The River Rushes On

Top 20 Training’s Mission: The Power of the River Making Connections and Change Tom Cody, Willow Sweeney and Paul Bernabei Top 20 Training’s Mission: To enable people to discover their inner power to reach their potential and make a positive difference in their lives and the lives of others.

Why Are We Here? To enhance the lives of children by our unique power to make connections and see new possibilities. To provide a practical tool that can be applied in situations where change is necessary.

A Drop in the Bucket Mitch Barrett and Carla Gover It’s a crazy world we live in, bad news all around. Brothers and sisters, if we’re gonna make a difference We’re gonna have to stand our ground. It’s a drop in the bucket, and a bucket in the pond, And the pond fills the river, and the river rushes on. Every river swells a river, until the power can’t be stopped And what becomes a mighty ocean, started as a drop.

The Frame What We See Is What We Get

The Frame See Feel Get Do

Making Connections

WHAT’S BEHIND THE FRAME? See Feel Get Do

BELIEFS See Feel Get Do

MESSAGES BELIEFS See Feel Get Do

Core Messages Identity Worth Purpose

Potential: a power within us

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference in the quality of our lives, relationships and experiences

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference in the quality of our lives, relationships and experiences and, in doing so, make a difference in the livesof others.

Potential T L C Top 20’s = Think = Learn = Communicate Bottom 80’s TIME

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP Core Messages

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP OPOs (Opinions) OPEs (Expectations) Core Messages OPAs (Agendas)

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP OPOs (Opinions) OPEs (Expectations) Core Messages OPAs (Agendas) POP (Please Other People)

Our Life Tree I Matter I am Good Enough I don’t Matter I am Not Good Enough GE Messages NGE Messages

Making Change

Lanesboro Family Reunion The Frame See Feel Lanesboro Family Reunion Get Do

Black Hills Family Reunion The Frame See Feel Black Hills Family Reunion Get Do

When not getting what’s important Change Nothing 80

When not getting what’s important 1. Change Nothing Change ‘Do’ 80

When not getting what’s important 1. Change Nothing 2. Change ‘Do’ 3. Blame -Give away power -Become a victim -Stuck in yuck 80

When not getting what’s important 1. Change Nothing 2. Change ‘Do’ 3. Blame -Give away power -Become a victim -Stuck in yuck 80 Change See: Get Curious -Ask: How can I see this differently? 20

RIGHT VS. CURIOUS

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Are you sure you are seeing what you think you are seeing?

Three kinds of Right 80 20 Right = Right Right = Wrong Right = Right + (Correct but incomplete)

How can we see more? Create a crisis Ask someone else Change roles Practice the Lesson of the Crack: Say “Maybe”

80 20 We are blind We don’t know it We think we’re right We blame We lose power We stay stuck in yuck We are blind We know it We stay curious We take responsibility We maintain power We make a difference

The River Rushes On