L OVING OTHERS TO A CTION Answering before listening is both stupid and rude. Proverbs 18:19

H OW TO L OVE O THERS TO A CTION Be a spiritual leader. Be a loveable leader. Be a constructive leader.

S PIRITUAL L EADERSHIP IS L OVING Fair Loving Humble He has shown all you people what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. Micah 6:8

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:18 If you can keep your head when everyone around is losing theirs, then you can actually help. R. Kipling F AIR LEADERSHIP

“He had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people.” Heb.2.17 LoaTzu (tao) “The evolved leader only leads when completely identified with the people, when their concerns become his.” Maxwell “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” LOVING LEADERSHIP

HUMBLE LEADERSHIP He came to Simon Peter who said to him, “Lord, are you going wash my feet?” John 13:16

Commonality Law of Association Frequency of Contact Reciprocal Affection Others’ Sensibilities Similar Appearance Receiving Favor Humble Demeanor Positive Attitude LOVED OR FEARED ?

C ONSTRUCTIVE L EADERSHIP Communic ating that people matter! Turn around moments in your life – who was involved? What you say and do matters.

C ONSTRUCTIVE F EEDBACK When you see good work. When you see poor work. When you see a dead end.

N EVER LET G OOD WORK GO UNNOTICED Encourage one another daily and build each other up, just as you are doing. 1Thes.5:11 Be immediate. Be specific.

N EVER LET P OOR WORK GO U NNOTICED “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” 2Tim.3.16 Keep it private. Keep it positive. Proceed with caring. Attitude checks needed.

N EVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED Let the employee choose own path… How do you think it could have gone better? What can be done different next time?

N EVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED Practical guidance. Sometimes I’ll say something like… What works for me is... What has worked for you?

M ISTAKES M EAN T HEY ARE T RYING !

N EVER LET B AD H ABITS G O U NNOTICED “Slack habits and sloppy work are as bad as vandalism.” Pr.18:9 (Message) Keep it private. Keep it positive. Set the tone for a difficult personal conversation. Be direct but gentle. “Be completely humble and gentle. Be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Eph.4.2

N EVER LET BAD HABITS GO UNNOTICED Personal Feedback. I feel awkward about this… Sometimes your body odor is too noticeable.

N EVER LET BAD HABITS GO UNNOTICED Avoid Sidetracks! I don’t mean to offend, but we need to go forward. I need you to show up without noticible body odor. I brought it up because it’s my job, and I want you to succeed.

N EVER LET B AD H ABIT G O U NNOTICED “Better is an open rebuke than hidden love.” Pr.27:5 Constructive leadership means you CARE! Caring means you NOTICE! What people do really matters.

C ONSTRUCTIVE F EEDBACK When you see good work. When you see poor work. When you see a dead end.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD “Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19 THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE State what you observe. Wait for a response. Remind them of the goal. Ask for simple solution. Agree together.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD State. “You have missed three meetings in a row.” No editorial Just behavior.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD Wait. Do not be sidetracked. Your relationship is not the issue, it’s the behavior. Do not fill in a silent gap with your own material.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD Remind. “We work together as a team, you need to be at the meetings.” Opportunity for more sidetracks.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD Ask. “So how will you make it to the next meeting?” Everyone has a complex life. Stay true to goal. Sorry to hear that but we depend on you too.

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD Agree. Mutual clear statement. “So, next Friday, you will be at the meeting.” “I’ll be at the meeting on Friday.” “I hope things work out at …”

T URN FROM A D EAD E ND R OAD “Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19 THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE State what you observe. Wait for a response. Remind them of the goal. Ask for simple solution. Agree together.

C ONSTRUCTIVE F EEDBACK When you see good work. Immediate Specific When you see poor work. Keep it private Keep it positive When you see a poor habit. Set the tone. Be direct but gentle. When you see a dead end. Two Minute Drill. State. Wait. Remind. Ask. Agree.

LOVING OTHERS TO ACTION Be a spiritual leader. Be a loveable leader. Be a construc- tive leader.