CRETE Dialogue Day 4 Christa Tinari and Catrina Cuevas

dialogue A conversation or discussion between two persons to reach an agreement An exchange of ideas and opinions An exchange between a person and something else Adapted from Websters online dictionary and

Dialogue Any conversation that is characterized by a search for understanding, rather than aiming for agreements or solutions The purpose of Dialogue is to provide an opportunity for all participants: 1) to really express themselves 2) to really be heard 3) to develop and deepen mutual understanding and respect and 4) to learn about the perspectives of others and explore and reflect on ones own feelings and views

Debate …a conversation structured as a competition of participants and views. It involves stating a starting position, rebutting opposing positions, defending ones starting position with counter attacks, and seeing who wins. One listens for points of disagreement, protects ones starting views, and acts in an adversarial manner Poliner and Benson

Debate Dialogue Fight to prove someone wrong Competitive relationship Threatening atmosphere The goal is winning Believe there is only 1 solution Dont care about others feelings, hopes and ideas Defend yourself Listen to find flaws Search for weakness Criticize the other Collaborative, sides work together Builds relationship Identify and share commonalities Contributes to problem solving Believe in many solutions Sensitive to feelings, hopes and ideas of others Improve on your ideas Search for good and encourages open- mindedness Adapted from Poliner and Benson

DebateDialogue Participants tend to be leaders Attacks and interruptions Differences within sides are denied or minimized Unswerving commitment Statements are predictable Success requires simple impassioned statements Speak from own unique experiences An atmosphere of safety Differences in beliefs and values are explored Listen to understand and gain insight New information surfaces Success requires exploration Adapted from PCP Toolkit 1992

Dialogue in Conflict Resolution and School Settings Appropriateness Setting Context Level Benefits Challenges

PCP Toolkit: Designing, Facilitating, and Following-Up Dialogues A model for an Introductory Dialogue Before, during and after the Dialogue Common Phases in an Opening Meeting Entry, opening comments, introductions, agreements, opening questions by facilitator, participants questions, middle phase, next steps, reflections and parting words Beginning a Dialogue Session: Go-Rounds & Questions Sample Ground rules (Agreements) for Dialogue Self-Help Tools for Participators Guidelines for Facilitators Protocol for Follow-up Interview

Food for Thought Judgments of others are alienated expressions of our own unmet needs. ~ Marshall Rosenberg The forms of speaking we have available to us regulate the forms of thinking, feeling and meaning-making to which we have access, which in turn constrain how we see the world and act in it. ~ Kegan & Lahey