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Now That You’ve Said “I Do!” South Sound Church of Christ Marriage Workshop?

Future Sessions 1.What Is Marriage? 2.Uniqueness and Acceptance in Marriage 3.Expectations in Marriage 4.Fulfilling Intimacy Needs in Marriage 5.Roles Responsibilities and Decision Making 6.Communication in Marriage 7.Dealing with Conflict in Marriage 8.Sex in Marriage

REVIEW Homework Last Week

HOMEWORK Role Concepts Comparison

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

C OMMUNICATION IS TO LOVE, WHAT BLOOD IS TO LIFE.

F OOD F OR T HOUGHT

If there is any indispensable insight with which a couple should absolutely take heed, it is that they should try to keep open, at all costs, the lines of communication between them.

M ORE F OOD F OR T HOUGHT

A marriage can be likened to a large house with many rooms. The hope of a couple is to use and enjoy these rooms as we do in a comfortable home so that they will serve the many activities that make up your shared life. In many marriages, doors are found to be locked – they represent areas of the relationship that couples are unable to enter. Attempts to open these doors often lead to failure and frustration.

So the couple resign themselves to living together in only a few rooms that can be opened easily, leaving the rest of the house, with all its promising possibilities, unexplored and unused. There is however a master key that will open every door. It must be forged by each couple together, and this can be very difficult. This is the great art of effective marital communication. So the couple resign themselves to living together in only a few rooms that can be opened easily, leaving the rest of the house, with all its promising possibilities, unexplored and unused. There is however a master key that will open every door. It must be forged by each couple together, and this can be very difficult. This is the great art of effective marital communication.

COMPONENTS OF COMMUNICATION Content Tone Nonverbal

Components of Communication The three components of communication must be complementary. One researcher suggested the following breakdown of the importance of the three components. The percentages indicate how much of the message is sent through each one. Content 7% Tone 38% Nonverbal 55%

We communicate on five different levels, from shallow clichés to deep personal comments. Hang-ups, such as fear, apathy, or a poor self- image keep us at the shallow level. If we can be freed from our restrictions, we can move to the deeper more meaningful level. John Powell

5 Levels of Communication: Level Five: Cliché Conversation This type of talk is very safe. We use phrases like, “How are you?” “Where have you been?” “I like those shoes.” There is no personal sharing. Each person stays safe behind his/her defenses. Level Four: Reporting Facts We are content to tell others what someone else has said, but we offer no personal information on these facts. We share gossip and little narrations, but we do not commit ourselves to how we feel about them.

5 Levels of Communication Cont. Level Three: Ideals & Judgments Real communication begins at this level. We are willing to step out of our solitary confinements and risk telling some of our ideas and decisions. We’re still cautious. If we sense that what we’re saying is not being accepted, we’ll retreat. Level Two: Feelings & Emotions At this level we share how we feel about the facts, ideas and judgments. Our feelings underneath these areas are revealed. For us to really share ourselves with other individuals, we must move to this level of communication.

Level One: Complete Emotional & Personal Communication  All deep relationships must be based on absolute openness and honesty. This may be difficult to achieve because it involves risk – the risk of being rejected. But it is vital if relationships are to grow. Too often in marriage, this type of communication is not as complete as it could be.

For Discussion

1.What are some of the reasons why a person might only respond at a level five or four? 2.When do you feel most like communicating at levels two or one?

Scriptures to Consider

The Bible expresses the following thoughts about listening:

Prov. 18:17 17 The first to present his case seems right, till another comes forward and questions him.

Prov. 21:11 11 Simpletons only learn the hard way, but the wise learn by listening. [The Message]

James 1:19 19 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

HOMEWORK

Assignment Set time aside this week to go out on a date where you can talk openly:  Each of you take turns sharing something important to you with your spouse. A need, an expectation, or a desire that you have for your spouse.  Try to communicate at a level one or two.  Be mindful of the components of your conversation. (content, tone and non-verbal)  Be a good listener! Concentrate on what is being said, not what you’re going to say in response.