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Building Healthy Peer Relationships

Communication The process of sharing information, thoughts, or feelings.The process of sharing information, thoughts, or feelings. Communicating is a skill.Communicating is a skill. These skills include “I” messages, active listening, assertiveness and appropriate body language.These skills include “I” messages, active listening, assertiveness and appropriate body language.

“I” Messages Is a statement that expresses your feelings, but does not blame or judge the other person.Is a statement that expresses your feelings, but does not blame or judge the other person. Example page 136Example page 136

Active Listening Is focusing your full attention on what the other person is saying and letting that person know you understand and care.Is focusing your full attention on what the other person is saying and letting that person know you understand and care. An active listener responds to what is being said.An active listener responds to what is being said. The listener makes the speaker feel comfortable about opening up and expressing feelings.The listener makes the speaker feel comfortable about opening up and expressing feelings.

Types of Assertiveness Passive- people who hold back their true feelings and go along with others.Passive- people who hold back their true feelings and go along with others. Aggressive- people who express opinions and feelings in a way that may seem threatening or disrespectful to other people.Aggressive- people who express opinions and feelings in a way that may seem threatening or disrespectful to other people.

Assertive- people who are able to stand up for themselves while expressing their feelings in a way that doesn’t threaten other people.Assertive- people who are able to stand up for themselves while expressing their feelings in a way that doesn’t threaten other people.

Body Language Includes posture, gestures, facial expressions, and body movements.Includes posture, gestures, facial expressions, and body movements. People are often unaware of the silent messages sent by their body language.People are often unaware of the silent messages sent by their body language.

Cooperation Working together towards a common goal.Working together towards a common goal. Examples?Examples? Cooperation builds strong relationships that are based on a mutual trust, caring, and responsibility.Cooperation builds strong relationships that are based on a mutual trust, caring, and responsibility.

Compromise Is the willingness of each person to give up something in order to reach an agreement.Is the willingness of each person to give up something in order to reach an agreement. Is a skill of give and take.Is a skill of give and take.

Compromise (cont.) Possible solutions: when you are willing to compromise, you let the other person know how important the relationship is to you.Possible solutions: when you are willing to compromise, you let the other person know how important the relationship is to you. When not to compromise: when something is dangerous or against your values.When not to compromise: when something is dangerous or against your values. -instead of compromising be assertive and take a stand and make it clear about how you feel. -instead of compromising be assertive and take a stand and make it clear about how you feel.

Friendships Is a relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, and common interests or values.Is a relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, and common interests or values.

People look to their friends for honest reactions, encouragement during bad times, and understanding when they make mistakes.People look to their friends for honest reactions, encouragement during bad times, and understanding when they make mistakes.

Safe and Healthy Friendships Peers – people of similar age who share similar interests. TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS: Friendship- a significant relationship between two people.

Friendships Platonic Friendship- a friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple.Platonic Friendship- a friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple.

Friendships Casual Friendship- between peers who share something in common.Casual Friendship- between peers who share something in common.

Friendships Close Friendship- casual friends who have strong emotional ties, share thoughts, feelings, and experiencesClose Friendship- casual friends who have strong emotional ties, share thoughts, feelings, and experiences

Problems with Friendships Envy and JealousyEnvy and Jealousy CrueltyCruelty CliquesCliques

Does WHS Have “Cliques”? Clique- a small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.Clique- a small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.

Problems with Cliques Prejudice- making assumptions or judgments about an individual without really knowing him or her.Prejudice- making assumptions or judgments about an individual without really knowing him or her. How do you judge a new person you just met?How do you judge a new person you just met? Stereotype- an exaggerated and over simplified belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic or religious group or a gender.Stereotype- an exaggerated and over simplified belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic or religious group or a gender.

Choosing Friends Be LoyalBe Loyal Encourage Each OtherEncourage Each Other Respect Each OtherRespect Each Other

Peer Pressure Peer Pressure- the influence that people your age may have on you.Peer Pressure- the influence that people your age may have on you. Examples- ?Examples- ? Positive- “role model”Positive- “role model”

Peer Pressure Negative-Negative- Harassment- persistently annoying othersHarassment- persistently annoying others (Name calling, teasing, bullying)(Name calling, teasing, bullying)

Negative Peer Pressure Manipulation- an indirect, dishonest way to control or influence others.Manipulation- an indirect, dishonest way to control or influence others. Mocking or teasingMocking or teasing Using guilt tripsUsing guilt trips Bargaining- making a deal to get your own wayBargaining- making a deal to get your own way Using flatteryUsing flattery Bribing- money or favorsBribing- money or favors Making threatsMaking threats Using blackmailUsing blackmail

Dating Teens begin to have feelings of attraction to people they only thought of as classmates or friends. *develop social skills *learn more about yourself *discover new interests *reaffirm your values *begin thinking about your future

Dating Infatuation- exaggerated feelings of passion for another person. (do not confuse with affection)Infatuation- exaggerated feelings of passion for another person. (do not confuse with affection) Affection – a feeling of fondness for someone.Affection – a feeling of fondness for someone.

Deciding to date May not be readyMay not be ready May have other interestsMay have other interests May have other time commitmentsMay have other time commitments May have family traditions or valuesMay have family traditions or values “Everyone is UNIQUE”“Everyone is UNIQUE”

WHO ? Male or Female Who asks the other person out? Who decides where to go? Who drives or arranges for t transportation? W Who pays? ho decides w when the date is over? C Curfew- a set time at which you m must be home at night.

Successful relationships 1. Establish your priorities-1. Establish your priorities- Think about your goals and set priorities that will help you reach them. Consider YOUR values and those of your family such as respect, honesty, integrity and morality.Think about your goals and set priorities that will help you reach them. Consider YOUR values and those of your family such as respect, honesty, integrity and morality. Priorities- those goals, tasks and activities that you judge to be more important than others.Priorities- those goals, tasks and activities that you judge to be more important than others.

Violence in Dating Relationships Dating Violence- a pattern of emotional, physical or sexual abuse that occurs in a dating relationship.Dating Violence- a pattern of emotional, physical or sexual abuse that occurs in a dating relationship. One person uses abuse to gain control.One person uses abuse to gain control.

Cycle of Violence Tension Building Stage:Tension Building Stage: -picks fights -acts jealous and possessive -acts jealous and possessive-threatens -has unpredictable mood swings -isolates victims from others

Cycle of Violence (Continued) Violent Episode:Violent Episode: -uses force -may use a weapon -causes serious injury -may destroy possessions

Cycle of Violence (Continued) Calm or “Honeymoon” Stage:Calm or “Honeymoon” Stage: -asks for forgiveness -makes promises -buys presents -is affectionate -denies the abuse happened

Warning Signs of Abuse Your date:Your date: Is jealous when you talk to othersIs jealous when you talk to others Makes all the decisions and tries to control what you doMakes all the decisions and tries to control what you do Has a history of bad relationshipsHas a history of bad relationships Isolate you from your friends and familyIsolate you from your friends and family

Date Rape Rape that occurs during a date.Rape that occurs during a date.

Ending the Abuse Admit the abuse existsAdmit the abuse exists Realize that you are not to blame for the abuse and that you cannot change how your abuser behavesRealize that you are not to blame for the abuse and that you cannot change how your abuser behaves You don’t have to deal with the problem on your own, seek the support of family and friends.You don’t have to deal with the problem on your own, seek the support of family and friends.

ASSIGNMENT Describe the “perfect date”.Describe the “perfect date”. Include all components of dating that were discussed in the previous notes.Include all components of dating that were discussed in the previous notes. (This is a quiz grade)(This is a quiz grade)