This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You? Nurturing Parenting Section 12.2 GOAL To Teach Parents Alternative Methods of Behavior Encouragement and Management to Physical/Corporal Punishment

OBJECTIVES To Provide Parents With a Review of Strategies to Replace Physical Punishments. To Empower Parents by Brainstorming Alternatives to Hitting and Spanking. To Increase Parents’ Sense of Competence With Their Children.

What Have We Done? We have already learned a number of alternatives to spanking such as: praise, time-out, appropriate expectations, choices and consequences, “I statements” and “You Messages”. Can you give me an example of each?

Food for Thought Being a good parent is hard work! There are no magic pills or magic wands that will make it happen over night. It takes a long dedicated effort by the parent to raise a bright, self confident, happy and successful person.

Food for Thought (cont) Have your family meetings consistently. Be consistent in establishing rules and giving consequences and rewards. Always listen to your child and give advise in a caring way – don’t preach. Be respectful of your child as a person. Be very patient and loving. Always give hugs and say kind things when you have the opportunity. Once again – listen to your child!

For the next 40 minutes the group will watch a video that presents problem parent-child interactions. At the end of each segment, I will turn off the video and we will discuss what happened and what alternatives could have been used instead of spanking.

“This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You.” Let’s Watch a Movie!!! “This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You.”