INTRO-PRO SOCIAL SKILLS GROUP LESSON 1

PROBLEM-SOLVING Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

WHAT IS A DPR CARD? Period Totals Goal 1 I followed the classroom expectations (3 B’s) Goal 2 I participated appropriately in class today (raising hand to answer, on task, app. tone/voice, etc) Goal 3 I demonstrated appropriate interactions with teachers/peers (asked for help, eye contact, app. body lang., etc Totals /6 /6 /6 /6 /6 /6 /6 /6 /6 /54 Teacher Initials -Problem Solving DPR PARENT SIGNATURE:______________________________ To be returned daily. NAME : DATE:____/___/______

DPR CARD CONT’D AM: Check in with your Homeroom Teacher Get your DPR Card Hand in your signed DPR from the night before Bring DPR Card to each period Give to teacher as you enter class Discuss your progress at the end of the class with the teacher PM: Check out at 2:10 in the LMC Bell rings at 2:10 to leave class Go to LMC to YOUR Advisor Bring DPR Card home to share with parents & get signed Goal is 80% average for 4 weeks

TOWER GAME Purpose: To have students work together and see what social peer interactions skills they use to work together. Materials : Index cards Directions : Break students into equal groups. Give each group a stack of index cards Tell the groups that they are working together to build the tallest tower out of index cards.

DISCUSSION How did you get started? How did you decide on the design? Was it easy to get started? Did your team agree right away on the plan? Notes: Facilitator should look for the social skills peers are using with another, such as: Observe group dynamics – Who takes charge? Is there discussion or does one person take over? Any positive or negative comments being said? **You may want to take some notes on your observations so that you can refer back to what you saw.

PRO- SOCIAL SELF CONTROL LESSON 2

PROBLEM-SOLVING Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

LESSON FOR TODAY What is Self Control? Examples of non self control behaviors are: shouting out making sounds fighting giggling shutting down avoidance eating too much or not at all Definition : The ability to demonstrate control over one’s emotions and reactions.

WHY DO PEOPLE LOSE CONTROL?  Sick  Tired  Sleepy  Heard bad news  Got into trouble  Experienced some sort of loss  Home troubles

HOW DO YOU KNOW? How do you know when your about to loose control? Physical changes  Tense, hot, sweaty, fidgety and red color Emotional Changes  Sad, Bad Mood, Upset, Sarcasm, Joking, feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious Mental Changes  Negative thoughts, Racing Thoughts, Worry

PUT ON YOUR THINKING CAPS! Questions: 1. What would school, home and your community look like if no one had self control? (think of your relationships with your parents, teachers, peers) 2. Do you think its important to have self control?

HOW ???? 3. What can you do to ensure you don’t lose self control?  For example: A teacher tells you something, and you really didn’t hear what the teacher said, but all you hear is noise around you.  What can you do? A: Ask the teacher to repeat him/her self  A lot of times, misunderstandings occur because we don’t hear correctly or we don’t listen to what is being said.

FUN ACTIVITY TIME Story time: Pass Right/Pass Left From the book: Activities that teach

ITS NOT ALWAYS EASY! You’ve already mastered one skill: Listening….YEA! Why you should show respect, even if you feel its not being returned? Example: Some one is constantly talking and you want to say something: What can you do? Raise your hand Wait till their done to speak Say Excuse Me Demonstrating these respectful taking turns skills, will not only help you keep cool, but will show the other person you above them.

ONE MORE SKILL!!! Wow, 2 skills down Listening & Taking Turns, one more!!!! STOP, THINK and REACT!!!!! Situation:  You wake up late for school and your mom is rushing you to hurry up. You find yourself feeling rushed and upset that your mom is yelling at you, when you already know your late You should?.....

YOU COULD …………….. Stop:  STOP- (Count 1,2,3,…10)  Breath in and out Think  Self Affirmations: “Its ok, I am late but I can do this, it will be ok, no need to get upset” React Acknowledge the situation with your mom Try your best to hurry and let your mom know your going as fast as you can (Calmly)

PRO-SOCIAL UNDERSTANDING THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS LESSON 3

PROBLEM-SOLVING Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

WHAT DO YOU SEE?

? Why is it important to understand body language when speaking to someone?  Making Friends, talking to an adult, a peer in class. What “Cues” will help you understand how someone else is feeling?  Tone of voice, posture and facial expression Try to figure out what the other person might be feeling?  Angry, sad, happy, anxious, etc …

BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS VOLUME?

HOW TO TELL! How can you tell if someone is interested in what you have to say? How do you know when is your turn to speak? How do you know when its your turn to just sit back and listen?

YOUR TURN  Role Play How can you let the other person know you understand what they are feeling?  Nod your head  Keep good eye contact  Touch or don’t touch the person  Get closer or don’t get closer  Stay or walk away  Etc.  Decide on what's the best way and do it!

FITTING IN LESSON 4

PROBLEM-SOLVING Expectations 1.Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up 2.Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. 3.Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

FITTING IN……. Definition: To Belong, To make Plan for it, to make an adjustment for it. 1.How do you know when you fit in to a group? Likeable behaviors and non likeable behaviors. 2. How do you know when peers are accepting of who you are? Accepting behaviors? Body language is important!!!!!! (learned in lesson 4)

ACTIVITY TIME Worksheet and Scenarios! “Bomb Activity”

WHAT ARE YOU DOING? Attention Seeking Behaviors - Center of Attention Party, Class, Home - Inappropriate Behaviors speaking out of turn making jokes making noises body language - Appropriate fitting in behaviors: taking turns staying on topic in a conversation appropriate eye contact smiling, body language mimics the others appearance and hygiene -You like to make people laugh, when would be a great time to be funny?

HOW DO YOU KNOW? How do you know when your not fitting well with others? - Body Language (ignoring, walking away, looking somewhere else like the clock) - Verbal (changing topics, talking to someone else, insult, making fun of you) Do you continue trying to talk to people who don’t want you to be with them? Yes or no? Why? How do you know when you ARE fitting in? - You feel accepted, peers are looking for you, they respond back too you appropriately)

You got, it! You’re an expert on Body Language!

CONVERSATION TIME!!! PRO SOCIAL SKILLS LESSON 5

WHAT IS? What is a conversation? 1.Is a form of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people who are following rules of etiquette.communication etiquette 2.What are some “cues” to look for when wanting to talk to some one? 3.What are some “cues” to look for to maintain a conversation?

WHEN AND WHERE? 1.How do you know when it’s a good time to start a conversation? 2.How do you know it is not a good time to start a conversation? 3.Do you talk to adults the same way you talk to your peers? If not, why not? 4.Where are some appropriate places in school to start a conversation?

PRACTICE IT! Activity time Card game

PRO-SOCIAL SKILLS WRAP UP LESSON 6 Celebration Student Survey