PRO SOCIAL INTRODUCTION LESSON 1 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

Students Name-### Students Name-### Students Name-### Period: Show this pass to your teacher BEFORE leaving class Come to: Room 317 Room:________________ If this period is your lunch time please bring your lunch/drink

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP WEEKLY PROGRESS REPORT Beth MathScience Social StudiesLanguage ArtsElective PELunch Respectful : Disagreeing respectfully Respectful : Avoiding interruptions Responsible : Paying attention to work/task Responsible : Asking for help appropriately Safe : Staying calm when communicating with others Total: /10 = /10 /10 Student Name_____________________________ Rater Name:__________________________ Week of ____/____/_____ This student is participating in our S/AIG Pro-Social Skills group. The targeted social skills are listed below. Using the provided criteria, rate the student’s use of the individual skills during this past week. 2 = Student exhibits skills all/most of the time 1 = Student exhibits skills half or less of the time 0 = Student exhibits skills rarely or not at all Totals /16 /16 /16 /16 /16 /80 PARENT SIGNATURE:______________________________ To be returned daily.

WHAT HAPPENS WITH THE WPR CARD? Mondays: Card is sent to teachers Teachers complete the card based on behavior presented that week. Wednesday: Cards are returned to Guidance Fridays: Cards are shared with you Goal is 80% average for 4 weeks

PRO SOCIAL INTERACTIONS LESSON 1 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

TOWER GAME Purpose: To have students work together and see what social peer interactions skills they use to work together. Activity: Build a tower Materials : Index cards Directions : Break students into equal groups. Give each group a stack of index cards Tell the groups that they are working together to build the tallest tower out of index cards. Notes: Facilitator should look for the social skills peers are using with another, such as: Observe group dynamics – Who takes charge? Is there discussion or does one person take over? Any positive or negative comments being said? **You may want to take some notes on your observations so that you can refer back to what you saw.

DISCUSSION How did you get started? How did you decide on the design? Was it easy to get started? Did your team agree right away on the plan?

PRO SOCIAL SELF-CONTROL/ LISTENING LESSON 2 Interactions with Others Self-Control/Listening Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

Examples of non self control behaviors are: shouting out making sounds Verbal sarcasm words fighting giggling shutting down avoidance eating too much or not at all Definition : The ability to demonstrate control over one’s emotions & reactions. WHAT IS SELF CONTROL?

WHY DO PEOPLE LOSE CONTROL? Sick Tired Sleepy Heard bad news Got into trouble Experienced some sort of loss Home troubles Having to do something you don’t want to. Peer pressure

Physical changes  Tense, hot, sweaty, fidgety and red color Emotional Changes  Sad, Bad Mood, Upset, Sarcasm, Joking, feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious Mental Changes  Negative thoughts, Racing Thoughts, Worry HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOUR ABOUT TO LOOSE CONTROL?

PUT ON YOUR THINKING CAPS! Questions: 1. What would school, home and your community look like if no one had self control? (think of your relationships with your parents, teachers, peers) 2. Do you think its important to have self control? 3. What can you do to ensure you don’t lose self control?  For example: Your teacher tells the class something and you didn’t hear what the teacher said. All you hear is noise around you. What can you do? A: Ask the teacher to repeat him/her self A lot of times, misunderstandings occur because…  we don’t hear correctly  we don’t listen to what is being said.

FUN ACTIVITY TIME Story time: Pass Right/Pass Left ACTIVITY: Have your entire group form a circle. The best format is to have them seated on the floor sitting “Indian" style. If this will not work with your group, you can have them in chairs or even standing in a circle. Give each person in the circle a penny, card, or some other small item that can be passed easily from hand to hand. Tell the group that you are going to read them a story and every time they hear any word that sounds like right, they are to pass the button in their hand to he person on their right depending on what they heard. Start reading the story slowly so that they have a chance to catch on to what you want them to do. After a few passes stop the story and ask them how they are doing. Check to see that everyone has a button in his hand. If your group is typical, some will have two or three buttons and others will not have any. Have them redistribute the buttons so that everyone has one again. Now continue to read the story, getting faster as you go. Stop the story a couple of more times to check on how they are doing. From the book: Activities that teach

STORY: “LIFE WITH THE WRIGHT FAMILY” One day the Wright family decided to take a vacation. The first thing they had to decide was who would be left at home since there was not enough room in the Wright family car for all of them. Mr. Wright decided that Aunt Linda Wright would be the one left at home. Of course this made Aunt Linda Wright so mad that she left the house immediately yelling "It will be a right cold day before I return". The Wright family now bundled up the children, Tommy Wright, Susan Wright, Timmy Wright and Shelly Wright and got in the car and left. Unfortunately, as they turned out of the driveway someone had left a trash can in the street so they had to turn right around and stop the car. They told Tommy Wright to get out of the car and move the trash can so they could get going. Tommy took so long that they almost left him in the street. Once the Wright family got on the road, Mother Wright wondered if she had left the stove on. Father Wright told her not to worry he had checked the stove and she had not left it on. As they turned right at the corner, everyone started to think about other things that they might have left undone. No need to worry now, they were off on a right fine vacation. When they arrived at the gas station, Father Wright put gas in the car and then discovered that he had left his wallet at home. So Timmy Wright ran home to get the money that was left behind. After Timmy had left, Susan Wright started to feel sick. She left the car saying that she had to throw up. This of course got Mother Wright's attention and she left the car in a hurry. Shelly Wright wanted to watch Susan get sick, so she left the car too. Father Wright was left with Tommy Wright who was playing a game in the backseat. With all of this going on Father Wright decided that this was not the right time to take a vacation, so he gathered up all of the family and left the gas station as quickly as he could. When he arrived home, he turned left into the driveway and said "I wish the Wright family had never left the house today! Right?”

STRATEGIES TO SELF-CONTROL 1.Listening: How do we show self-control with listening? Eye-contact Asking for understanding ??? 2.Respect: How do we show self-control with respect? Raise your hand Wait until others are finished speaking Say Excuse Me ???? Example: Some one is constantly talking and you want to say something:. What can you do? 3.Stop-Think-React Situation:  You wake up late for school and your mom is rushing you to hurry up. You find yourself feeling rushed and upset that your mom is yelling at you, when you already know your late You should.....

YOU COULD …………….. Stop:  STOP- (Count 1,2,3,…10)  Breath in and out Think  Self Affirmations: “Its ok, I am late but I can do this, it will be ok, no need to get upset ” React Acknowledge the situation with your mom Try your best to hurry and let your mom know your going as fast as you can (Calmly)

YOU HAVE MASTERED SELF-CONTROL!! Listening Taking turns Stop-Think-React

PRO-SOCIAL U NDERSTANDING THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS LESSON 3 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

WHAT DO YOU SEE?

???? Why is it important to understand body language when speaking to someone?  Making Friends, talking to an adult, a peer in class. What “Cues” will help you understand how someone else is feeling?  Tone of voice, posture and facial expression Try to figure out what the other person might be feeling?  Angry, sad, happy, anxious, etc…

BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS VOLUME? Pantomimes

HOW TO TELL! How can you tell if someone is interested in what you have to say? How do you know when is your turn to speak? How do you know when its your turn to just sit back and listen?

YOUR TURN  Role Play How can you let the other person know you understand what they are feeling?  Nod your head  Keep good eye contact  Touch or don’t touch the person  Get closer or don’t get closer  Stay or walk away  Etc. Decide on what's the best way and do it!

PRO SOCIAL FITTING IN LESSON 4 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

FITTING IN……. Definition: To Belong, To make Plan for it, to make an adjustment for it. 1.How do you know when you fit in to a group? Likeable behaviors and non likeable behaviors. 2. How do you know when peers are accepting of who you are? Accepting behaviors? Body language is important!!!!!! (learned in lesson 4)

WHAT ARE YOU DOING? Attention Seeking Behaviors - Center of Attention Party, Class, Home - Inappropriate Behaviors speaking out of turn making jokes making noises body language being bossy - Appropriate fitting in behaviors: taking turns staying on topic in a conversation appropriate eye contact smiling, body language mimics the others appearance and hygiene You like to make people laugh, when would be a great time to be funny?

HOW DO YOU KNOW? How do you know when your not fitting well with others? - Body Language (ignoring, walking away, looking somewhere else like the clock) - Verbal (changing topics, talking to someone else, insult, making fun of you) Do you continue trying to talk to people who don’t want you to be with them? Yes or no? Why? How do you know when you ARE fitting in? - You feel accepted, peers are looking for you, they respond back too you appropriately)

You got, it! You’re an expert on Body Language!

PRO SOCIAL CONVERSATION TIME!! LESSON 5 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

WHAT IS? What is a conversation? 1.A form of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people who are following rules of etiquette.communicationetiquette 2.What are some “cues” to look for when wanting to talk to some one? 3.What are some “cues” to look for to maintain a conversation?

CONVERSATAIONS Conversation DO'S Look at the person or people you are talking to If you haven’t met before, introduce yourself and ask their name Use a person’s name when talking to them Ask questions when you don’t understand something Stick to the subject Say nice things about people and praise those who deserve it It's fine to disagree, but disagree politely Conversation DONT'S Don't fidget, look elsewhere, or wander off while someone else is talking Don't listen in on conversations you aren‚t part of Don't interrupt when someone else is talking Don't whisper in front of another person Don't whine, tattletale, brag, or say mean things about others Don't ask personal questions such as how much things cost or why someone looks or dresses the way they do Don't point or stare Don't argue about things that aren't important Some Magic Words to Being Polite “Thank You” “Please” “May I?” “Excuse Me”

WHEN AND WHERE? 1.How do you know when it’s a good time to start a conversation? 2.How do you know it is not a good time to start a conversation? 3.Do you talk to adults the same way you talk to your peers? If not, why not? 4.Where are some appropriate places in school to start a conversation?

PRACTICE IT! Activity time Card game Students can learn how to express an action, emotion or idea by interpreting pantomimes. The following activities are suggested with a specific tool or object associated with the activity.

PRO SOCIAL WRAP UP LESSON 6 Celebration Student Survey Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

PRO-SOCIAL GROUP Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

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