Slides presented by Keith Rasmussen At the MMCC Parenting Workshop ‘07 Mar 1: teens Mar 2: kids 6-12 Mar 3: kids 0-5

"Take to heart all the words I have solemnly declared to you this day, so that you may command your children to obey carefully all the words of this law. They are not just idle words for you — they are your life.” Deut 32:46-47 Deut 32:46-47

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Scripture Quiz ! where does it say: “…Hi, I’m Jesus, son of Joseph and Mary….”

Scripture Quiz ! Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain

Scripture Quiz ! Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain Ps 127:1

Principle # 1 Presenting The Father 8 Philip said, "Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us." Jesus answered: "Don't you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, 'Show us the Father'? Don't you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work. John 14:8-10

Presenting the Father Children do not know what to believe Only Who to believe

Presenting the Father Children do not know what to believe Only Who to believe Ex. Dead lizards

Presenting the Father Communicate that they are special to God, His children, and His delight

Presenting the Father Trust is automatic Don’t disappoint them

Presenting the Father Simply let your 'Yes ' be 'Yes, Simply let your 'Yes ' be 'Yes, and your 'No, and your 'No, 'No'; 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. anything beyond this comes from the evil one. Matt 5:37

Be Proactive He leads me beside still, restful waters.. Ps 23 For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him." For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him." Gen 18:19

Be Proactive Your responsibility before the LORD Is to bring up your children in His ways Think ahead of them Think ahead of them  What lesson do they need to learn?  How can you get it across?

Be Proactive Practicals From age 0 to as long as they will let you From age 0 to as long as they will let you

Be Proactive Practicals From age 0 to as long as they will let you From age 0 to as long as they will let you  Sing lullabies on God’s love for them

Be Proactive Practicals From age 0 to as long as they will let you From age 0 to as long as they will let you  Sing lullabies on God love for them  Rejoice in their presence

Be Proactive Practicals From age 0 to as long as they will let you From age 0 to as long as they will let you  Sing lullabies on God love for them  Rejoice in God in their presence  Hold them while you worship

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Create Traditions

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Create Traditions Bedtime rituals

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Create Traditions Bedtime rituals Family song

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Create Traditions Bedtime rituals Family song Trips to relatives

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Create Traditions Bedtime rituals Family song Trips to relatives Holiday Traditions

Be Proactive Practicals Create a sense of family and belonging Tell Stories

Be Proactive Practicals Family time is vital at this age, they are always there for you. How can you show them you love them? TIME with them. There is NO substitute

Principle #2 Respect Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"-which is the first commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." Eph 6:1-3 Eph 6:1-3

Respect You are God’s representative permit no disrespect. If they “get away” with it, they will think they can “get away” with it with God.

Respect Mothers, Mothers,  mercy can only be revealed when the background is Justice.  Don’t make Dad the bad guy through your weakness.

Respect Fathers, Fathers,  Never discipline in anger.  Never let the sun go down on your anger. Eph 4:26

Respect Practical Fathers and Mothers, Fathers and Mothers,  Don’t let them drive you crazy When they want your attention, give them a response: Eye level, communicate at their level, expect obedience, (do they really understand what you are saying?) (do they really understand what you are saying?)

Respect Practical Unacceptable:whining repetitive, mommy,mommy…… angry retort trying to escape not looking you in the eye

Respect Practical Unacceptables What is your part in this? hours of grocery shopping? Talking to friends for two hours while your children wait? Too busy to notice their needs? On the phone for 45 minutes while dinner waits? hours of grocery shopping? Talking to friends for two hours while your children wait? Too busy to notice their needs? On the phone for 45 minutes while dinner waits?

Principle #3 Obedience And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands 2 John 6 Do not withhold discipline from a child;… Do not withhold discipline from a child;… …Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death. Prov 23:13-14

Obedience Practicals Keep it simple Keep it simple  One rule: do not disobey To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. 1 Sam 15:22

Obedience Practicals There must be consequences for disobedience There must be consequences for disobedience  Must be age appropriate  Must be consistent  Must be predictable

Principle # 4 Guardianship And fathers, don't stir up anger in your children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Eph 6:4 Holman

Guardianship THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT Train your children, instead of just reacting. Train your children, instead of just reacting. Parents who let their kids run free until they do something annoying to them will reap destruction. Parents who let their kids run free until they do something annoying to them will reap destruction.

Guardianship THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT Destruction. Destruction.  When they grow older your efforts to discipline them will turn them against you.  Unruly and disobedient, they will harvest destruction in their lives.

Guardianship Training and instruction in the Lord Training and instruction in the Lord Never tolerate direct disobedience Never tolerate direct disobedience Always have a reason for your discipline Always have a reason for your discipline Little minds forget Little minds forget  Use grace, mercy, and consistency

Obedience Practicals Happy Heart  If you came home from a really hard, emotional day and your spouse said: “have a happy heart” would you instantly change to a happy heart?

Presenting all that He is And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, Ex 34:6

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