CURRICULUM FOR FOURTH AND FIFTH GRADE STUDENTS TAKE A STAND AGAINST BULLYING

BULLY definition b Webster’s Dictionary defines bullying as: A person who hurts or frightens those who are smaller and weaker.A person who hurts or frightens those who are smaller and weaker.

BULLY definition: b Bullying happens when: Someone hurtfully teases you.Someone hurtfully teases you. Someone physically hurts you or says they are going to hurt you.Someone physically hurts you or says they are going to hurt you. Someone takes something that belongs to you without your permission and won’t give it back.Someone takes something that belongs to you without your permission and won’t give it back. Someone leaves you out of activities on purpose.Someone leaves you out of activities on purpose. Someone bigger or stronger than you makes you do something that you don’t want to do.Someone bigger or stronger than you makes you do something that you don’t want to do.

BULLIES PICK ON DIFFERENCES and differences are what make us unique!

Bullying happens in 5 ways b With spoken words b With unspoken words b Physical bullying b Property damage b Cyber-bullying

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE? b Spoken words ThreatsThreats Group threatsGroup threats TeasingTeasing Jokes Jokes b Unspoken words Ignoring / IsolationIgnoring / Isolation GossipGossip

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE? b PHYSICAL Blocking someone’s pathBlocking someone’s path Holding someone so they can’t moveHolding someone so they can’t move PunchingPunching PushingPushing KickingKicking FightingFighting

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE? b PROPERTY Hiding belongingsHiding belongings Taking something that does not belong to youTaking something that does not belong to you Saying you will hurt someone (with physical harm or taking something) if a person does not do what you askSaying you will hurt someone (with physical harm or taking something) if a person does not do what you ask Destroying someone’s belongings or propertyDestroying someone’s belongings or property

Cyber space and Cyber-bullying… b How do your family or friends use the Internet? b What is good about using the Internet? b What can be bad about it?

What is Cyber-bullying? b Someone says something that makes you upset or teases you in a hurtful way on the Internet b One child or a group of children talk about something that someone said on a computer about you and it makes you feel bad. b Someone uses a computer to say something that scares you like: –They are going to try to find where you live or go to school –They are going to hurt you, your family or friends –They will take something that belongs to you or damage your property b Someone from school is using the Internet to get other people to tease you or to not be your friend. b Someone takes a picture or movie of you with their phone without your permission.

Why is cyber-bullying bad? b When you say mean things about people, in-person or on the computer, it hurts. b You are being used by someone else if you join in cyber-bullying. b Cyber-bullies and their friends often end up being bullied themselves. Be nice to other people, do to them what you would want done to you.Be nice to other people, do to them what you would want done to you.

Some cyber-space questions… b What is okay to say on the Internet? b What is not okay to say on the Internet? b How would you feel if someone said something bad to you or about you on the Internet?

What is okay to write on a computer? b What are good manners when sending a message in cyberspace? Write only what you would say to someone face-to- faceWrite only what you would say to someone face-to- face Do not use rude wordsDo not use rude words Do not hurt others' feelingsDo not hurt others' feelings Stay calm when you get a rude messageStay calm when you get a rude message Be clear in your subject and message; check your spelling; don't type in upper case letters;Be clear in your subject and message; check your spelling; don't type in upper case letters; –Maybe use smiley faces so people will understand you better.

Cyber-Bullying examples b You are playing a computer game and someone comes on line and calls you a name, or writes something else that makes you feel bad. Log off the computer and get an adult for help.Log off the computer and get an adult for help. b You get a message on instant messaging that is mean toward or making fun of another student. Close out the message and get a teacher or and adult for help.Close out the message and get a teacher or and adult for help. b Someone at school tells you to get on a web-site, you log on and you see that it says a lot of mean things about someone in your class. Log off the web-site and get an adult for help.Log off the web-site and get an adult for help.

WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING? b EMOTIONAL EFFECTS: HOW DO YOU FEEL? left outleft out afraid or upset and you are not sure whyafraid or upset and you are not sure why bad about yourselfbad about yourself fear of coming to schoolfear of coming to school sadsad want to be alonewant to be alone angryangry want to get back at someonewant to get back at someone b PHYSICAL EFFECTS: HOW DO YOU ACT? stomach aches don’t want to eat don’t want to play tired headaches start doing bad in school hurting someone physically

EFFECTS OF BULLYING b More than 160,000 students do not go to school each day because they fear being bullied. - National Education Association, National Association of School Psychologists

What to do if you are bullied b Tell the bully how they are making you feel. b Look right at the bully and tell them that they are bullying you. Tell them firmly that you don’t like it and that they need to stop, then walk away.Tell them firmly that you don’t like it and that they need to stop, then walk away. b If they will not stop, tell a teacher or an adult.

OK, SO HOW CAN I HELP SOMEONE ELSE? b BULLYING STARTS AND STOPS WITH YOU!! b If you see another student being hurt by a bully or bullies, tell someone. Teachers, counselors, principals, adults and parents are all willing to listen and help.Teachers, counselors, principals, adults and parents are all willing to listen and help. b When you hear words that hurt, try to change the subject to something more positive b Say something nice to the person being bullied. Helping someone else feel good about themselves only makes you feel better! b Include someone who is left out in what you are doing b DO NOT LAUGH OR join in.

Tattling versus Telling b It is important to know the difference between telling and tattling. Students do not want to be known as “tattle-tales,” but if what someone is doing hurts, scares, or puts another person in danger, an adult must be told right away. Telling is letting an adult know about something that may get someone else hurt.Telling is letting an adult know about something that may get someone else hurt. Tattling is telling on someone just to get them into troubleTattling is telling on someone just to get them into trouble

Telling or tattling? b “Bill is punching some smaller kids and making them cry.” b _________________________ b “Taylor keeps taking my lunch money from me. b _________________________ b “Kelsey forgot her sweat pants for gym class again.” b _________________________ b “Patrick and Mark keep trying to kiss me. They are scaring me.” b __________________________ b “Justin and David keep pushing little kids off of the swings.” b __________________________ b “Richard won’t let me use his eraser.” b __________________________ b “Jessica keeps trying to stab me with a pencil.” b __________________________

When to report bullying: b Students should report a bullying incident to an adult immediately if: Bullying continues even after a student tells the bully to stop.Bullying continues even after a student tells the bully to stop. Someone is physically hurt.Someone is physically hurt. Someone does not feel safe telling the bully to stop.Someone does not feel safe telling the bully to stop. Report the who, what, where, how and whenReport the who, what, where, how and when

TRUE OR FALSE? A kid who gets teased and bullied knows we’re just kidding around. Even if it does hurt his feelings right now, he’ll get over it. FALSE. Bullying is kind of like pounding a nail into a board. You can take the nail out, but the hole is still there. You can even use some kind of putty to fill the hole up. The bottom line is that piece of wood will never be quite the same again. People who have been bullied carry those scars, big or small, forever.

Finally… b Do you think you have bullied someone? STOP…starting today. b Most schools have rules about not bullying others, and if you break the rules you might be suspended from school. At the very least, your parents will be calledAt the very least, your parents will be called