Objective: Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful relationships in your life. Determine what actions need to occur for a healthy relationship. Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with classmates.

 Group of people who are related to you by blood, adoption or marriage  Families relationships influence you and your behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have the greatest influence.

 Dysfunctional Family  Family that lacks skills to be successful and function in healthy ways  Ideal  Family that has all the skills to be successful and function in healthy ways

 Family Continuum  Where would these families be on the continuum????

 Action  Choose actions that promote healthy family relationships  Commitment  Make a promise to be a loving family member  Time  Spend time with your family

 Healthful  Promote self respect, productivity, and health  Free of violence and/or drug use and abuse  Harmful  Harms self respect, interferes with productivity and health  Includes violence and or drug abuse

 People Pleaser  Seeks approval  Does anything to be liked  Acts like a “doormat”  The Enabler  Supports harmful behavior of others  Makes excuses for behavior of others  Takes over other peoples responsibilities

 The Clinger  Needy and dependent  Chases and clings  Suffocates others  The Fixer  Fixes other peoples problems  Quick to give advice  Takes over other peoples responsibilities

 The Distancer  Emotionally unavailable  Avoids sharing feelings  Keeps people at an arms length away  The Controller  Possessive, jealous, and domineering  Does not respect the will of others  Demands one way  The Center  Self centered  Talks but does not listen  Ignores the needs of others

 The Abuser  Abusive  Puts down others  Threatens and harms others  The Liar  Does not tell the truth  Builds relationships on lies  Manipulates others into responses they want  The Promise Breaker  Unreliable  Makes plans and cancels them  Agrees to change behavior and does not do so

 Dr. Phil - e.com/watch?v=FIm su6qEq6A e.com/watch?v=FIm su6qEq6A  Mean Girls - e.com/watch?v=nFP 68RpX1Fg&feature= related e.com/watch?v=nFP 68RpX1Fg&feature= related  What did you see in this clip?  Are there harmful relationship profiles in these clips? What are they?  Did this ever happen to you before?

 On the back of your note sheet:  Write down FIVE people that you would like to have dinner with.  Must be able to explain why you choose these five people.  The people – Can not be a relative or friend Can be alive or deceased

 Within your group –  Decide on five people to invite to your dinner.  Your final 5 should be easy to defend in front of the rest of the class  On the paper provided –  Create a seating chart for dinner Includes the five people your group invited and every group member.  Create a dinner menu o Include appetizer, main course, and dessert.

 Commitment  Communication  Compromise  (Cooperation)