1 Managing Conflict

2 The Scoutmaster

3 Managing Conflict Finding common ground Tools for people to settle their own disputes Stepping in to make unilateral decisions

4 Exercise Strategies Point of the exercise

5 Possible Strategies Bribery Concern Persuasion Interest Straightforwardness

6 Ultimately… You can only empower yourself You can encourage others to act

7 Be aware of yourself Look at yourself Resolve your conflict

8 Be Aware of Others “When are people most likely to do what you ask them to do, especially if it is something they are less than excited about?”

9 Trustworthy Reliable Making decisions for the good of the group Care about them When the group finds you

10 Listening to Learn Active Empathetic

11 Cooperative Resolutions INVOLVEMENT

12 The Most Important Question What do you want?

13 Most Important Follow-Up Questions What are you willing to do to get what you want? Is what you are doing working? Do you want to figure out another way?

14 Questions for Cooperative Conflict Resolution 1.What do you want? 2.What are you doing to get it? 3.Is it working? 4.Do you want to figure out another way?

15 Effective Communiction In Conflict Situations What do you want?

16 Managing Your Emotions Step away from emotional responses Slow breathing Step away -- give it space and time Regain objectivity Work on issues in present/future NOT PAST

17 Negotiating Limits and Rules Know limits -- and respect them Group determines limits

18 Cooperative Approach Engage everyone on an equal basis Help them come up with a solution on their own 1.What do you want? 2.What are you doing to get it? 3.Is it working? 4.Do you want to figure out another way?

19 Proscriptive Approach If cooperation fails: - Proscriptive conflict resolution

20 Statements for Proscriptive Conflict Resolution 1.This is what I want. 2.This is what I understand you are doing. 3.This why that isn’t working for me. 4.Here is what I need you to do.

21 Stepping in… Trust Reliability History of good decisions for the group Caring Based on established…

22 Contract Between Leaders & Those Led My Job Is To do all I can to ensure your safety Your Job Is Top tell me when you don’t feel safe

23 Ideas Not Often Shared If I’m doing something that bothers you, I’d like you to tell me in a respectful way. How will it be if we really get along? What will that be like? If I see you’re having a problem, what do you want me to do?

24 Conclusion