Psycho-Social Health Definitions: Not just the absence of disease but.... (you finish this definition)

Keys to Successful Change Self-efficacy: believe you can obtain a goal Reinforcement: positive or negative Self-talk: messages you send yourself Locus of Control

Internal: from within self External: from others/environment

Healthy Self-Esteem Grounded in the positive experiences of love received in childhood. Originally built on characteristics adopted from parents. Healthy self-esteem is integrated.

Healthy Family Open communication Supportive and flexible Teaches (discipline) and respects Sense of play and humor Honor traditions and rituals Share responsibilities Seek help if needed Respect privacy

Unhealthy Family Closed communication, secrets Strict and rigid, controlling Unpredictable Untrusting Unsafe to express feelings Unclear roles Constant conflict or no conflict

Healthy vs Unhealthy Families Open Communication Supportive, Flexible Teaches Discipline Respectful Sense of Play, Humor Shared Responsibilities Seek Help if Needed Respect for Differences/Privacy Closed Communications, Secrets Strict, Rigid, Controlling Demands, Punishes Disrespectful Unpredictable, Unclear Rules Untrusting Unclear Rules, Confusion Constant Conflict or No Conflict

Impact of Healthy vs Healthy Families? On society? On the individual?

Impact?: Healthy/Unhealthy HEALTHYUNHEALTHY TRUST IS ESTABLISHEDINABILITY TO TRUST EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS ACCEPTEDDON’T SHARE FEELINGS ENVIRONMENT IS SAFEENVIRONMENT IS UNSAFE LEARN TO PLAY/HAVE FUNFEELINGS OF INADEQUACY ENJOYS TIME AT HOMEESCAPES (FANTASY OR REAL) DEVELOPS PROBLEM-SOLVINGFEELINGS OF INADEQUACY ABILITIESEMOTIONAL PAIN SHAME AND DOUBT GUILT, ANGER, FEAR LONELINESS, CONFUSION

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs SELF ACTUALIZA TION ESTEEM NEEDS LOVE AND AFFECTION SAFETY AND SECURITY PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS

Psycho-Socially Healthy People are realistic accept themselves are free and autonomous have capacity for intimacy live lives in creative ways

Challenges to Esteem Need Can choose to: – acknowledge something went wrong and can start again – deny anything went wrong and blame someone else – develop a lasting negative self-esteem and feel bad, unloved and ineffective

Road to Good Psycho-Social Health Maintain honest communication Be assertive Be flexible deal with anger appropriately dump the GARBAGE

Dumping the GARBAGE G guilt A anger R revenge B bitterness A aggression G greed E envy

Basic Rules by Which to Live Accept yourself Respect yourself Trust yourself Love yourself Stretch yourself Look at challenges as opportunities for personal growth Think not of where but who you want to be