“The foundation of knowledge is the willingness to listen “The foundation of knowledge is the willingness to listen. Or for every obstacle there is a solution.” Questions: 1) What is selective listening? (Hearing what you want to hear.) What are good listening skills?

Sending & Receiving Messages Communication Sending & Receiving Messages

Why is it Difficult to Listen to Listen to Others at Times? Distractions are everywhere People may talk too long Disinterest in the conversation Thinking of what you’ll say next in response to the current speaker

How do you know someone is not interested in what you had to say How do you know someone is not interested in what you had to say? What was their body language? They: Avoid eye contact Lean away from the speaker Look distracted Do other things while the speaker is talking

Selective Listening Hearing what we want to hear

Active Listening Conflict is the process of people communicating and working together to resolve their differences. Peers promotes Listen to WHAT is said REPEATS what is said During conflicts students are to listen to the ISSUE not ACCUSE

Effective Communication Skills “Listening Well & Sending Clear Messages: Look at the speaker & pay attention to what he/she is saying Be respectful of differences of opinion - keep an open mind Acknowledge what the speaker is saying by nodding, eye contact, etc.. Ask questions if you don’t understand

Open Mind It is important to listen with an open mind!! Be willing to listen, not judge & see others viewpoints…

Unclear Messages A person may receive an unclear message due to the following reasons: We are thinking of other things while speaking We may not provide enough detail We may not stick to the point We don’t pay attention to the listener

Sending Clear Messages Make sure verbal & nonverbal messages match Speak clearly & stick to the point Be sure your message is received as you intend it to be

What is the Purpose of Effective Communication? To Understand & be Understood, to learn and or share information & experiences!

Listening……… 3 Volunteers?????

People know that drug use has many consequences and that people use drugs for many different reasons. Eddy started smoking marijuana occasionally with a friend. Now he’s getting loaded everyday, showing up late for school, or not at all and he says he doesn’t even care about the credits he is behind in because he can always make them up later. Sherry thought that a beer every now and then at a party was no big deal. Now she is partying a lot, but feeling tired and burnt out. She just wants to sleep off last night’s party and not hear about the crazy things everyone said she did the night before. David keeps saying that he can quit smoking cigarettes any time he wants. Every time he tires, he bugs his friends for cigarettes day and night. No one realized when he began to experiment with drugs how many consequences there could be. Many of the consequences are different for different people.

“I” Statements & ‘YOU” Statements Response that places blame on others Gives no info about ourselves and makes assumptions about the other person “I” Statements: Response that focuses on one’s own feelings rather then placing blame Convey positive expectations and trust Foundation of good communication

Communicating I Statements I feel _(an emotion)_ when you _(an action)_ because I _(an effect of the action)_. I think you said _(paraphrase)_ and I agree/disagree with you because I _(your emotion or experience)_.

Transform the Following Sentences You’re ruining my life!!!!!!!!!! You’re making me late for school!!!!!! You never listen to what I have to say!!!! You gave me a lower grade then I deserve! You’re stupid!!!!!!!!!!! Your breath stinks!