Coaches With Clients presents... “The Rapid Coaching Academy: Professional Coach Training System…” Session #7: Mastering Your Psychology, Part 1

“Follow Up From Session 6…” “Did you work on Optimizing Your Environments?” Idea environment Tips #1: “Word of the Day” from Merriam-Webster #2: “Quote of the Day” BusinessInspired.com Deepak Chopra: We think 4 million thoughts a day, but 98% of those thoughts are the same day in and day out. Mary Allen: LifeCoachMary.com

“Mastering Your Psychology…” There’s a lot of success books out there… The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey But they don’t really address mastering your psychology Over the next few sessions, we’re going to talk about how to dig deep with clients Be aware of what is driving our clients goals: is it inspiration or ego?

“When To Start Working With Clients On Mastering Their Psychology…” 1.Right at the beginning Might already identify areas to work on in the intake form In the early stages get clients into action in other ways Create an action plan 2.When something comes up Set up expectations Thinks don’t always work out like we hope they will “It’s part of the coaching process.” “You can success in spite of challenges…”

“Where To Draw The Line Between Coaching & Therapy...” If you ever feel over your head about something, then that might be a clue “Hey, I think you might need therapy.” “I’m definitely not a therapist and this seems like an issue that you might want some therapy on.” “Therapy is a good healthy thing that a lot of people get and I’ve seen a therapist myself.”

“What To Say When You’re Not Comfortable With A New Issue...” Another clue is when the issue isn’t related to their goals and it’s not something you feel comfortable with “You hired me because you wanted to do this, this and this. I’m comfortable talking about this but I don’t want it to distract us from these goals.” “Hey, I’m really not comfortable talking about this stuff. I’m comfortable with you bringing it up but I don’t feel like I have the tools to help you. I think a therapist might be a better fit for you.”

“Where To Draw The Line Between Coaching & Therapy...” If it’s a big, pervasive issue like lifelong depression When in doubt, err on the side of caution Do it very softly, subtly, gently “Have you ever thought about seeing a therapist about this?” You can add it to your intake form There are other options; it’s not your responsibility to resolve all the issues in your clients’ life The people who are going to hire you are not likely to have these issues

“It’s Really About Personal Growth...” Everything is really about personal growth Everything we want to achieve is for 2 reasons: 1.The impact that will make on the world 2.The growth that will have to happen in order to achieve it In order to grow we have to let go of the old

“Be Present…” Be in the moment Get present before the coaching session gets started “Please help me to make the best impact I can on whomever it is today to help her or him in whatever way they most need.” If the client needs help mastering their psychology, where are they? When you are centered you create an atmosphere that is calming for them

“Be A Judgment-Free Zone & Listen...” Let them say whatever they need to say Give them space Listen, listen, listen You’re not going to master their psychology for them… You are going to help them master their psychology There is a lot of richness and depth to the challenges people have

“Richness and Depth…” There is a lot of richness to people’s challenges. It’s not that it’s complex, it can be very simple. Sometimes they’ll attempt something and fail.

“The Patterns Your Client Has…” Pointing out patterns is another way to help clients master their psychology Simply pointing out what’s happening is powerful in and of itself Create a judgment free environment by globalizing that a lot of people do this “A lot of people do this when things don’t work out.” “A greater truth is people beat themselves up.” “Is it helpful to you?” Awareness in and of itself can be curative This is what coaches call a belief system and this particular belief system could be setting you up for a lot more struggle.

“Keep Your Radar Up…” Notice their language patterns, belief systems, energy Are they avoiding something? What else is going on? They may be saying something, but then you may be hearing other things Indexing: saying “you” and instead of “I”

“Preview Of Mastering Your Psychology… 1.Beliefs 2.Judgments 3.Fears: 6 Different Ways to Help Clients With Fear Issues 4.What’s driving client’s goals 5.How to help clients see the greater truth about situations 6.How to help clients set boundaries for themselves 7.How to deal with doubts and insecurity 8.How to assess/diagnosis the clients real issues 9.Unconscious tools of influence

“Coaching Tool: Working With Fear…” Fear is pretty big, common thing everyone has An insecurity is a fear about themselves Outwards fears: fear of heights, etc All fear is a fear of feeling Either a fear of physical feelings (getting hurt, etc) 90% of fears are fears of something emotional

“Dealing With Fear… “Can you think of a fear that you would like to resolve?” Talk about the situation itself Dig a little deeper, see what’s there Unconditional Bliss by Raphael Cushnir “Living The Questions” Feeling into the Core of the Feeling, by Tom Stone

“The Living The Questions Process…” What’s happening right now in your body? “When you think about that what’s happening right now in your body?” Can you be with it? Notice whether you can really be with the feeling, or whether your resisting it “Keep your focus on the most intense part.” Check back in

“When To Use Which Technique…” Give the client a lot of space & be willing to have silence If you’re worried about not creating enough value Just be with the feeling until the feeling is resolved The more you do this process the easier it gets You can’t be with it to try to get rid of it The ultimate outcome is to feel happy & peaceful

“Homework…” Focus on the most intense part of the most intense part Start with something small Work with it on your own, then with your trios

Coaches With Clients presents... “The Rapid Coaching Academy: Professional Coach Training System…” Session #7: Mastering Your Psychology, Part 1