Motivating Career Counselors for Effective Working & Improving Communication & listening Skills of a Counselors

PREVIEW PART-1 Right Way of Choosing Suitable Career Career Decision Making Process PART- 2 Life Skills Importance of Self Esteem Self-Discovery Personal Style Self Expression Case Study Handling Relationships

HOW TO CHOOSE CAREER

Existing way of career selection

Influence of parents  May force Their Dream On Children.  No Risk Taking, Prefer To Be On Safe Side.  Leaving Decision On Children.

Role Model

Academic Performance If I get good marks, I ‘ll go for science. Arts and commerce are for weak students

Impact of Media

DRAWBACKS. Complete waste of budding potential Poor Success Rate In Competitive Exams. Stream change after 10+2 out of frustration Frequent Job Hopping/ Early Onset of Burnout Poor Professional Life, Hampering Home Life

Right Way of Career Selection

PROFILE OF STUDENT  Aptitude  Interest  Intelligence Level  Personality

Utility Of The Qualification As Per Market Scenario

CAREER DECISION MAKING PROCESS Know Yourself Career Options Available Prioritize Values 3 Consideration with Values & Strengths 1 Explore the Career Options Decision on Main & Alternative Option Career Path Subject Selection Values Strengths Personality 4 7 8

Major Difference between Psychologist/Counselors of Yesteryears and Present day Psychologist/Counselors

L IFE S KILLS C RITICAL T HINKING & C REATIVE T HINKING D ECISION -M AKING & P ROBLEM S OLVING I NTERPERSONAL R ELATIONSHIP E FFECTIVE C OMMUNICATION C OPING WITH E MOTIONS C OPING WITH S TRESS S ELF -A WARENESS E MPATHY

PERSONAL STYLE AND CLOTHING Discover ‘The Power Of Style’. Dress To Represent Your Personal Style.

SELF DISCOVERY Identify ‘The Real You’ and take action on creating the life you’ve always wanted. Set Your Priorities and follow them without feeling guilty. Have at least one formula to boost your self-esteem. (Studies reveal the more self-esteem you have the more likely it is you’ll live a life full of achievement, satisfaction and happiness).

CASE STUDY Manvee is a 19 years old girl. She is an obedient student. She did well in her school exams. Now she is doing her graduation. She spends most of her time with herself. Her imagination is good. She writes good poems and stories. In college, her academic performance is average. She has small circle of friends. She doesn’t participate in extra curricular activities in the college. She likes to follow others. She hardly takes initiative in any task.

CASE STUDY 1 …. Of late, she has become very irritating personality. Her anger outbursts are on increase. Whenever she is spoken to for any issue, her reply is “I do not Know”. As Manvee’s friend, what are your proposed actions ?

SELF-ESTEEM

SELF ESTEEM “ P eople believe that thinking well of themselves is equivalent to boasting and big-headedness. This is why children are often taught to behave better and work harder by having their faults emphasized, rather than by having their successes praised. Parents and teacher may spend their time pointing out what children have done wrong, instead of helping them to build on what they have done right.”

Individuals with High Self- Esteem They like to meet new people. They don’t worry about how others will judge them. They have the courage to express themselves. Their lives are enriched with each new encounter. They are nicer to be around. Their ideas are met with interest because others want to hear what they have to say. They are magnets to positive opportunities!

Avoid trying new things Feel unloved & unwanted Blame others for own shortcomings Be unable to tolerate a normal level of frustration Put down their own talents & abilities Be easily influenced and with Low Self Esteem will :-

Figure 4.1 Self-Esteem Cycles

TIPS TO PROMOTE SELF ESTEEM Stop having negative thoughts Be assertive Aim for accomplishment rather than perfection Set Short Goals Develop expertise in some area Have A Clear Signature

H ANDLING R ELATIONSHIP Go for honest, trusting relationships. Respect is the key factor Enjoy your relationship than wasting time in other issues. Do not go out of your comfort zone. Use I statements in arguments. Avoid Blaming/ express your feeling.

S OME T IPS … Be a Brand Ambassador of Your Subject. Work on yourself- Looks, Language, Label Take Risks Go out of your comfort zone Understand the changes in new generation and have an empathetic attitude towards them Handle difficult people and tense situations tactfully Do anything to have feeling of a WINNER

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