The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Sharpen the Saw Synergize Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Think Win-Win Put First Things First Begin with the End in Mind Be Proactive

Habit 1: Be Proactive Be Proactive is the key to unlocking all the other habits I am the force I am the force I am the captain of my life I am the captain of my life I can choose my attitude I can choose my attitude I am responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness I am responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness

Proactive or Reactive… the Choice is Yours Imagine this: Share a can of Coca- Cola and then open it Pressure built up, explode Imagine this: Share a can of Coca- Cola and then open it Pressure built up, explode Imagine if it is only water No fizzing, no bubbling calm, in control Imagine if it is only water No fizzing, no bubbling calm, in control

Proactive vs Reactive Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse Proactive people make choices based on principles/values Proactive people make choices based on principles/values

Activity 1: A Scene You overhear your best friend bad- mouthing you, but then this same friend is sweet-talking to you. What is your response?

Activity 1: A Scene Reactive Choices Tell her off; hit her Tell her off; hit her Go into a deep depression Go into a deep depression Give her a silent treatment Give her a silent treatment Spread rumors about her Spread rumors about her Proactive Choices Forgive her Forgive her Calmly share how you feel Calmly share how you feel Ignore it and give her a second chance Ignore it and give her a second chance

Activity 2: Re-write Reactive Language into Proactive Language Reactive Language I’ll try I’ll try That’s just the way I am That’s just the way I am There’s nothing I can do There’s nothing I can do I have to I have to I can’t I can’t You ruined my day You ruined my day

Activity 2: Re-write Reactive Language into Proactive Language Proactive Language I’ll do it I’ll do it I can do better than that I can do better than that Let’s look at all our options Let’s look at all our options I choose to I choose to There’s gotta be a way There’s gotta be a way I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

The Victimitis Virus Have you ever heard this in a basketball court? I would be starting, but the coaches have something against me. I would be starting, but the coaches have something against me. I was about to shoot the ball, but somebody cut me off. I was about to shoot the ball, but somebody cut me off. I would have got a better score but my shoes came loose. I would have got a better score but my shoes came loose.

The Victimitis Virus Have you ever heard this in a basketball court? I would be starting, but the coaches have something against me. I would be starting, but the coaches have something against me. I was about to shoot the ball, but somebody cut me off. I was about to shoot the ball, but somebody cut me off. I would have got a better score but my shoes came loose. I would have got a better score but my shoes came loose.

Reactive people feeling like victims They are easily offended They are easily offended The blame others The blame others The get angry and say things they later regret The get angry and say things they later regret

Proactive people are a different breed They are NOT easily offended They are NOT easily offended They take responsibility for their choices They take responsibility for their choices They think before act They think before act They always find a way to make things happen They always find a way to make things happen They focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they cannot. They focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they cannot.

The Tortoise and The Hare

Circle of Control Vs Circle of No Control

Turn Setbacks into Triumphs Stanley Cheung Stanley Cheung Nick Vujicic Nick Vujicic

See your setbacks as opportunities to grow

Reflection Identify something in your circle of no control that you are always worrying about. Share with your teacher.