Connecting to Hope: From Fear to Freedom Shayn R.H. Anderson

Change Exercise

How did it feel to be asked to change seats? Did you view changing seats as an opportunity or as uncomfortable or undesirable? What are some things that make people resistant to change?

Concepts What is Change? Fear of Change Managing Change Commitment to Change

Why Change?

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” -Tony Robbins

change 1. to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone 2. to transform or convertnature

3 Ways of Looking at Change Positive Interesting Negative

NO!

It’s not going to happen Now’s not a good time head office won’t go for it It’s not in the budget it’s been done Staff won’t go for it it’s not what we do Not the right time Not the way we do things around here it’s not our problem it’s too complicated

HERE Fear Failure Loss Rejection Ridicule Risk Anxiety Confusion Waste Shame Pain Exhaustion THERE

Fear Fear creates poor choices Fear makes us small Fear denies us grand opportunity

Fear of Change Fear of failure and fear of success are common aspects based in low self-worth and doubt When strong self-worth is present, change can be welcomed as an opportunity for growth, forward movement and personal fulfillment

Fear of Change Change brings “lock down” Active Choice Can Be Intimidating Fear based perceptions lead to stagnation

Resistance to Change Fear of the Unknown Expectation of Loss Front end-How we perceive change Back end-How well we are equipped to deal with the change expected

Resistance to Change Degree of Resistance = Perception of the change and how severe the impact is expected to be (on me) Ultimate acceptance = Function of how much resistance the person has and the quality of their coping skills and their support system

Managing Change Managing Change = Managing Fear Recognize that change is natural and can be good Secret to successful management is often understanding

Managing Change Skillful managers of change often have a constructive ‘internal dialogue’ Those who deal well with change will have a good reservoir of emotional, physical and mental energy to draw from when things get tough

Managing Change Be flexible and creative Be persistent Be optimistic See the big picture

Managing Change People’s reaction to change is often unpredictable and irrational Let go, enjoy, and have fun Embrace change

Things to Consider Focus on the positive aspects Be a leader and not a follower Create a plan Get as much information as possible

Things to Consider Take a good look at yourself Authorship vs. Ownership Often people just want genuine change

Would you rather? Open to change Have an opportunity to make a real difference but possibly be disappointed? Closed to change Miss a rare opportunity to be able to say I told you so?

Embracing Change: The Magic of Commitment

“Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.” Johann Wolfgang Goethe

Commitment to Change Casual vs. Committed “Trying something on” Commitment brings grounding Commit to the commitment

Ladder of Commitment A.Obligation B.Prospect C.Preference D.Passion E.Plan F.Promise

Commitment Considerations The focusing power it has Helps us look at the cost/benefit Beware of the “default mode”

Commitment Considerations “We do not walk on our legs, but on our will” “There is not try…there is only do…” Commit first and then let your courage catch up. That is where we find the magic of momentum. Where there is true commitment, courage is not far behind!

Commitment is Not a 1 Shot Deal Living in a conscious and wholehearted manner requires renewed commitment Recommitting brings renewed vitality Don’t lost sight of core commitments and values

What am I here for? I protected the status quo I met all my key performance indicators I kept my head down and asked no questions I made a difference!

Will hope and history rhyme?

“You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” -Wayne Gretzy