Chapter 1 Love Amber Gilewski Tompkins Cortland Community College

First attachments Hazen & Shaver (1994) researched attachment stylesHazen & Shaver (1994) researched attachment styles Early care-giving styles affected our attachment to our caregiversEarly care-giving styles affected our attachment to our caregivers Adult relationships mimic some of our early attachment stylesAdult relationships mimic some of our early attachment styles In North America, most have secure attachments, followed by avoidant attachment, & lastly anxious attachmentIn North America, most have secure attachments, followed by avoidant attachment, & lastly anxious attachment

Figure 16.7 Infant attachment and romantic relationships

Sternberg’s theory Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love (1988)Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love (1988) PassionPassion IntimacyIntimacy CommitmentCommitment Various combinations of these 3 components can create 7 different subtypes of loveVarious combinations of these 3 components can create 7 different subtypes of love

Types of love LikingLiking Infatuated loveInfatuated love Romantic loveRomantic love Empty loveEmpty love Companionate loveCompanionate love Fatuous loveFatuous love Consummate loveConsummate love

Building close relationships Minding theory of relationshipsMinding theory of relationships Pursuing knowledgePursuing knowledge AcceptanceAcceptance Positive attributionsPositive attributions Must be reciprocal and continuousMust be reciprocal and continuous

Strengthening relationships Making time to talkMaking time to talk Handling conflict constructivelyHandling conflict constructively Show admirationShow admiration Show affectionShow affection Build shared meaningBuild shared meaning Michelangelo effectMichelangelo effect GOTTMAN’S MARRIAGE TIPS 101 GOTTMAN’S MARRIAGE TIPS 101GOTTMAN’S MARRIAGE TIPS 101GOTTMAN’S MARRIAGE TIPS 101