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Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership by EQUIP Ministries founded by John Maxwell 1 Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership We hide behind theology. It’s true. Leadership disasters and church diversion happen every week, while pastors hide behind ‘smoke screens’ like, “Well, we just couldn’t agree on things theologically” or “I struggled with Brother Jones’ view on spiritual gifts.” The fact of the matter is, the real reason for the majority of unresolved problems within a church is the personal insecurity of the pastor. He wasn’t healthy emotionally. He failed to confront a situation. He lacked moral backbone. He withdrew from a leadership function that produced question marks in the minds of the congregation. He didn’t have the infrastructure inside to stand up when he wasn’t liked. Sound familiar? Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership The Facts of the Matter… Seminaries cannot teach a leader to possess personal security and identity. Many of them fail to even address the issue. I suppose they assume those issues are already resolved in the hearts of the men and women who enter the program. But they are not. Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 1.____of pastors surveyed said their self-image is lower now than when they entered the ministry. 2.____of pastors reported that they feel inadequate for the tasks before them. 3.____of pastors say they don’t have the leadership gifts to perform in the way their congregations expect them to perform. 4.____of pastors responded anonymously that they are intimidated by the lay leaders or staff with which they work. 5.____of pastors spend less than ten hours weekly in leadership functions, because they are ill equipped. They avoid them intentionally. 6.____of pastors said they have seriously considered quitting the ministry within the last two months. (Survey results are from the Barna Research Group and Fuller Church Growth Institute) 70% 90% 95% 75% 80% 65% Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership To Put it Graphically… Study the diagram below. I have attempted to lay out in a table the kinds of inner needs that every human has. People, however, who assume a position of leadership without addressing these needs in healthy ways—will experience a ‘train wreck’ within their own personal lives…often in public. Remember the following truth: Leadership roles work like a magnifying glass on our personal flaws. INNER NEEDIF MISSING, I FEELCOMMON SYMTOMS A sense of Belonging_______________Over-Compensation, emotional lows and highs A sense of Worth_______________Competition, self-doubt, need for recognition A sense of Competence_______________Comparison with specific people; defensive attitude A sense of Purpose_______________Compulsive driven spirit, defeat depression INSECURE INFERIOR INADEQUATE INSIGNIFICANT Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership Spotting Insecurity in Your Behavior To be honest, personal insecurity is fairly easy to spot in your behavior. We fail to see it merely because we ignore it. We pretend it isn’t there by defending ourselves and diverting the focus on to something else. The following are biblical case studies, where ordinary people like you and me struggled with common insecurities of some sort. Notice how it showed up in their lives… Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 1. You begin to compare yourself to others and score yourself against their achievements. Danger: You ignore the unique role you and others are to play on the team. Example: Matthew 20 (The Vineyard Workers) a)You ignore God’s grace to you, being preoccupied with the status of others. b)You grumble and complain about perceived inequities. c)You judge others as less worthy of blessing than you. d)You assume you deserve more because your focus in on your work not God’s. e)You forget that ALL reward and blessing is due to the grace of God. Comparison Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What Does Scripture Say… about comparison? “Peter, therefore, seeing John said to Jesus, ‘Lord, what about this man?’ Jesus said to him: ‘If I want him to remain until I come, what is that to you. You follow me.” (John 21:21-22) Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 2. You feel like a victim and must now compensate for your losses or inferiority. Danger: You fail to trust God’s control by taking matters into your ownhands, and by forcing issues. You over-compensate for where you feel you’re weak. Example: Genesis 27, 32 (Jacob) a)You scheme how to get ahead and how to gain recognition. b)You begin to depend on personal politics to advance yourself. c)You fail to recognize God’s blessing on you, in your pursuit for more. d)You fight irrational battles to get what you think you deserve. e)You may stoop to dishonesty and deception to get results. Compensation Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What Does Scripture Say… about Compensation? “Do not fret…do not be envious…trust in the Lord and do good. Dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him and He will do it. Rest in the Lord…Do not fret…cease from anger…” (Psalm 37:1-8) Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 3. You drift into self-centered patterns, consumed by outdoing others in receiving attention and reward. Danger: You become obsessed with building your own kingdom, and eventually that “end will justify the means.” You’ll do anything to win. Example: Luke 15 (The “older” Prodigal Son) a)You tend to keep score on life. b)You tend to be ungrateful. c)You tend to be un-teachable. d)You tend to get jealous for recognition. e)You tend to be prideful. f)You tend to be critical and judgmental. g)You tend to be loveless. h)You tend to live a self-centered life. Competition Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What Does Scripture Say… about Competition? “But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. For each one will bear his own load.” (Galatians 6:4- 5) Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 4. You are driven to perform compulsively to gain others’ approval; you are a people-pleaser. Danger: Your flesh takes control and you risk burnout due to impure motives and: unrealistic expectations. Example: Luke 10 (Martha) a)You become distracted from “big picture” priorities, being consumed by your own performance. b)You project your self-worth to others and over-estimate your importance. c)You experience “self pity” and seek recognition for your hard work. d)You grow weary because you attempt to do too much – for the wrong reasons. e)You tend to be a perfectionist. Compulsion Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What Does Scripture Say… about Compulsion? “Come to Me all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30) “By the grace of God, I am what I am, and His grace toward me did not prove to be vain; but I labored more even more than all of them, yet not I but the grace of God within me.” (I Corinthians 15:10) Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 5. The judgmental attitude of yourself or others, which results in self-pity or self-conceit.. Danger: The distortion of reality and the temptation to withdraw from responsibility. Example: Elijah (I Kings 19) a)You have shortsighted perception of your circumstances. b)You feel self-pity and loneliness, as though you’re the only one to endure hardship. c)You complain about unjust circumstances and feel overwhelmed. d)You fear your own demise and insignificance. e)You either project neurosis or a character disorder, blaming yourself or others for everything wrong. Condemnation Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What Does Scripture Say… about Condemnation? “But to me, it is a very small thing that I should be examined (critiqued) by you, or by any human court; in fact, I do not even examine myself. For I am conscious of nothing against myself, yet I am not by this acquitted; but the one who examines me is the Lord. Therefore, do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise will come from God.” (I Corinthians 4:3-5) Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 6. In order to validate your own worth, you feel as though you must take charge, protect your interests and monopolize situations. Danger: You think win/lose, not win/win. Because you’re having to chart your own course, you risk integrity, protect personal ‘turf’ and often slip into the …”scarcity paradigm”. Example: Sarah (Genesis 16:1-6) a)You feel God is inattentive, absent or even against you. b)Your circumstances determine your understanding of God’s character. c)Life seems “scarce” rather than “abundant”. d)You become self-seeking and manipulative of others. e)Feeling intimidated, you deal with others through intimidation. f)You resent the success of others. You may turn on them in anger. g)You feel if someone succeeds, then someone else must lose. h)You frequently blame others for your dilemma. i)You eventually suffer from the “martyr” syndrome. Control Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 7. We close up, get defensive and deny our problems. What Does Scripture Say… about Closed? “For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And, you seek Me and find Me, when you search with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:11-13) Closed Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership WHEN INSECURITY RAISES IT’S UGLY HEAD… You will notice, as a leader, that your struggle with personal security comes and goes. You will likely feel as if you’ve won the war during times of success or popularity among the people you lead. However, insecurity raises its ugly head most often in times when you feel intimidated by the following circumstances… Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership 1. _________________ - When colleagues or subordinates attack your performance or character. 2._______________________- When you’re first introduced to someone you feel you must impress. 3._____________________ - When you fail to reach a goal or standard, and you take it personally. 4.___________________ - When a peer achieves notoriety and reward for their own success. 5._______________________ - When people you respect fail to notice your own success and accomplishment. 6.____________ - When people & resources you’ve relied upon are taken away. 7._______________________ - When you become melancholy about your own victimized, unjust background. Criticism & Rejection Meeting someone important Failure at an assignment A colleague’s success Unrecognized achievement Personal loss Reflecting on an unfair past Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership THE LIES WE BELIEVE… NOTE: It is possible to waffle between these symptoms, and even experience several at the same time. The key is to identify how you cope with your insecurity, and what kind of lies you tell yourself about the reality you face. Consider this: If the truth makes us free (John 8:32), then lies put us in bondage. The level of defeat and bondage you face as a leader may be directly linked to the volume of myths or lies you’ve embraced about your identity. Our problem is that while we know the truth…we believe the lie. Dr. Chris Thurman has written an insightful book entitles, The Lies We Believe. He provides a helpful process for us to understand. Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership STEPPING INTO THE TRUTH _________ - the trigger event, which fostered the lie/bondage. Example: Your supervisor failed to affirm the hard work you put in on last week’s successful outreach event. You feel resentful and insignificant. ________ - the lie you’ve believed about that situation. Example: Perhaps you’ve embraced the lie: “I am only as good as what I do.” You’ve attached your value to your performance, and the approval of others. _______ - what response is truthful, appropriate and realistic. Example: My personal worth is tied to who I am not what I do. My supervisor does appreciate me, but is human like me and likely failed to notice my work due to an oversight. After all, he has been very busy himself. Determine Discover Decide Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership TIPS & TRUTHS… Never put your emotional health in the hands of someone else. The truth is a requirement for spiritual and emotional health. Most of our unhappiness and insecurity is the result of lies we believe. Recognize that you will believe what you want to believe. The truth can be eclipsed by a thrilling lie. A secret to healthy living is negotiating and balancing life’s hardships. Remember that hurting people naturally hurt people; intimidated people intimidate. We can only pass on what we possess, ourselves. Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEYS TO EMOTIONAL SECURITY _________- You must tie your self-worth to your identity in Christ, not people and performance. _____________- You must allow God to break you of self-sufficiency and self- promotion. __________- You must discover and practice your God-given purpose in life, not someone else’s. ______________________________- You must learn to let others love and bless you, and do the same for them. IDENTIFY BROKENNESS PURPOSE GIVING & RECEIVING A BLESSING Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership In the final pages of this lesson, we will examine these four keys to personal security. You will notice there is a diagram for each key, which should make it easier for you to gain a “handle” on the truth. Study each diagram and embrace the truth completely. This may be the beginning of a wonderful leadership journey…where you can be prevented from sabotaging yourself due to personal insecurities. Righteousness Life Wisdom Faith Holy Spirit Grace, Power Love, Joy, Peace Patience Kindness Goodness Gentleness Meekness Self-control Special Gift 2 Corinthians 5:21 I Corinthians 1:30 Ephesians 4:7 I Peter 4:10 John 10:10, I John 3:15 Romans 12:3, Ephesians 2:8 John 14:17 Ephesians 1:18-20 Galatians 5:22-23 Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY ONE: You must tie your self-worth to your identity in Christ, not people or performance. II CORINTHIANS 5: Meditate and embrace the three truths of this passage… You have a new position: you are now placed “in Christ” as well as “in the world.” You have new possessions: you have been given “things” or resources inside of you. You have new potential: you have been given these to fulfill a ministry to others. IDENTITY Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY ONE: Are you at peace with you? Are you comfortable in your own skin? So many let others determine this. Your application is the following… Renew your perspective: See yourself based on your position not your experience. Release your past: Let go of old images, sins, and baggage that prevent growth. Remember your purpose: You’ve been left here to minister as a change agent. IDENTITY Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY TWO: You must allow God to break you of self-sufficiency and self- promotion. GENESIS 32: We all want the grace and blessing of God on our lives. But, God “gives grace to the humble.” Brokenness is the pathway to experience what we really want and need. Jacob wrestled God for twenty years, and finally learned the essentials of His grace and blessing: BROKENNESS Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY TWO: He was ALONE with God – He could lean on nothing else; he had no other source. He was HONEST to God – He stopped lying about who he was; he confessed his sin. He was HUNGRY for God – He determined he wouldn’t leave until God blessed him. He was BROKEN by God – He was broken of his stubborn, self- sufficient lifestyle. Key Principle: What I view as my Source will determine my course! BROKENNESS Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership GOD SURRENDER or SEARCH EMPTINESS TEMPORARY SATISFACTION GOAL REACHED NEED OBSTACLES DRIVEN BEHAVIOR BASIC ASSUMPTION MOTIVATION DENIAL or BROKENNESS KEY POINT It is dangerous for God to empower an unbroken man! Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY TWO: PSALM 51 - King David also longed to experience the grace and blessing of God in his leadership, after his selfish sin with Bathsheba. Note the sequence of his prayer… 1.A plea for cleaning (v.1-3) 2.A recognition of the barrier he’d created (v.4) 3.An acknowledgement of the truth (v.5-9) 4.A hunger for God’s presence (v ) 5.A worshipping posture (v.14-15) 6.A broken and contrite heart (v.16-17) BROKENNESS Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY THREE: You must discover and practice your God-given purpose in life, not someone else’s. JOHN 17:4 Jesus said, “I have glorified You on earth, Father. I have finished the work and accomplished the purpose you have given me.” JOHN 20:21 Jesus said, “As the Father has sent me, so I send you…” Just as Jesus was sent with a specific mission to accomplish so we are sent to accomplish a specific purpose with each of our lives. We are to link our lives with God’s purposes for the world. Where do you fit into God’s plan? PURPOSE Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership NATURAL TALENTS What do you do well? DESIRES What do you want to do? RESULTS & FRUIT What produces most when you do it? PASSION What convictions do you feel compelled to pursue? FULFILLMENT What do you deeply enjoy doing? SPIRITUAL GIFTS What are your motivational gifts? AFFIRMATION & RECOGNITION What do people who know you well, say about you? CIRCUMSTANCES & OPPORTUNITY What is in front of you, now, as an opportunity? F IT THE P IECES T OGETHER … Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY THREE: Your life mission ought to… Start with yourself Be bigger than yourself Contain life-changing convictions Have eternal values Include others Center on God’s priorities to reach the world PURPOSE Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY THREE: You must learn to let others love and bless you, and do the same for them. GIVING AND RECEIVING A BLESSING Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY THREE: THE PATRIARCHAL BLESSING…. In the Old and New Testaments, fathers would “bless” their sons. This was more than just a simple prayer for them. It was a display of affection; it was a passing of authority and an expression of faith in that son. In one sense, it was a rite of passage into manhood. The story of Jacob and Esau reminds us that “the blessing” was something cherished by boys; it was not uncommon for them to struggle for the blessing that dad would deliver. While we don’t have a name for it today – people still fight over receiving the blessing from authority figures and those they respect. GIVING AND RECEIVING A BLESSING Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership KEY THREE: THE PATRIARCHAL BLESSING…. The “blessing” was an expression of love, and consisted of five ingredients: Meaningful Touch – We need to be embraced and touched by others. The Spoken Word – We need to be affirmed by others. Expression of High Value – We need to have our strengths recognized. Vision of a Special Future – We need someone to believe in our future. Application of Genuine Commitment – We need someone to see us through the process. GIVING AND RECEIVING A BLESSING Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership The Root of our Problems… When we get beyond the surface, we see that at the root of our struggle, is the issue of self-worth. Items above it are symptomatic of this deeper issue. This is why the body of Christ must commit to receive and give the “blessing” to each other. I John 4:18-21 P ROGRAM B ELIEF A TTITUDES F EELINGS B EHAVIOR H ABITS B EHAVIOR H ABITS N EGATIVE A TTITUDE N EGATIVE E MOTIONS R EVERSE P RIDE P RIDE U NFORGIVENESS U NMET N EEDS P ERSONAL W ORTH Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What to Do _____ and ________ on the Scriptures that define your identity: in Christ/in Him/with Him. Check yourself each time you ________ yourself to someone. Pause and thank God for the differences. Focus attention on your _________ for a season. Identify and polish your gifts, skills. Read and listen to ___________ material: books, tapes, magazines, etc. Studymeditate compare strengths motivational Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership What to Do Identify the two or three most common ____ you believe about yourself. Write down the truth about those areas, then tell yourself the truth. Find someone who is “safe” to be a ________ person. Practice giving and receiving the love, encouragement, and truth you both need. 7. Watch for _________ situations: criticism, rejection, meeting someone important, a colleague’s success, failure and unfamiliar territory. 8. Remind yourself of the ____: We are to imitate Christ – Who came and emptied Himself in order to serve others, not to be served. lies support vulnerable truth Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership ASSESSMENT: What symptoms of insecurity have you seen in your leadership? APPLICATION: What keys must you implement to foster emotional security? Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

Security or Sabotage How Personal Insecurity Prevents Effective Leadership Next Session: Delegating Tasks and Developing People Lesson: T iteenchallenge.org

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