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Marriage Tool Box
Eph 5:31-32 Marriage is a “profound mystery”. I am talking about Christ and the Church.
You can only understand marriage by understanding Gospel.
Covenant Commitment Friendship Mission
Communication Conflict Companionship
1. Communication
“Any problem, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn't listening.” Emma Thompson
“Don't have sex. It leads to kissing and pretty soon you have to start talking to them.” Steve Martin
Heb 4:16 Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
Tip 1: BE ACCESSIBLE
James 1:19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak.
Prov 29:20 Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Tip 2: LISTEN
Eph 4:15 "Speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ."
Tip 3: TRUTH and LOVE
Eph 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Tip 4: DO HELPFUL THINGS
The Advice Giver (Instead of empathising, he want to solve the problem. Sympathy!)
The Interrupter (Listening to reply instead of to understand)
The Reassurer (“It’ll work out OK; probably not as bad as you think”)
The Rationaliser (Explaining why you have had a bad day – e.g. tired; stress)
The Deflector (“That reminds me of a time when…”)
Jn 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His son.
Tip 5: IMITATE GOD
2. Conflict
“I don't like conflict.” Nigella Lawson
“I don't like yelling and fighting, and I can't quarrel.” Grace Kelly
“I'm not much for talking. I put guys in body bags when I'm right.” Mike Tyson
“My toughest fight was with my first wife.” Muhammed Ali
Rom 5:8 God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Tip 1: TAKE THE INITIATIVE
Rom 12:18 As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone
Tip 2: DO WHAT YOU CAN
Jn 10:28 No one can snatch them out of my hand
Tip 3: REASSURE ONCE THE CONFLICT IS OVER
Lk 5:8 I am a sinful man
Tip 4: BE HUMBLE. SAY SORRY.
Matt 16:15-16 Self, then others involved
Tip 5: GET OTHERS INVOLVED…
Eph 4:26 Do not let the sun go down whilst you are still angry.
Tip 6: RESOLVE IT ASAP
1 Pet 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Tip 7: BUILD UP A LARGE BANK BALANCE OF LOVE
“Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” Martin Luther
3. Companionship
“Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a friend.” Plautus
“A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.” Elbert Hubbard
Mk 3:13 Jesus appointed 12…that they might be with him
Tip 1: TIME TOGETHER
Pr 17:17 A friend loves at all times.
Tip 2: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE