“The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished.” Daniel W Davenport
Words Facial Expressions Body Language Silence
“When a man speaks, he gives you a piece of his mind, when a woman speaks, she gives you a piece of her heart.” From ‘Mars and Venus Together Forever’ by John Grey
Decide who will be responsible for monitoring finances Make regular time to talk about them Agree realistic budget & review bank statements together regularly Be realistic – most of us spend 10% more than we earn! Beware of plastic money Make sure lifestyle fits your budget Be honest – never hide the truth
combat is optional!
Forget the issue Be historical “You always..” “You never…” “Yes, but.” Involve others Criticise partner in public Use insults, blame.. Deny being partly responsible
Find right time to talk – 10pm rule Stick to the issue Choose words carefully Non-confrontational phrases Hear your partner out Try to understand the meaning & feeling behind words Pray Be ready to back down Resolve differences lovingly before sleep Be first to say “sorry” not “Sorry but…” Remember the awesome power of forgiveness