Developing Emotional Intelligence Chapter Eight

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 2 Developing Emotional Intelligence

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 3 Emotional Intelligence, Journal 27 Focus Questions –What is emotional intelligence? –How can you use your emotions as a compass to stay on course to a rich, fulfilling life?

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 4 Emotional Intelligence describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. It is a relatively new area of psychological research. The definition of EI is constantly changing. Daniel Goleman, is the leading psychologist that has identified four components that contribute to emotional effectiveness.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 5 Components of Emotional Intelligence Emotional Self-Awareness: Knowing your feelings in the moment. Emotional Self-Management: Managing strong feelings. Social Awareness: Empathizing accurately with other people’s emotions. Relationship Management: Handling emotions in relationships with skill and harmony.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 6 Right Now I Feel 1.Right now I feel… 2.I feel angry when… 3.I feel sad when… 4.I feel afraid when… 5.Right now I feel… 6.I feel calm when… 7.I feel peaceful when… 8.I feel contented when… 9.Right now I feel… 10.I feel loved when… 11.I feel happy when… 12.I feel joyful when… 13.Right now I feel…

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 7 Knowing your own Emotions Build a vocabulary of feelings. Be mindful of emotions as they are happening. Understand what is causing your emotion. Recognize the difference between a feeling and resulting actions.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 8 Reducing Stress, Journal 28 Focus Question –How can you soothe stressful feelings that make life unpleasant and threaten to get you off course?

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 9 What is Stress? It is any interference that disturbs a person’s mental or physical well-being. Most of us simply know that it’s the wear and tear that our minds and bodies experience as we attempt to cope with the changes and challenges of life.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 10 Stress in Modern Life Focuses mostly on: Worrying about past events Agonizing about present challenges Fretting about future changes

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 11 Creating Flow, Journal 29 Focus Questions –What are you doing when you feel most happy to be alive—when you become so absorbed that time seems to disappear? –How can you create more of these peak experiences in your life?

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 12 Creating Flow Flow states – are highly enjoyable periods of time, characterized by a total absorption in what one is doing, by a loss of thoughts or concerns about oneself, and by a distorted sense of time.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 13 Two Factors that contribute to Flow The challenge a person perceives himself to be facing and The related skills he perceives himself to possess.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 14 Develop Self-Love, Journal 30 Focus Questions –How much do you love yourself? –What can you do to love yourself even more?

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 15 Self Love Is the core belief that “ I AM LOVABLE” It’s the unwavering trust that, no matter what, I will always love myself and other people will love me as well. Self-love is vital to success.

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 8 | 16 Creating a Self-Care Plan 1.I can nurture myself physically by… 2.I can nurture myself mentally by… 3.I can nurture myself emotionally by… 4.I can nurture myself spiritually by…