“Do NOW” “Do NOW” What is the Definition of Peer Pressure? What is the Definition of Peer Pressure? What is the difference between Direct and Indirect Peer Pressure? What is the difference between Direct and Indirect Peer Pressure? How can you make better choices in your life? How can you make better choices in your life?

Session 5 Effective Communication

Purpose To improve communication skills so students can express themselves clearly, ask for what they want, and resist peer pressure. To improve communication skills so students can express themselves clearly, ask for what they want, and resist peer pressure.

Goals: Know the Definition of Communication Know the Definition of Communication Know what and Open ended question is and how to use it. Know what and Open ended question is and how to use it.

TNT Game What were the main points of the previous session? What were the main points of the previous session? You can have a different opinion and still be liked and accepted. You can have a different opinion and still be liked and accepted. You can change your negative thoughts to positive ones. You can change your negative thoughts to positive ones.

TNT Game What is the first of the 2 steps for changing your thoughts about a situation? What is the first of the 2 steps for changing your thoughts about a situation? Recognize your first thought. Recognize your first thought.

TNT Game What is the other step for changing your thoughts about a situation? What is the other step for changing your thoughts about a situation? If positive keep it If positive keep it If negative, change to positive If negative, change to positive

TNT Game What is the definition of peer pressure? What is the definition of peer pressure? Influence by people your own age. Influence by people your own age.

TNT Game What is the definition of self-esteem? What is the definition of self-esteem? Liking and respecting yourself, being proud of who you are and what you do. Liking and respecting yourself, being proud of who you are and what you do.

TNT Game What is the definition of indirect pressure? What is the definition of indirect pressure? No actual offer, but you feel you have to do something to be liked or accepted. No actual offer, but you feel you have to do something to be liked or accepted.

Effective Communication Activity 2 We are going to discuss the 3 parts of effective communication. Understanding all the parts and how they work together makes communication more effective. We are going to discuss the 3 parts of effective communication. Understanding all the parts and how they work together makes communication more effective.

3 Parts of Effective Communication Activity 2 Part 1 – Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication Part 1 – Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication Part 2 – Observation Skills Part 2 – Observation Skills Part 3 – Open-Ended Questions Part 3 – Open-Ended Questions

Effective Communication Activity 2 Define communication. Define communication. “sending and receiving messages.” “sending and receiving messages.” Write this definition on your TNT word list. Write this definition on your TNT word list.

Part 1 – Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication The goal of communication is to send a message so that it is understood as you intended. Speakers need to be as clear as possible with the message they are trying to send - Verbal must match non- verbal. The goal of communication is to send a message so that it is understood as you intended. Speakers need to be as clear as possible with the message they are trying to send - Verbal must match non- verbal.

Part 1 – Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication Example: “If I say I’m really happy, but am speaking slowly and frowning, you won’t receive the intended message.” Example: “If I say I’m really happy, but am speaking slowly and frowning, you won’t receive the intended message.” Demonstrate by saying that you’re happy while frowning. (Have students try this) Demonstrate by saying that you’re happy while frowning. (Have students try this) People send messages both verbal and nonverbally. Verbal communication refers to the words used and the tone and intensity of someone’s voice. Nonverbal refers to body language, such as eye contact, body position or facial expressions. People send messages both verbal and nonverbally. Verbal communication refers to the words used and the tone and intensity of someone’s voice. Nonverbal refers to body language, such as eye contact, body position or facial expressions.

Part 1 – Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication VERBAL + NONVERBAL + OBSERVATION = EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION. VERBAL + NONVERBAL + OBSERVATION = EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.

Part 1 – Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication Remember in our first lesson we talked about how important it is to look at and watch the people we are listening to so we can be sure they understand the message. Remember in our first lesson we talked about how important it is to look at and watch the people we are listening to so we can be sure they understand the message. It’s just as important for the speaker to observe the listeners to see if they understand. If not, the speaker can change the communication so that he or she is understood. It’s just as important for the speaker to observe the listeners to see if they understand. If not, the speaker can change the communication so that he or she is understood.

Turn to page 13 in your student workbook. Understanding Each Other Understanding Each Other Give examples of tone of voice Give examples of tone of voice –(angry, excited, unhappy) Write the examples in your workbooks under Verbal. Write the examples in your workbooks under Verbal. What are some examples of nonverbal communication What are some examples of nonverbal communication –(posture, facial expressions, gestures) Write these examples under nonverbal. Write these examples under nonverbal.

Need volunteers ! 4 Volunteers to demonstrate nonverbal communication. 4 Volunteers to demonstrate nonverbal communication. Draw an emotion card and demonstrate that emotion without speaking. Draw an emotion card and demonstrate that emotion without speaking. Class guess which emotion is being conveyed. Class guess which emotion is being conveyed. When verbal and nonverbal messages don’t match, people don’t always understand what you are trying to communicate. When verbal and nonverbal messages don’t match, people don’t always understand what you are trying to communicate.

Part 2 – Observation Skills Observation is another aspect of effective communication. Observation is another aspect of effective communication. Observation is watching the other person to make sure that your message is being received the way you intended and looking for signs of understanding or confusion so you can change the message if it’s unclear. Observation is watching the other person to make sure that your message is being received the way you intended and looking for signs of understanding or confusion so you can change the message if it’s unclear.

Part 2 – Observation Skills This means you need to pay attention to body language as well as words. Both the speaker and listener must observe (look at and pay attention to) each other to be sure the message is understood. This means you need to pay attention to body language as well as words. Both the speaker and listener must observe (look at and pay attention to) each other to be sure the message is understood.

Part 2 – Observation Skills For effective communication to take place, speakers have to be aware of what they say, how they say it and the message their body language is sending. They also have to observe the listener to see if she or he is understanding the message. For effective communication to take place, speakers have to be aware of what they say, how they say it and the message their body language is sending. They also have to observe the listener to see if she or he is understanding the message. The listener has to be an active listener, observing the speaker, asking questions if necessary, and paying attention to what is being said and how it is being communicated. The listener has to be an active listener, observing the speaker, asking questions if necessary, and paying attention to what is being said and how it is being communicated.

Part 2 – Observation Skills Effective communication means making sure your message is understood. Effective communication means making sure your message is understood. Speakers’ words should match their body language, and that they should observe the other person to be sure the message is being understood. Speakers’ words should match their body language, and that they should observe the other person to be sure the message is being understood.

Part 3 – Open-Ended Questions A helpful tip for effective communication is using open- ended questions. A helpful tip for effective communication is using open- ended questions. OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS What does this mean to you? What does this mean to you? Open-Ended questions are “questions requiring more than a 1- word response.” Open-Ended questions are “questions requiring more than a 1- word response.” Example: What was funny about the movie you saw last night? Example: What was funny about the movie you saw last night? NOT Was the movie you saw last night funny? NOT Was the movie you saw last night funny? The open-ended question gets more information, while the other (closed-ended) may only get a 1-word answer. The open-ended question gets more information, while the other (closed-ended) may only get a 1-word answer.

Open workbooks to page 13 Write the definition and examples under “Open-Ended Questions”. Write the definition and examples under “Open-Ended Questions”. Questions that get 1-word responses often don’t get you enough information to keep a conversation going. However, questions that require more than a simple 1- word answers give you an opportunity to keep the conversation going and get more details. Questions that get 1-word responses often don’t get you enough information to keep a conversation going. However, questions that require more than a simple 1- word answers give you an opportunity to keep the conversation going and get more details. Asking open-ended questions helps you get more information and learn more about others, so you can look for things you may have in common. Asking open-ended questions helps you get more information and learn more about others, so you can look for things you may have in common.

Roleplay: Need a volunteer. Need a volunteer. Situation: You are standing in line at the movies, trying to decide which film to see. A friend from school is coming out of the theater. You want to know what he/she thought of the movie. Situation: You are standing in line at the movies, trying to decide which film to see. A friend from school is coming out of the theater. You want to know what he/she thought of the movie.

Open-Ended Questions Teacher: “Hi, I noticed you just saw Hairspray. What did you think about it?” Teacher: “Hi, I noticed you just saw Hairspray. What did you think about it?” Student: “I thought it was fantastic.” Student: “I thought it was fantastic.” Teacher: “What made it fantastic?” Teacher: “What made it fantastic?” Feedback. What did you notice? Feedback. What did you notice? Looked the person in the eye, open-ended questions, smiled…. Looked the person in the eye, open-ended questions, smiled….

Summary “Open-ended questions help you learn more about others. When you get more information it’s easier to discover things you have in common. The more information you have, the better the choices and decisions you can make.” “Open-ended questions help you learn more about others. When you get more information it’s easier to discover things you have in common. The more information you have, the better the choices and decisions you can make.”

Summary REMEMBER: REMEMBER: Open-ended questions get more information. More information allows you to make better decisions. Open-ended questions get more information. More information allows you to make better decisions. Good communication skills help you be more successful in school and in life. Good communication skills help you be more successful in school and in life. The more you practice these skills, the more confident you’ll feel to express your true self and say no to things you don’t want to do, such as smoking or chewing tobacco. The more you practice these skills, the more confident you’ll feel to express your true self and say no to things you don’t want to do, such as smoking or chewing tobacco.

TNT Game What were the main points of today’s lesson? What were the main points of today’s lesson? Effective communication skills Effective communication skills Open-ended questions Open-ended questions How communication skills help you get more information so you can make better choices How communication skills help you get more information so you can make better choices

TNT Game What is the definition of COMMUNICATION? Sending and receiving messages Sending and receiving messages

TNT Game What is the purpose of communication? To send and receive messages that others can understand To send and receive messages that others can understand To get information about people and things To get information about people and things

TNT Game What does “verbal must match nonverbal” mean The body language you use should have the same meaning as the words. The body language you use should have the same meaning as the words.

TNT Game What is an open-ended question? –A question that requires more than a 1-word answer

TNT Game What is the purpose of observing the person you’re communicating with? –To be sure he or she understands your message.