CAF Family Violence Prevention and Awareness Campaign General Awareness

Definition of violence Myths and realities Types of violence Escalation and cycle of violence Profile of alleged perpetrators and survivors of abuse Impact Resources Base/Wing community action Course Outline

Emotional abuse Psychological abuse Neglect Financial exploitation Destruction of property Definition Injury to pets Physical abuse Sexual abuse Homicide Criminal harassment (stalking) FV is an abuse of power within a relationship of family, trust or dependency. It includes many forms of abusive behavior such as:

An abuse of power that is: Constant Frequent Intense Violence Is… And used : To control To keep in a position of inferiority To impose certain behaviours

Myths: True or False

One in four people will be a survivor of abuse or domestic violence in their life

A violent person has a mental illness

Family violence is usually caused by alcohol misuse.

Certain attitudes cause perpetrators to behave violently

Survivors of abuse like to be abused

There is no excuse for violence. The only person responsible for it is the one who inflicts it!

Emotional abuse Psychological abuse Neglect Financial exploitation Destruction of property Types Of Violence Injury to pets Physical abuse Sexual abuse Homicide Criminal harassment (stalking )

Pushing or hitting someone Throwing or breaking objects Punching the wall Kicking the door down Mistreating an animal Abuse that involves actions… Physical Abuse

Yelling, insulting, reprimanding for little things Making threats Criticizing Giving orders Humiliating Abuse you can hear… Verbal Abuse

Not letting the person have money Controlling the person’s access to money Preventing the person from working Not letting the person know about household income or how it is spent Abuse that makes a person dependent… Economic Abuse

Conjugal rape Denying any physical contact or sign of affection out of revenge Sexually degrading the person Harassing the person Abuse that affects intimacy… Sexual Abuse

Many of the risk factors are not easily modifiable. Marital distress, history of pre-deployment IPV, social and cultural beliefs that seeking services is detrimental to career, alcohol consumption, service delivery models. Where Does It Come From?

Psychological to verbal Verbal to economic Economic to sexual Sexual to physical Homicide/suicide Escalation Of Violence

Tension building Acute violent incident Justifying and blaming Honeymoon The Cycle of Violence

The more the cycle repeats itself, the more frequent and severe the violent incidents become. Cycle of Violence

A portrait Child survivor of abuse or witness Believes in traditional gender roles Rigid and impulsive Blames others Socially isolated The Perpetrator Underlying reasons Emotional dependence Low self-esteem A need to feel safe, to control

A portrait Child survivor of abuse or witness Believes in traditional gender roles Tendency to excuse, downplay Socially isolated Low self-esteem The Survivor of Abuse Underlying reasons: Love and hope Guilt and shame Family and social pressures Dependence and fear

Physical impact : Visible physical injuries, scars, loss of appetite, sleep disorders, headaches, stomach problems, respiratory problems, fatigue, various health problems Impact on the Survivor of Abuse

Psychological impact : Fear, sadness, shame, guilt, powerlessness, loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress, anxiety, loss of personal identity, dependence, broken relationships with loved ones, isolation, depression, and suicide Impact on the Survivor of Abuse

Physical impact : Neurological trauma, weight problems, sleep disorders, stomach aches, migraines, respiratory problems, skin problems, poor health. Impact on the Children

Behavioural impact : Developmental delays, shyness, fear of strangers, problems socializing with friends, maladjustment at school (learning difficulties, truancy, poor grades), aggressive and/or antisocial behaviour, withdrawn attitude, delinquency, drug use, suicide, depression, and difficulty trusting others Impact on the Children

Psychological impact: Low self-esteem, anxiety, stress, nervousness, fear, sadness, distrust, attention and concentration problems, confusion, guilt, and identity problems Impact on the children

 Depression  Loss of self-esteem  Legal problems  Problems at work  Possibility of retaliation by the survivor of abuse  Continuity of the violence Impact on the Perpetrator

The duration of the mistreatment The severity of the violence The survivor of abuse’s relationship with the perpetrator Factors That Affect the Impact

Take a Stand Against Family Violence Provide support Refer Other ways to become involved? How Can You Help?

Respect their decision Make sure they understand the risks Be supportive Make sure they will be safe Put them in touch with available resources When a Survivor of Abuse Decides to Leave

Respect their decision Tell them you are there for them Find out how you can stay in touch with them Develop a safety plan with them Tell them about available resources When a Survivor of Abuse Decides to Stay

Respect what they’re going through Respect what they say Respect their pace Remember Establish trust Ensure confidentiality Empower the survivor

To create a climate that fosters early identification and intervention CF members in professional or clinical positions, have a duty to inform CF members and DND civilians have a moral obligation Why Report It?

National campaign, “Take a Stand,” against family violence DAOD CDS Guidance Family Violence Annual Family Crisis Team training Strengthening the Forces programs Network of MFRCs National Prevention & Awareness Strategy

Family crisis teams Psycho-social services MP Chaplains Medical Officers Intervention Resources Within the CAF

Military Family Resource Centres CFMAP Shelters, rape crisis centres Legal aid Intervention Resources: Outside the CAF Centres for sexual assault Social workers Psychologists Members of the clergy

National Campaign on Family Violence Prevention and Awareness Family Crisis Team Standing orders Strengthening the Forces Programs Local MFRC Community Action At (Insert Your Base Wing)

In all places In all classes of society In all age groups In all cultures Across all ranks Conclusion Violence in the CAF can be found:

Take a Stand! Make the Call!

Goal is to increase awareness and prevent the misuse of alcohol and other drugs. Alcohol & Other Drugs Prevention & Awareness Program

Prevention Not intended for those with charges pending Not intended for those already involved in violent situations Managing Angry Moments 8 modules, 3 hours Large-group, small- group, pair, and individual exercises Practising coping strategies

Prevention and relationship enhancement program Designed to prevent relationship breakdown Basic Relationship Training Fourteen modules Twelve hours Flexible delivery model