BODY Language ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

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CONTENTS  Definition  Body language encompasses  The language of body language ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

DEFINITION Process of communicating what you are feeling or thinking by the way you place and move your body rather than by words Body language - noun - the conscious and unconscious movements and postures by which attitudes and feelings are communicated. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

BODILY SPEAKING  Less than 35% of the social meanings is actually transmitted by words. (verbal channel)  So, at least 65% of it is conveyed through the body. (non-verbal channel) ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Constantly exchanged and interpreted. Mostly at an unconscious level. Remember- while you are interpreting (consciously or unconsciously) the body language of other people, so other people are constantly interpreting yours. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Body language encompasses:  How we position our bodies.  Our closeness to and the space between us and other people, and how this changes.  Our facial expressions.  How our eyes move and focus.  How we touch ourselves and others.  How our bodies connect with other non-bodily things, for instance, pens, cigarettes, spectacles and clothing.  Our breathing, and other less noticeable physical effects, for example our heartbeat and perspiration. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Did you notice it ? Did you notice it ? ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

The six universal facial expressions - recognized around the world Happiness Sadness Fear Disgust Surprise Anger ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

The Language of Body Language :  Kinesics  Proxemics  Physiognomy ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

EYES SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS looking right (generally)eyescreating,fabricating, guessing, lying, storytelling looking left (generally)eyesrecalling,remembering, retrieving 'facts' looking right and upeyesVisual imagining,fabrication, lying looking right sidewayseyesimagining sounds looking right and downeyesaccessing feelings looking left and upeyesrecalling images,truthfulness ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

MOUTH SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS tight-lipped smilemouthsecrecy or withheld feelings twisted smilemouthmixed feelings or sarcasm smile - head tilted, looking up mouthplayfulness, teasing, coy biting lipmouthtension tongue pokemouth / tonguedisapproval, rejection nail bitingmouth / handsfrustration, suppression ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

HEAD SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS head noddingHeadagreement head held highheadsuperiority, fearlessness, arrogance head tilted to one sideheadnon-threatening, submissive, thoughtfulness ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

ARMS SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS crossed arms (folded arms)armsdefensiveness, reluctance crossed arms with clenched fists armshostile defensiveness one arm across body clasping other arm by side (female) armsnervousness holding a drink in front of body with both hands arms / handsnervousness adjusting cuff, watchstrap, tie, etc., using an arm across the body armsnervousness ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

HANDS SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS palm(s) up or openhandssubmissive, truthful, honesty, appealing hand(s) on heart (left side of chest) handsseeking to be believed finger pointing (at a person) handsaggression, threat, emphasis finger tips and thumbs touching each other on opposite hands ('steepling') handsthoughtfulness, looking for or explaining connections or engagement touching nose, while speaking hands / noselying or exaggeration picking nosehands / noseday-dreaming, inattentive, socially disconnected, stress ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

LEGS SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS uncrossed legs, sitting - general legsopenness standing 'at attention' legs / bodyrespectful legs crossed, standing (scissor stance) legsinsecurity or submission or engagement ankle lock, sittinglegsdefensiveness feet or foot direction or pointing Feetfoot direction indicates direction of interest ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

PROXEMICS ZONEDISTANCEFOR 1. Close intimate0-15cm 0-6in lovers, and physical touching relationships 2. Intimate15-45cm 6-18in physical touching relationships 3. Personal45-120cm 18in-4ft family and close friends 4. Social- consultative m 4-12ft non-touch interaction, social, business 5. Public3.6m+ 12ft+ no interaction, ignoring ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

HANDSHAKES SIGNALPART OF BODYPOSSIBLE MEANINGS handshake - palm downhandshakedominance handshake - both handshandshakeseeking to convey trustworthiness and honesty, seeking to control pumping handshakehandshakeenthusiasm handshake - equal and vertical handshakenon-threatening, relaxed weak handshakehandshakevarious ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

HANDSHAKES GOOD HANDSHAKE  Keep the fingers together with the thumb up and open.  Slide your hand into the other person's so that each person's web of skin between thumb.  Forefingers touches the other's squeeze firmly. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

DOMINANCE SUBMISSION ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

EXTEND A HAND  Meeting someone for the first time  Meeting someone you haven't seen for a while  Greeting your host(ess)  Greeting guests  Saying good-bye to people at a gathering Someone else extends a hand ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

TYPES BRUSH OFF:  Quick grasp and then a release that feels like your hand being shoved aside.  Means “it’s my turn and my agenda that matters, yours doesn’t”. CONTROLLER :  Pulled toward the person or strongly guided in a different direction.  They want to dominate any inanimate or animate object in the room. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

POLITICIAN:  Their other hand may cover yours or be placed on your forearm or shoulder.  Be cautious about relying on this person’s words for anything Finger Vice :  When someone grabs your fingers and not your entire hand it is meant to keep you at a distance.  These people are often insecure. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

THE DOUBLE HANDSHAKE/THE POLITICIAN’S HANDSHAKE USUALLY IMPLIES TRUST, HONESTY…. IT CAN LEAVE THE RECEIVER SUSPICIOUS!!! ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

THE FINGER TIP-GRAB KEEPING DISTANCE…. BECAUSE OF NOT BEING MUCH FAMILIAR TO ONE ANOTHER….!! ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Bone Crusher :  The message of squeezing your hand until you cringe is clearly designed to intimidate you  Message of intimidation and power behind the grip. Lobster Claw :  The other person’s thumb and fingers touch the palm of your hand  Fears connecting at a deep level and have challenges building relationships. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

THE DEAD FISH HANDSHAKE THE RECEIVER USUALLY DOESN’T SHOW THE INTEREST…..IT LOOKS LIKE THE RECEIVER IS FORCED INTO THE HANDSHAKE!! ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

PROPER HANDSHAKE  Is firm but not bone-crushing.  Lasts about 3 seconds.  May be "pumped" once or twice from the elbow.  Released after the shake, even if the introduction continues.  Includes good eye contact with the other person. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

A PERFECT HANDSHAKE CORPORATE STYLE ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

MIRRORING - matching body language signals When body language and speech characteristics are mirrored or synchronized between people this tends to assist the process of creating and keeping rapport (a mutual feeling of empathy, understanding, trust). ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Seating positioning in relation to others Unnecessary friction is created in work situations due to ignorance about seating positions. Sitting opposite creates feelings of confrontation. Do not place chairs so close together that personal space will be invaded. Conversely sitting too far apart will prevent building feelings of trust. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Sitting at a diagonal angle of about 45 degrees to another person is a comfortable and cooperative arrangement. A confident leader will be happy to avoid taking the “head of the table” position. Conversely it is perfectly normal for a leader to take the “head of the table” if firmness is required ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

Awareness of possible cultural body language differences is especially important in today's increasingly mixed societies. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

SUMMARY Finally, we can learn to be more sensitive to our own bodies – to see how they express our feelings and to see ourselves as others see us. We do not have bodies; we are our bodies. ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

FEELING LIKE ME ? ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise

THANK YOU  Thoughts  Experiences  Questions ©"Ideapreneurship - Universal Entertainment Paradise