Coach Michele’s Group Coaching Oct 12, 2011

2Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Today’s Topic Techniques: Techniques – Top Ten Things NOT To Do In a Coaching Call

3Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 How to Participate If you’d like to participate in the call, please press 5* If you’d like to just listen, don’t press 5* If you change your mind, you can always press 5* again to change your status If you’d like to follow along with things, there is a PowerPoint available in the client area

4Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Opening Q’s Before we start, I’d like to open the call to questions…It can be a follow up to last week, a success or personal development question, a question about your own life, a question about coaching, a comment or observation, or anything at all!

5Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Introduction On our techniques calls, we’ve talked a lot about things to do…Tonight we are going to talk about things NOT to do!

6Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 How this will work We will go through each of the ten items, in no particular order, I’ll explain what it means and how it would work (not work!) in coaching scenarios, and we’ll have a discussion for each one.

7Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Listen Only at the Surface There is what the client is saying on the surface, and what they are really saying. Yes, you want to listen to what’s on the surface, but usually it’s your job to hear more.

8Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 “Make” Them Feel Better Automatically trying to get your client to feel better, can easily become a push away from what is real and what the client needs to be present with

9Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Mindless Cheerleading There is a difference between really believing in someone, and being a cheerleader

10Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Fix Problems For Them Providing all the answers may not be of any true help at all

11Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Ignore Your Own Emotions You are human, and you are going to have emotional responses. Some will be about the client, some will be about yourself. None should be stuffed!

12Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Ignore Your Intuition Your intuition is one of the most valuable things you bring to a coaching call. Just like in life, it is oh, so regrettable when you realize later you neglected to “hear” and honor that little voice

13Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Be Too Polite You are not there to be liked or coddle your client.

14Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Give Negative “Reality Checks” You can be real, without being negative and without limiting possibilities

15Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Make Something About You Personal stories and references are almost always for you, not the client

16Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Try to “Coach Right” Forget about trying to do it right, or trying not to do any of these ten things!

17Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Final Thoughts Any final thoughts? How will you use this information?

18Copyright (c) Michele Caron, 2011 Next Call Next call is a mastery call Wednesday the 19 th at 7 pm