Love Chapter 5

Love Styles Ludus Pragma Eros Views love as a game, refuses to become dependent, and does not encourage another’s intimacy. Pragma The love of the pragmatic, who is logical and rational. Eros A love style of passion and romance.

Love Styles Mania Storge Agape The person with mania love style feels intense emotion and sexual passion but is out of control. Storge A calm, soothing, nonsexual love devoid of intense passion. Agape A love style that is selfless and giving.

Romantic vs. Realistic Love Romantic Love: Characterized by such beliefs as love at first sight, there is only one true love, and love conquers all. Symptoms of romantic love include drastic mood swings, palpitations of the heart, and intrusive thoughts about the partner. Realistic Love: Also known as conjugal love. Conjugal (married) love is less emotional, passionate, and exciting than romantic love and is characterized by companionship, calmness, comfort, and security.

Social Control of Love Arranged Marriages Race Same sex attraction How do parents and peers influence mate selection?

Is a little bit of jealousy in a relationship a good thing? Why do people feel jealous? Are women or men more jealous? Do they experience jealousy differently?

Jealousy Definition Types of Jealousy Reactive An emotional response to a perceived or real threat to an important or valued relationship Reactive Anxious Possessive

What are Good and Bad Consequences of Jealousy Desirable consequences Undesirable consequences Make individual miserable Cause a negative evaluation in the relationship experience Attacks can cause partner to end relationship Lead to stalking or violence. Signify that partner is cared for Learn that development of other romantic and sexual relationships is unacceptable Assess partners commitment

Cultural Aspects of Mate Selection Fewer than 5% of persons marry someone outside their race. Independent of sexual orientation, two forms of cultural pressure operative in mate selection are: Endogamy - Expectation to marry within one’s social group. Exogamy - Expectation to marry outside one’s own family group.

Sociological Factors Operative in Mate Selection The homogamy theory of mate selection states that we tend to be attracted to and become involved with those who are similar to us in age, race, religion, and social class. The more couples have in common, the higher the reported relationship satisfaction and the more durable the relationship.

Psychological Factors Operative in Mate Selection Complementary-Needs Theory Exchange Theory Parental Characteristics

The Marriage Market People enter the marriage market and bargain for the best “buy” they can get. The resources individuals take with them to this “market” are their personal and social characteristics. Relationships form and continue based upon rewards and costs they provide to each partner. Which theory is this based off of?

Filter Theory According to filter theory, we sift eligible people according to specific criteria and thus narrow the pool of potential partners to a small number of candidates.

The principle of least interest- The partner that is least interested in relationship has more power, more control Less dependence, less interest in maintaining relationship=more control Conversely, the dependent partner is more easily manipulated and controlled