LIFEOLOGY Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner

What is Your Dream ?

Lettuce or Salad?

Life is a Question… That Only Has a Spiritual Answer

3 Big Questions: Who am I? Design What do I want? What matters? Desire Drive

WORK LOVE PLAY Personal Interests Make a difference Relationships What we want: Fulfillment Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner

Am I a Slugbot? Am I a Slug?

Do you want to get off?

PROBLEM: Life cannot be scheduled Trying to balance leads to more anxiety. Balance is not fulfillment. “If I schedule time with my children, my spouse and at the gym, I will feel balanced.” I Can Manage My Time Better and Find Fulfillment. 1 st Catastrophic Error

I Can Achieve My Way to Fulfillment. 2 nd Catastrophic Error PROBLEM: Salt water will not quench your thirst. “If I do what I should…” 1.I will be acceptable, loveable, appreciated. 2.My life will turn out the way I need it to. 3.I will feel fulfilled…insecure, confident, perfectionist.

Magical Thinking will Make Me Happy. 3 rd Catastrophic Error PROBLEM: Self deception can lead to a counterfeit calling. “If I follow my heart, live my dream, find my bliss… I will be fulfilled.”

Swim or Surf

Lifeology: Fulfilling Your Life’s Purpose To Fulfill Your Unique Design. To Do Your Unique Work. To Live in Life Integrity.

The Truth How fast are you moving?

Marriages are good and bad. Jobs are satisfying and dissatisfying. There is more than one right way. The truth is always more than we know. We can be happy no matter what. Both + And is Reality

Life is an Epic Journey

Beyond Work/Life Balance Life Integrity INNER Design Drive Desire OUTER Relationships Lifestyle Career

What if you were perfectly designed to live your dream?

IncompetenceCapabilitySkill Design Failure Mediocrity Success Dream Life Avoidance Willingness Interest Desire GTV Our dreams are discovered when our Design and Desires meet.

WHO AM I? What am I? I am not my body… I am not my emotions… I am not my thoughts… I am not my roles…

Pleasure Success Meaning Design: Traits & Talents Our Super Theory Determines Our Identity Achievement, Job, Thoughts Tribes Body, Emotions, Traumas 55% 35% 10%

WHO AM I? Design Traits Talents Track Record

Who Am I? Traits Enduring Strengths How You Experience Reality How You Want to Offer Value

WHO AM I? INNATE TRAITS Creativity Curiosity Open-mindedness Love of Learning Perspective Bravery Persistence Integrity Vitality Love Kindness Social Intelligence Citizenship Fairness Leadership Forgiveness & Mercy Humility/Modesty Prudence Self-regulation Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence Gratitude Hope Humor Spirituality

Who am I? Talents: 3 Clues Compliments Energy, Effort, Ease Desire for Mastery

Discovering Your Talents What do you most value about me? What would you like me to do more of? What would you like me to do less of?

Identity Integrity Decisions Values Thoughts Results Actions Just Who Do You Think You Are?

What do I want? What does my soul desire?

We are clear on what we don’t want. 1.Illness 2.Poverty 3.Loneliness 4.Boredom 5.Powerlessness 6.Meaninglessness Disaster Movie or Hero’s Journey?

One Life, Now 1. Life Alignment 2. Life Autonomy 3. Life Achievement

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Desire Deepest longings. Choice if no one cared. Energy gain. Lifestyle, Relationships, Career

Intuitive | Practical | Analytical How We Think

Positive Emotions, Passionate Engagement, Personal Meaning Where You Live | How You Live | Why You Live Lifestyle

Evolution of Work Value Process Worker (Labor) Knowledge Worker (Facts) Creative Work (Ideas) Wisdom Work (Judgment) CAREER

Future Proof Your Life: Stand Out, Don’t Fit In Become an Expert with High Emotional Intelligence Design & Drive is What Counts

So How Great Do You Want To Be? Source: Paul Arden GoodQuite GoodVery Good The Best in Your Field. The Best in the World.

Be Unique. Don’t Compete You already are. Just turn up the volume. The World Still Needs Cowboys

Without Love there is no happiness. With Love there is no emptiness. Relationships are the source of all human meaning. Relationships

Love requires both Intimacy and Commitment.

Romance TOUCH THOUGHTFULNESS TIME

All Feelings Decay into a Concept Intrinsic: You are uniquely loveable. Practical: Are you meeting my needs? Analytical: Are you doing what you are supposed to?

Insecure, Undermining Aggressive, Bargaining Active Advocacy Pleasure Goals Integrity The Quality of Our Relationships Comes from Our Super Theory Demands/Threats Passive Design: Traits & Talents Achievement, Job, Thoughts Body, Emotions, Traumas

REAL Love Understand 2. Affirm 3. Involve + + Intrinsic Practical Systemic

Our Drive is Our Message Love or Fear

Drive: Prime Motive Gain Grow Give Grow Gain

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What can I do? “I can’t do everything, but I can do something. I will not let the things I cannot do prevent me from doing the things I can.” * Helen Keller Paraphrased

What does my Soul Desire? Do want Don’t want Work Family Friends Romantic partner Health Passionate interests Service Legacy

Soul Reflection 1. Unplug, Ask, Listen 2. Read, Discuss 3. Become Conscious

Matterhorn or Splatterhorn

Your Dream Matters