OBEDIENCE vs RESPONSIBILITY Union Elementary Kathy Sanders Title I ILT

Jeanne & Johnny ObedienceResponsible

Obedience vs. Responsibility Obedience: the child is expected to do what he/she is told. The decision and motivation come from outside the child. Responsibility: Involves the child’s acceptance of the task and motivation for finishing the job.

Components of Responsibility Understanding a task (Make sure you are clear in what is expected) Acceptance of the task (need to be clear of if this is a choice) Ability to motivate (needs to shift from external to internal)

3 Things Parents Can Do to Help their Children become Responsible Teach your child the ability to make decisions Teach your child the ability to make decisions Teach your child to problem solve Teach your child to problem solve Let them experience consequences Let them experience consequences

Responsible Students are Self-Motivated Shift from External to Internal motivation Shift from External to Internal motivation Introduce long term goals Introduce long term goals Believe in the goal Believe in the goal Divide task into small steps Divide task into small steps

“The best predictor of personal and professional success is the parents’ wisdom in guiding the development of those talents. Help Your Child Develop Special Talents Help Your Child Develop Special Talents Dreams are motivating Dreams are motivating Encourage your child to become self-disciplined Encourage your child to become self-disciplined Encourage a talent but not force Encourage a talent but not force Children 10 yrs. and younger need parents to help them practice & study Children 10 yrs. and younger need parents to help them practice & study Provide appropriate rewards Provide appropriate rewards

Nurture Your Child’s Desire to Learn Nurture Your Child’s Desire to Learn Create a Home with Standards Create a Home with Standards Regular routines Regular routines Regular Conversations Regular Conversations Family Meetings Family Meetings Discuss values and solve problems Discuss values and solve problems Share successes Share successes You are the Model You are the Model Be a model learner  Show your Child that Learning Can be Fun  Stay Involved in Your Child’s School

Habits of Highly Responsible Students! 1. They set Goals! 2. They plan their time! 3. They study every day! 4. They are prepared! (Have tools they need) 5. They keep their commitments! 6. They are self-discipline!

The Secrets of Success 5 Steps to Help Accomplish Nearly Anything 5 Steps to Help Accomplish Nearly Anything 1.Make a conscious decision to do something -- 25% 1.Make a conscious decision to do something -- 25% 2. Decide when they will be done--40% 2. Decide when they will be done--40% 3. Plan--50% 3. Plan--50% 4. Commit & tell Someone--65% 4. Commit & tell Someone--65% 5. Set a Goal (short- term)--95% 5. Set a Goal (short- term)--95%

Results of Conferences Identify an area that needs improvement! Identify an area that needs improvement! See Handouts See Handouts

21 Days Experts say that if we repeat an action every day for just 21 days, it is likely to become automatic! Experts say that if we repeat an action every day for just 21 days, it is likely to become automatic!

I Can is More Important than IQ Visualize Success Visualize Success Read About Successful People Read About Successful People Encourage to “do their best” Encourage to “do their best”

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