WARM UP O What does conflict mean to you? O What does it feel like to be in a conflict? O What situations feel like conflict to you? O What are some examples of negative results? O What are some examples of positive results?

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GGRESSORS ICTIMS YSTANDERS

VOCABULARY O AGGRESSOR: O A person that provokes a fight O VICTIM: O A person who is physically or verbally attacked O BYSTANDER: O A person who is present, but does not take part in the fight

LOOKING AT CONFLICT IN OUR LIVES

VOCABULARY O VIOLENCE: O A harmful or destructive force O CONFLICT: O A struggle, fight or battle O PREVENTION: O The act of preventing or stopping something

TROUBLE IN THE HALL SCENE 1 Calvin, an eighth grader, and his friend Fatima are talking in the hall when Calvin sees another student, Jim talking to his girlfriend, Naomi. Jim is also an eighth grader and Calvin has seen him talking to Naomi before. Calvin is jealous and angry. He turns to Fatima.

O Calvin: Check it out. O Fatima: Where? What are you talking about? O Calvin: Jim and Naomi. O Fatima: What about Jim and Naomi? They’re just talking. People do that you know. I don’t see what the big deal is. O Calvin: The big deal is that he’s messing with my girlfriend. I see him talking to her all the time. O Fatima: I don’t know,Cal, maybe they’re just talking about school or something.

O Calvin: It doesn’t matter what they’re talking about. Look how close he’s standing to her. Man, he’s practically breathing down her neck. O Fatima: I guess they are standing pretty close. And she sure is laughing a lot. O Calvin: Jim has got to see me standing here. He’s doing this just to get to me. O Fatima: Well, maybe he doesn’t see you. O Calvin: Yeah, well I should go over there and kick his butt anyway. That guy’s got no right moving in on my girlfriend.

QUESTIONS O What is the conflict? O Calvin’s thoughts about the situation. O Who was the bystander? O Fatima O Who was the aggressor? O Calvin O Who was the victim? O Jim O Who would be the problem solver? O Fatima

THINK ABOUT IT! Describe a fictional or nonfictional conflict 1. What was the conflict was about: 2. I saw this conflict: (choose one) O On the TV O At the movies O In a book O At school O Other (describe) 3. The conflict had: (choose one, and describe what happened) O Positive consequences O Negative consequences O Both 4.Name the following: O Aggressor(s) O Victim(s) O Bystander(s) O Problem-solver(s) 5. The negative consequences could have been avoided if:

CONCLUSION O We experience and express conflicts in many ways. O Everyone has conflicts; people are not good or bad because they experience them. O Conflict is a part of life, and sometimes it is a necessary part of life. O The important issue is how you handle conflict. O If we resolve our conflicts by fighting, then conflict becomes something negative. O If we handle it in a positive way, then conflict can help us learn more about ourselves and others.

EXIT TICKET O List two ways to deal with conflicts in a positive manner.

WARM UP O List some violence prevention efforts you know about. O Was it difficult or easy to find out about violence prevention work? O Does the media devote more time to telling you about violence prevention or telling you about violence? (shooting, stabbings, etc.) O Does the media devote more time telling us about the violent kids than telling us about those who are nonviolent?

WHEN CONFLICTS BECOME FIGHTS

TROUBLE IN THE HALL SCENE 2 BACKGROUND: Calvin and Fatima were talking in the hall, when Calvin saw his girlfriend, Naomi, talking to Jim. Calvin suspected that Jim was trying to put the moves on his girlfriend. He became angry and jealous. THE SCENE: Calvin decides to confront Jim and Naomi.

O Calvin: That guy’s got no right moving in on my girlfriend. I’m going after him. O Fatima: Yeah,well, you better do something because he’s going to take your girlfriend away right in front of your face. Besides, all the other kids will think you’re a fool for letting Jim steal Naomi. [Calvin walks over to Jim and Naomi. Fatima follows] O Calvin:{Calvin pokes Jim on the shoulder.] Yo, man, what do you think you’re doing? You better me moving along. O Jim: Hey Calvin, don’t mess with me. I’m just standing here minding my own business, talking to Naomi. O Calvin: When you talk with Naomi, you’re in my business.

O Fatima: [Laughing] Ooh, you tell ’em, Calvin O Naomi: Why don’t you stay out of this, Fatima? O Calvin: I’ve seen you hanging around Naomi like some kind of dog. You’re always following her. You better not be moving in on my girlfriend. O Jim: So what if I am? What are you going to do to stop me? O Calvin: I don’t have to take this from you. O [Calvin pulls out a pocket knife and stabs Jim in the stomach.]

WHAT HAPPENED? O What caused the fight? O What body language was expressed and how? O How did the presence of weapons make things worse? O If the players had known Calvin had a knife, would they have acted differently? O How did the environment contribute to violence?

NEW ENDING Create a new ending to the story! Avoid conflict escalation and fighting! VIOLENCE PREVENTION IS EVERYONE’S RESPONSIBILITY!

QUESTIONS O How do you know you are at risk for violence? O What keeps you safe? O What makes you more likely to experience violence? O How might alcohol or drug use influence a conflict situation?

CONCLUSION O We can take certain steps to resolve our conflicts without fighting. O We know that fighting often leads to more violence.

THINK FIRST MODEL STEP ONE: KEEP COOL

THINK FIRST MODEL STEP TWO: SIZE UP THE SITUATION

THINK FIRST MODEL STEP THREE: THINK IT THROUGH

THINK FIRST MODEL STEP FOUR: DO THE RIGHT THING

ASSIGNMENT CREATE A THINK FIRST MODEL POSTER Include the following: O Name, date, bell O Title O List each step O Draw a picture to illustrate each step O Put a border around your poster O Be creative, neat, colorful

WARM UP FINISH “THINK FIRST MODEL” POSTER O Include the following: O Title O Border O List the 4 steps O A picture to illustrate each step O Name, date, bell STEP 1: KEEP COOL STEP 2: SIZE UP THE SITUATION STEP 3: THINK IT THROUGH STEP 4: DO THE RIGHT THING

THINK FIRST MODEL STEP ONE: KEEP COOL

WHAT IS BELIEF? An opinion or conviction  Confidence  Faith  Trust

THINGS THAT AFFECT OUR ATTITUDES AND BELIEF !  FAMILY  FRIENDS  TV  BOOKS  ADVERTISMENTS  NEWS COVERAGE  MUSIC  TEACHERS

ASSIGNMENT Directions: WITH A PARTNER: Look at your belief card and answer the questions below about the belief. 1. Do you agree or disagree with the statement on the belief card? Why? 2. What does the saying mean? 3. Who would believe this? (list all that apply) O An aggressor O A victim O A bystander O A problem-solver 4. Where do you think the belief comes from? 5. Give a real-life example of when someone might say or believe this. 6. Give an example of when someone did something that would make you question this belief. 7. If someone believed this, then how would that person act?

CONCLUSION Many things affect our attitudes and beliefs- our families, friends, television, books, advertising, news coverage, and music. And what we believe affects what we do. If we hold hostile beliefs, such as “people are basically mean, then we are more likely to act in a hostile way. Therefore, it is important for us to think about our beliefs and try to understand where they come from and why they don’t always hold true.