Chapter 8 – Safe and Healthy Friendships

 A give-and-take relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, and common interests or values.  People look to friends for honest reactions, for encouragement during bad times, and for understanding when they make mistakes.

 Casual Friendships  Close Friendships  Friendships with the opposite sex  Platonic friendships  Online Friendships

 These are friends that may be your neighbors or people you see everyday.

 These are friends with the following traits:  Loyalty – a good friend sticks by you in both the good times and bad. Your friend likes you for who you are.  Honesty – You can trust a good friend to be truthful with you, even when the truth is painful.  Empathy – a good friend is caring and sensitive to your feelings.  Reliability – a close friend can always be counted on. You know your friend will try hard not to let you down.

 Gender roles – these are the behaviors and attitudes that are socially accepted as either masculine or feminine.  Gender roles may vary from culture to culture.

 A friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection, but the two people are not considered a couple.

 Peer Pressure – the influence that people your age may have on you.(Can be positive peer pressure also)  Harassment – persistently annoying others.  Manipulation – indirect, dishonest way to control or influence other people.  Common manipulation include: Making threats, blackmail, flattery, guilt trips, bribing, teasing.

 Do you want conflicts in your life? If not, learn these skills……be a leader!!!  1. State your position  2. Suggest alternatives  3. Stand your ground

 What is abstinence? Is it important to you? Why or why not?

 Abstinence – a deliberate decision to avoid high risk behaviors, including sexual activity, and use of tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs.  Priorities – the goals, task, values, and activities that you judge to be more important then others.  Intimacy – closeness between two people that develops over time.  Infatuation – exaggerated feelings of passion.  Self Control – is a person’s ability to use responsibility to override emotions.

 Sexually Transmitted Diseases – infectious diseases spread from person to person through sexual contact.  1 in 4 teens contracts an STD/STI every year.  An estimated four in 10 sexually active adolescent females between the ages of 14 and 19 have an STD  Unplanned Pregnancies  Effects on mental/emotional/social health

 Teens & Adults – could have been sexually active, using alcohol, and/or drugs and RECOMMITT to Abstinence.  It is always an option

 Pressure Line Your Response Everybody does it No, not everybody is doing it I thought you were cool I am cool, and the answer is still No No one will ever know I’ll know, and I’m the one who matters If you loved me, you’d do it If you loved me, you’d