Putting Together Your Puzzle Creating Work/Life Balance

Objectives ON THE JOBIN MY PERSONAL LIFE  What gives you job satisfaction?  How do I feel  Physically?  Emotionally?  What makes me happy?  How do I feel  Physically?  Emotionally? What is your dream list?

Goal Setting  Specific – PERSONAL AND WORK  Measurable  Achievable  Realistic  Time line  Short: 0 -1 year  Medium: 1-3 years  Long: 3 years +

Will Power  Will power is active only in 1/6 th of your brain.  5/6 th of your brain power is at the subconscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.  However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.  So, learn to control the subconscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.  This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!

Avoid Procrastination  A 50% average in making good decisions is a good record.  Many people are not good problem solvers, but they are good decision makers.  Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!

Happiness at work and at home  Intent  Accountability  Grass is greener…  Do what you like and do it more  Tragedies  Moving on and upward  Example: lottery winners one year later--many say they are less happy

Happiness  Never give up  Don’t dwell on the past  Embrace change  Embrace fear  What are you afraid of?  What would help you cope better?  Options  Creativity – think outside the box  Appreciation  Mindful living  Giving  Ethics/honesty  Character – who you are when no one is looking

Health  Sleep  8.3 hours  7 nights a week  REM sleep  Eating  5 fruits & veggies  20 minutes after eating  Weigh yourself at least once a week  DRINK WATER

Finances  Goal setting  Nickel and dime spending  Retirement planning  Start now  Meat vs. gravy  Debt management  Family values  Inheriting spending habits

Prioritizing Your Life & Work  Write your eulogy / RETIREMENT SPEECH  Re-evaluate your choices  Examine other people’s priorities  Role-model your priorities  Wear them openly  Shout them from a rooftop

Stress Management  20 minutes every day  Fight or flight responses  Relax your body … exercise  Baths/walk  Pet/plant therapy  DEEP BREATHS  Laughter therapy  Cry  Touch  Crossword puzzles  Learn a new language/musical instrument

Relieving Stress at work and home  Stay ahead of your work.  Do the hard tasks first.  Do the difficult tasks in phases.  Getting enough sleep is a must.  Have planned recreation and hobbies.  Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations.  Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.

Communication  Start with “I”  3 minute rule  Family meetings  Needs vs. wants  “Men are from Venus …..”  Self-talk  At work  Be flexible  Develop a network  Be Genuine  Become a good listener

Assertiveness  Ask for what you want  9 times!  Practice makes perfect  Passive vs. aggressive  Personal vs. business

Quotes  “Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”  “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.”  Nobody can bring you peace but yourself. Erica Jong Helen Keller Ralph Waldo Emerson

Quotes  “Motivation is when your dreams put on work clothes.”  “One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.” Ben Franklin Malcolm S. Forbes