love of neighbor is a path that leads to the encounter with God and... closing our eyes to our neighbor also blinds us to God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
Brother Mediator Reconciliation
We can not love the God we can not see unless we love the God we see within ourselves and in others. – St. Bonaventure
Sin separates us from God; reconciliation heals the break. Reconciliation - A User’s Manual
God Brother [ Trinity ] 15 Christ the Mediator Priest as mediator
If I have no contact whatsoever with God in my life, then I cannot see in the other anything more than the other, and I am incapable of seeing in him the image of God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
See the Divine in the Other
God Brother [ Trinity ] 15
Assess Be, Do, Have
What do you want to Be that has been opposed?
What do you want to Do that has been opposed?
What do you want to Have that has been opposed?
Assess Be, Do, Have
Power Prestige Possessions Pride Power Prestige Possessions Pride
IMPASSEIMPASSE
Barriers to Convening
ExpectationsExpectations
Need to Be Right Being Made Wrong
Emotions Color the Story & Perceptions
Destructive Emotions
Faulty Perceptions
The situation was perceived inaccurately Prejudice or bias clouded perception False attributions skewed perception Perception Errors
The other party’s “inner story” is assumed Emotional attachments color perception Senses were impaired
WallsWalls
Desire for Revenge \
NarcissismNarcissism
Spiritual Direction
FALSE SELF vs. Divine Self
Two False Selves Fight
Settlement Criteria
SatisfactionSatisfaction Substantive ProceduralPsychological
Opposition to Will of God Problem of Evil