Forging the Leader- Follower Connection Dr. Mardy Grothe

The Role of Big Ideas in Leadership & Life “There is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” – Victor Hugo How Receptive Are You to New Ideas? Teachable Moment -- Maximum receptivity to new ideas “When written in Chinese, the word crisis is composed of two...” “When the student is ready, a teacher will appear.”

Big Leadership Ideas From History Confucius: "Don't be concerned that the people don't know you..." Lao-Tzu: "To lead the people..." The Talmud: "Happy is the time when the great..." Jesus (Matthew 23:11): "The greatest among you shall..." Napoleon: "A leader is..." Carl Jung: "The true leader is..."

Meeting vs. Not Meeting Deep Human Needs A Fragile Connection Between Leaders and Followers. People have deep human needs they are not consciously aware of. When leaders meet these needs, a connection is forged; when they don't... “People in power are liable to sin more...” “Little Murders” “A small sin committed by a great person...” “Few people see genius in someone...”

Five Deep Human Needs ACKNOWLEDGMENT: The need to be known as a unique person RECOGNITION: The need to be viewed as someone with talent/skill APPRECIATION: The need to be valued, esteemed, & highly regarded INSPIRATION: The need to be lifted up by a noble goal or vision MEETING A CHALLENGE: The need to prove our worth to self & others

The Need To Be Acknowledged THE NAME GAME “If you remember my name you pay me a subtle compliment...” “The most important word in the language is a person’s first name.” “Thinging” People We all have an invisible sign hanging from our necks... Making Deposits into Emotional Bank Accounts

The Needs for Recognition & Appreciation A Self-Assessment Question: How Good Am I at Regularly Giving Praise, Compliments, and Other Forms of Positive Feedback? “I can live for two months on one good compliment.” “The deepest principle of human nature is the craving...” “The greatest compliment that was ever paid me...” The Ten-Penny Technique, LARA Log, & Hand-Written Notes

Application To Home & Family Life “Little Murders” with Spouses & Children “Gazing” Behavior and “SNAG” Mode “Grazing” & “Glazing” Behavior and “Cadaverous” Listening “The first duty of love is...” “The most important thing a father can do for his children is... ” “Treat me like a client.”

The Needs to be Inspired & Challenged The Latin root spir means “to breathe life into.” “Where there is no vision, the people..." Book of Proverbs What is your dream/purpose/lofty goal/master passion? “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp...” “Make no little plans; they have no magic to...” “Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown into flame by”

Becoming an Extraordinary Leader “The secret of a successful organization is getting ordinary...” “A superior who works on his own development sets an almost irresistible example.” Peter Drucker Do You have a BHAG? A Self-Assessment Question: “What Are 3 Things I Need To Do...”

Embarking on a Meaningful Discovery Process Identifying your “Circle of Trust” “Strengths, LARA, Weaknesses, ANI, Fatal Flaws/Achille’s Heels, Goals (including “Stretch” Goals) “To see ourselves as others see us...” The Power of Transformational Feedback

Becoming a “Thought Leader” in Your Firm or Family Every Day, post an Inspirational or Thought-Provoking “Quote of the Day” in a Prominent Location Also Add a Memorable Quotation to Your “Signature Line” Daily Reminders of “Big Ideas” and Powerful Life Themes Become Especially Important During “Teachable Moments” Look for "Newsletter" linkwww.drmardy.com

Forging the Leader- Follower Connection Dr. Mardy Grothe