1 Proverbs on ‘Friendship’ A friend in n____ is a friend i_____. A fair-weather friend Out of s______, out of m_____. Absence makes the heart grow f_____. Lend your money and l____ your friend. A man is known by the c____ he keeps.

2 Proverbs on ‘Friendship’ A friend in need is a friend indeed. A fair-weather friend Out of sight, out of mind. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Lend your money and lose your friend. A man is known by the company he keeps.

3 Friendship cards I expect my friends to ……

4 Article 1: Friendship 1. On average, how many friends do students make? 2. What things draw friends together? 3. How is friendship different from marriage?

5 Answers: common interests, similar beliefs and opinions 3.Marriage is an institution, a contract while friendship is not.

6 Vocabulary //1 take sth for granted (lines 1-2) // 1 intimate relationship (line 6) //1 Sth is of prime importance (line 8) //2 to do friends favours (line 5) break a promise (line 5)  keep a promise //3 create a powerful bond (line 3)

7 Article 2: Value of friendship 1.Who needs friendship most? Why? 2.Where do people make friends? 3.What are friends for? 4.Why do men rarely make close friends?

8 Answers: 1. adolescents and elderly 1.Colleagues in the workplace,, neighbours who live next door, schoolmates in school 2.Friends can develop one’s courage, positive attitudes and give moral support. 3.Because they don’t confide in others and they are shy about sharing their self on a personal level

9 Article 2: Vocabulary //1 enjoy sb’s company (line 2) //1 derive = get (line 3) //1 alleviate stress (line 6) //2 the former (line 2) the latter (line 3) // 2 develop courage and positive attitudes (line 5)

10 //3 moral support (line 2) //3 acquaintance (line 5) //3 sociable (line 5) //3 confide in (line 8) //3 negative feelings (line 9)

11 Assignment Article 3: Use subheadings * Make a table to show the differences Article 4: Use prediction * Q: How to heal friendship?

12 Article 3: Friendship in China and the West Chinese friends are more lasting do something for you because of his position or job give concrete help e.g. money expect much from friends, offer help without waiting to be asked

13 Western friends are out of sight, out of mind are based on equality and status help to think out the problem and discover the solution may reject to help with a reason

14 Article 4: How to heal friendship Q: How to heal friendship?

15 Answer: give your friend benefit of the doubt don’t assume your friends mean to hurt you on purpose

16 What do you think of when you see a rock?

17 What do you think of when you see an island?

18 What can the lady see out of the window?

19 I am a rock Fill in the blanks as you listen. The song you are going to listen to is…

20 The song was written by Paul Simon in 1964 and sung by a duo Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel. ‘That’s a very young song. I wrote that in England. Unquestionably my most neurotic song. When I finished it, I thought ‘Oh man, I can’t be this sick!’

21 I am a rock Sung by Simon and Garfunkel A winter’s day In a deep and dark December I am alone. Gazing from my window to the streets below On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow. I am a rock. I am an island. I’ve built walls A fortress deep and mighty. That none may penetrate. I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain. It’s laughter and it’s loving I disdain. I am a rock. I am an island.

22 Don’t talk of love But I’ve heard the word before. It’s sleeping in my memory. I won’t disturb the slumber of feelings that have died. If I had never loved, I never would have cried. I am a rock. I am an island. I have my books And my poetry to protect me. I am shielded in my armour Hiding in my room, safe within my womb. I touch no one and no one touches me. I am a rock. I am an island.

23 And a rock feels no pain And an island never cries.

24 Now you’ll listen to the song again and relate it to your personal experience.

25 In groups of four, discuss the following questions: 2. Do you notice anything special in the lyrics? 1.What is the writer’s message about friendship? Why do you think the writer had these ideas? Hint: (a) Do the words convey a positive or a negative feeling? (b) Why did the writer use the perfect conditional in stanza 3? 3. What do you think the words ‘rock’, ‘island’ and ‘window’ are describing?

26 The writer expressed a negative feeling towards friendship. He described it as insecure, painful and hurting.

27 The writer thinks if one does not want to get hurt, one needs to build up walls around him, act like a rock, or become an island. Rock = hard, unfeeling, unsympathetic Island = isolated, unapproachable, uncommunicative

28 For question 2: deep dark silent mighty protect died hiding pain cries shielded disdaindied 2. The song writer has used Conditional Sentence Type _____to show this is a ________________. 3 past situation 1. The following words are used to give a negative meaning.

29 The song writer has used ‘metaphor’ in the song. ‘Metaphor’ - is an imaginative way of describing some- thing by referring to something else which has the qualities that you want to express.’ ( Collins Cobuild English Dictionary p.1044) For question 3: ‘Rock’ and ‘island’ refer to a broken friendship which cannot be mended. The ‘window’ is the wall isolating the self from the outside world. To protect oneself from getting hurt, one has to close himself by hiding behind books and poetry.

30 Follow-up Assignment 1 1. Visit the following website about ‘friendship’ which offers friendship philosophy, quotes, poetry and an online forum devoted to celebrating friendship. You can also read other websites on friendship which interest you.

31 2. In about words, express your opinion and your experience of ‘friendship’ in your weekly writing. Follow-up Assignment 2: