National School Safety Center Established by Presidential Directive in 1984

School bullying - defined A form of violence that hurts others. A form of violence that hurts others. Directly – Directly – - hitting, tripping, shoving, pinching, excessive tickling. - hitting, tripping, shoving, pinching, excessive tickling. - verbal threats, name calling, racial slurs, insults. - verbal threats, name calling, racial slurs, insults. - demanding money, property, service. - demanding money, property, service. - stabbing, choking, burning, and shooting. - stabbing, choking, burning, and shooting. Indirectly – Indirectly – - rejecting, excluding, isolating. - rejecting, excluding, isolating. - ranking or rating; humiliating. - ranking or rating; humiliating. - manipulating friends and relationships - manipulating friends and relationships - blackmailing, terrorizing, and proposing dangerous dares. - blackmailing, terrorizing, and proposing dangerous dares. - writing hurtful or threatening s and postings on websites. - writing hurtful or threatening s and postings on websites.

Warning signs of bullying Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing clothing or other belongings. Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing clothing or other belongings. Has unexplained cuts, bruises, or scratches. Has unexplained cuts, bruises, or scratches. Has few, if any, friends. Has few, if any, friends. Seems afraid to go to school. Seems afraid to go to school. Decline in grades and school performance. Decline in grades and school performance. Has trouble sleeping. Has trouble sleeping. Complains of physical ailments. Complains of physical ailments. Appears moody and teary. Appears moody and teary. Shows signs of low self-esteem. Shows signs of low self-esteem.

Consequences of school bullying Affects the safety and social well-being of the entire school community. Affects the safety and social well-being of the entire school community. (The Victim - Target) Instills fear and worry in students which ultimately academic performance. (The Victim - Target) Instills fear and worry in students which ultimately academic performance. (The Bully ) Hard habit to break; less likely to be respected or trusted; can result in suspension or expulsion. (The Bully ) Hard habit to break; less likely to be respected or trusted; can result in suspension or expulsion. (The Observer - Bystander) Assumes bullying is acceptible; fears being a target; intervenes for close friends or relatives which can put him/her at risk for being hurt. (The Observer - Bystander) Assumes bullying is acceptible; fears being a target; intervenes for close friends or relatives which can put him/her at risk for being hurt. (The School) Not addressing properly could actually promotes violence – can have reputation as non-caring, irresponsible, and persistently dangerous. Comprimises the School Safety Mission which ultimately endangers the academic mission. (The School) Not addressing properly could actually promotes violence – can have reputation as non-caring, irresponsible, and persistently dangerous. Comprimises the School Safety Mission which ultimately endangers the academic mission.

What can a school community do? Assess Assess Develop Develop Establish Establish Apply Apply Train Train Educate students Educate students Teach parents Teach parents Respond Respond Partner Partner Promote Promote

What can teachers do? Model Model Foster Foster Establish and communicate Establish and communicate Apply Apply Identify and intervene Identify and intervene Manage Manage Teach Teach Respond Respond Refer Refer Align Align Promote Promote Recognize Recognize

What can students do? Target needs to report. Target needs to report. Target needs to avoid time and place. Target needs to avoid time and place. Bully needs to seek help and not escalate that behavior; channel power and leadership towards positive behaviors. Bully needs to seek help and not escalate that behavior; channel power and leadership towards positive behaviors. Bystander can report bullying; develop anti-bullying activities and campaigns; use their social power and personal actions to promote respect. Bystander can report bullying; develop anti-bullying activities and campaigns; use their social power and personal actions to promote respect.

What can parents of children do? At home: At home: - Talk often and listen carefully. - Talk often and listen carefully. - Inquire about school day activities and - Inquire about school day activities and friends. friends. - Teach that bullying is unacceptable. - Teach that bullying is unacceptable. - Set clear expectations. - Set clear expectations. - Be consistent with discipline. - Be consistent with discipline. - Teach and practice basic manners. - Teach and practice basic manners. - Help your child choose TV, music, and video programs. - Help your child choose TV, music, and video programs. With the computer: With the computer: - Keep the computer in a “public” area. - Keep the computer in a “public” area. - Set time limits for usage. - Set time limits for usage. - Check the History. - Check the History. - Check the “Cookies”. - Check the “Cookies”. - Teach Computer Do’s and Don’ts. - Teach Computer Do’s and Don’ts.

What can parents of children do? (continued) At school: At school: - Learn school rules and sanctions. - Learn school rules and sanctions. - Participate in trainings. - Participate in trainings. - Stay in touch with teachers. - Stay in touch with teachers. - Report immediately. - Report immediately. - Accept help. - Accept help. - Be a positive role model. - Be a positive role model.

What can community safety partners do? (Law Enforcement, Business owners, Faith community members, Juvenile Officers, Attorneys,…) Help to inform. Help to inform. Share specific information. Share specific information. Participate in problem-solving. Participate in problem-solving. Offer cultural perspectives. Offer cultural perspectives. Volunteer to mentor. Volunteer to mentor. Collaborate and coordinate. Collaborate and coordinate.

What does a caring adult do when working with a bully? Be prepared to invest time, energy, and care. Be prepared to invest time, energy, and care. Talk with the bully. This is not a group activity. Talk with the bully. This is not a group activity. Validate that there is a bullying problem. Validate that there is a bullying problem. Identify options. Identify options. Refer to appropriate support services. Refer to appropriate support services. Distinguish between teasing and bullying. Distinguish between teasing and bullying.

How can a school community promote an anti-bullying message? Staff meetings Staff meetings PA announcements. PA announcements. School websites. School websites. School mascots and mottos. School mascots and mottos. Student newspapers. Student newspapers. Leadership classes. Leadership classes. Student handbooks, planners, or calendars. Student handbooks, planners, or calendars. Plays and productions. Plays and productions. Marquees or message boards. Marquees or message boards.