Parenting and Education; Getting the Balance Right Paul Gilligan, June 2015 www.StPatricks.ie.

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Parenting and Education; Getting the Balance Right Paul Gilligan, June

What is Education

My own school experience Write on two pieces of paper two positive memories you have of your time in school. Write on two pieces of paper two negative memories you have of your time in school.

Education –The Key Players Parent/s Our Child Teacher/s Friends Siblings

Our Role as Parents Teaching our child how to feel good about themselves, self-belief Learning to believe in something greater than themselves Reminding them that they are loved and are lovable Supporting them to spend time feeling good Helping them to learn positive self-discipline Listening and communicating BUILDING STRONG SELF-ESTEEM Teaching our child how to be happy Realising their Individualism getting to know their emotional and psychological selves Developing their ability to recognise and deal with emotions Shaping their thinking and behaviour Connecting with our Inner Parent-the love we have for our child and our natural ability to parent Ensuring our child’s environment is emotionally healthy and safe LOOKING AFTER OUR OWN EMOTIONAL AND PAENTING HEALTH

Our Child and Teacher’s Role ChildTeacher To learn academically to the best of their capacity To learn to socialise To open up their thinking to new things To enjoy themselves To teach To create a safe, nurturing environment.

Connecting with our Inner Parent Loving our child unconditionally Valuing the uniqueness of our child Believing in our natural parenting ability Knowing and understanding ourselves as parents, why we became parents, how we see ourselves Exploring and resolving our belief systems about our child. The impact of our own childhood and our parenting experience. Ability to develop and grow

Teaching our child how to be happy : Accepting that they are unique with their own unique personality Nurturing their self-expression and personal characteristics and giving them the freedom to “be themselves”. Avoiding comparisons and conformity. Self-reflection: Spending time reflecting on and thinking about their own actions, statements and feelings. Looking for and seeing the best in themselves and what they do. even when they make mistakes, or do things that they regret, realising that the totality of who they are is good and special. Talking: Talking about themselves and their interactions with others with those they trust. Understanding and dealing with feelings: Teaching them how to understand their feelings and to express them in appropriate, constructive ways. Celebrating their Strengths: Developing an insight and acknowledging what they are genuinely good at and being accepting of their weaknesses. Teaching how to reframe: Seeing the positives in what they do and how they handle situations, even difficult ones. Practicing turning negative into positives. Teaching and practicing problem solving skills: Exploring possible solutions to problems and picking the best option. Rewarding them for thinking and acting positively Actively modeling the skills of positive action and thinking: making a conscious effort to smile, laugh, see the good in things, making positive statements, telling other people nice things, hearing nice things people say about us Nurturing their values

Feeling Good about themselves: self-belief Building positive self-esteem which is essential to emotional well-being and involves hard work and insight. All of us have experiences that serve to make us feel negative about ourselves and equally we all have experiences that make us feel positive. However most everyday experiences can be interpreted positively if we have the willingness and ability to do this. Teaching and modelling self-discipline which plays an important part in us feeling good about ourselves. Knowing that we can trust ourselves makes us feel more secure and confident. Self- discipline involves us trying our best to live to the rules and standards that we have set for ourselves. Helping them to have spiritual or philosophical beliefs Teaching and modelling listening and communication skills. Supporting them to treat themselves well.

Creating a mentally healthy environment for our child Making sure they feel safe at home, in school, and in all they do Protecting their physical and emotional safety Nurturing their physical health-diet, exercise, sleep Supporting them to value and respect themselves Arming them with the skills to identify and cope with danger and risk Keeping risk in perspective

Specific Risks Bullying and Cyber Bullying Alcohol and Drug Usage Internet Risks-Social Media and on-line Games

My own school experience continued Discuss one memory with the person beside you Put one memory in your pocket for safe keeping Throw away the other two memories into the buckets

Role with the School Choose the school wisely Build appropriate/constructive relationships with school staff Be Vigilant

Role with Siblings Teach Mutual Respect Encourage and model positive family communication Nurture problem solving skills Reinforce family awareness, introspection and emotional intelligence

Role with Friends Guide and Support through the Friendship Process Accepting those they chose as their friends Teaching them how friends treat each other Help them resolve difficulties Support them when relationships break down Only intervene directly if absolutely necessary

Getting The Balance Right Over Involved Under Involved Too much communication Too Little Communication Expectations too high Expectations too low

1|3 + EMH= Children spend approximately one third of their childhoods in school. This has a major impact on their emotional well being and development. It impacts on how they view themselves socially and intellectually, and whether they believe they are clever, good at achieving things and popular. It teaches them how to get on with others, how to work and how to compete. School plays a key role in promoting and enhancing our child's emotional health. Academic achievement is secondary to this as without emotional health academic achievement becomes irrelevant.

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