Interpersonal Communication

Introduction Interpersonal communications means "showing appropriate ways to exchange your ideas and needs."

Introduction A student demonstrates appropriate application of this skill when he / she can do a good job of presenting both sides of an issue, showing how both sides feel and interact, showing respect, using appropriate language, not using "put downs", and using strategies such as "I messages" and refusal techniques. Some examples of activities that help to build this skills include role plays, dialogue, and puppet shows.

Social and Professional Interpersonal Situations Making introductions Making apologies Giving directions Making requests Asking and answering questions Speaking on the phone Offering and receiving criticism Dealing with differences

Making introductions Things to Include: Names (Say loudly and clearly) Titles (Professor of…) Relevance (Why the person is present) Example: “Kelly, I’d like to introduce Danita Powell. Danita is the assistant director of human resources. We’ve invited her to help us make some personnel planning decisions. Danita, this is Kelly Francis. Kelly is our service director. She will come into our meeting later this morning with a list of her needs for new employees.”

If you are being introduced… Follow these suggestions: Listen carefully (for person’s name, title and reason for being there) Make a “name note” (tie the person’s name with something familiar) Make eye contact (it’s courteous and begins a good relationship) Shake hands (Make sure it is firm, but friendly) Smile (it is evidence that you are sincere) Speak (“Hello, I’m pleased to meet you.”)

Making apologies Some suggestions to remember Name it and claim it (be specific and say what you did that was wrong) Offer an explanation (state why the mistake was made) Offer to make it right (if it is correctable, correct the mistake) Keep it brief (respect the other person’s time and get to the point) Be sincere! (mean it!) Example: Bob – “Maya, I’d like to talk about what happened last week before our breakfast. I’m very sorry that I referred to you and Diane as “the office chicks.” It was a thoughtless comment. Please accept my apology. I promise to be more sensitive in the future.” Maya – “I appreciate that you took the time to talk to me about that, and I appreciate your apology.”

Giving directions Tips to Remember: Begin by communicating the goal (To get to Randall Consulting…) Know where you are starting (Start at Main Street and…) Break the directions down into steps (First, second, third…) Check for understanding (be aware of nonverbal signs of confusion) Don’t talk down (don’t treat anyone as inferior) Be patient ( )

Making requests Understand Your Purpose & Analyze the Situation and Audience: Determine who to ask (who has the power, time, info, etc.) Determine an appropriate level of assertiveness (as a question? or a command!) – Be TACTFUL! Determine an appropriate level of specificity (Should you be very general or specific in your request?) Determine the best situation (when is the best time, place, etc. to ask?) Determine a deadline (create a fair timeline to have the request met.)

Asking questions This too, requires skill. Remember these: Assertiveness (don’t be afraid to ask questions, be confident) Tact (think carefully about who you are asking and where – don’t embarrass the person) Courtesy (wait for appropriate timing – don’t “butt” into a conversation) Specificity (your question should contain enough info that the person understands what you are asking.) Relevance (make sure the question is relevant to the person and situation) Sincerity (the person you are asking should feel their answer is important to you) Example: “Donna, I’m working on the schedule for next week’s meeting. Would you please tell me how long Mr. Talcott takes to make his section of the new employee presentation?” courtesy – “please” specificity – Donna knows precisely WHAT the questioner needs to know. relevance – Donna know precisely WHY the questioner needs to know.

Answering questions Knowing how to ask a good question will provide you with a good answer: Tact (show respect for the person asking the question) Courtesy (you may want to thank the person for asking the question) Specificity (be specific, give a useful answer) Relevance (be sure your answer relates to the question asked)

Telephone Etiquette Answering: answer promptly; before picking up the receiver, stop other conversation or activity that can be heard by the other party; speak clearly and distinctly in a pleasant tone; if taking a message- get name & number, write down day & time, give to person promptly Calling: Think about time of day; give your name; enunciate words; use pleasant voice

Offering & Receiving Criticism Criticism vs. constructive criticism Giving criticism: attack issue, not person; be tactful Receiving criticism: watch defensiveness; consider it; be tactful in response; take it in stride!

Dealing with Differences -Gender -Ethnicity -Age Don’t avoid communication simply because of differences Treat people as PEOPLE first!