Relationship Smarts LOVE U 2 Session 2 Attractions & Infatuation

Overview To prepare you with “relationship smarts” as you enter the dating scene To introduce the idea that good relationships

What’s RQ??? Have you heard of IQ? Intelligence Quotient – measure of “learned intelligence” not innate intelligence RQ = Relationship Intelligence Not something you are born with

Test Your RQ True/False Quiz

Dating Pyramid Nobody sets out to have a ROTTEN relationship What are the key ingredients to a “great relationship”? Great marriage? Jot down your thoughts on scratch paper Using the dating pyramid we are going to build a relationship Relationships have to start and then develop

The Dating Pyramid Pyramid is made up of 3 layers You need to start a relationship with a foundation –What ingredients would you need in the foundation? The second layer is deepening and devleloping of the relationship –What words could represent this layer? The third layer is the mature stage –What ingredients go in this layer?

The Dating Pyramid Foundation –Communication Deepening/Developing –Trust, respect, reliance, physical affection, honesty Mature –Sexual intimacy (WHEN MARRIED!!)

The Inverted Dating Pyramid Sexual Relationship Deepening/Developing »Foundation

Infatuation When first attracted to someone, what kinds of feelings does one have?? Infatuation – possessed by unreasoning passion or attraction. Lacking sound judgement. Infatuation – early feelings of attraction Feelings of attraction are not only very real, but powerful, exciting, and among the most pleasant sensations we can have.

IN UATION FAT In the beginning…. Heart is fat with fascination for a person You fall in love with the image/idea of who this person is We shouldn’t fully trust these impressions, yet! Infatuation is “me” oriented What letter does “infatuation” begin with? Infatuation is about your feelings!

Infatuation Just getting used to the idea of “love” Advice: Enjoy the early feelings of infatuation, but don’t read too much into these early, exciting, and pleasant feelings. It is only with the passage of time that one might grow into love.

Love & Infatuation Card Activity Infatuation can be a step on the road to the real thing (love), but not necessarily. This activity will help you look more deeply at the differences between infatuation and the real thing (love).