Goals and Purpose

What are examples of the goals you had in your personal life?

Definition of Goal The result or achievement toward which effort is directed or aimed, a destination.

GOAL Goal Setting Helps Us Accomplish Something Dribbling Left Handed New Dismount from the Beam Getting a Win

GOAL We Prepare, Plan & Play to “Win”… But “Winning” is not our PURPOSE

Definition of Purpose The reason for which something exists or is done.

PURPOSE Dribbling Left Handed = New Dismount from the Beam = Winning a Game = Overcoming Adversity Moving Outside of Comfort Zone Working Together with Others

Goals and Purpose GOALS have a beginning and an end. PURPOSE does not. Our PURPOSE is what we live for. -Tony Dungy

Coaching Purpose Example: “I coach to help boys become men of empathy and integrity who will lead, be responsible, and change the world for good.” –Joe Ehrmann

If we aren’t intentional about our PURPOSE and… If our GOALS aren’t in alignment with our PURPOSE, then… Winning becomes our PUPROSE and… we will do anything to achieve it.

Goal or Purpose?

What does this look like at our high school?

Less than 3% of high school athletes will play beyond high school at any level!

W ill have a t erminal experience 97%

K nowing this, should we only focus on G OALS or should we be more concerned with our P URPOSE

What do we specifically want our children to acquire through their participation in sports?

Self-confidence Risk-taking Self-motivated Responsible Self-disciplined Flexible Working with Others Courage Committed Focused Persistent

Acquiring these skills will help my child to be successful in LIFE

How do we INTENTIONALLY support our child around G OALS ? How do we INTENTIONALLY support our child around P URPOSE ? G oal and P urpose ?

We benefited from winning AND losing We had fun We learned & improved We helped teammates succeed We conducted ourselves well We did our best We appreciated our opponent We developed Star Qualities The Many Ways to Win

WHY DO WE PLAY? WE PLAY TO GIVE STUDENTS MORE

We play to create a place of belonging We play to develop the inner lives of the students who participate. We play to give students something that will sustain them beyond their 4 years in high school. More…

Become Aware “Adults choose very little in their free time where there isn’t enjoyment, that they aren’t passionate about and without purpose.” -Tony Wagner, Creating Innovators

Include Fun Understand your child wants their choices to include fun. Allow them to have fun!

Find the Right Balance Remember, it is only a game and students want to enjoy their experience.

Give the Right Feedback “I love to watch you play” is the only thing you have to say when the game is over.

Recommended Reading InSideOut Coaching - Joe Ehrmann

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