Universal Human Value Dorji Thinlay Chief Investigation Officer Anti-corruption commission Thimphu Bhutan ACC Delegation, Maldives & Timor-Leste, 10 - 15 July, 2011 www.acc.org.bt 5th

Nation’s Conscience Lead by Example If you Care, You will Dare

Exercise on Team Work Brain teaser Conscious invoker X O X O X O Objective - Score Maximum points. Each straight line scores 5 points. You get 30 seconds, (you need only 15 seconds)

Team Work: Competitive X O X O X O Points = 5

Team Work: Competitive O X X X O O Points = 5

Team Work: Self endeavour X O X Points = 15

Team Work X X X Points = 15 + 15 = 30 Excellence

Team Work: Supportive O O O Points = 15 + 15 = 30 Excellence

Do we pause for a minute, analyze and think how one could contribute? Scores, how many scored: Zero = Five = Ten = Fifteen = Thirty = Any other = We talk about Team Work. Do we pause for a minute, analyze and think how one could contribute?

What is this so called ’Human Value’?

Human Conduct or Behaviour based on one’s Natural Acceptance verified on one’s Own Right What is this Natural Acceptance?

Natural Acceptance is :- - Innate Self - Inner self - Natural Self (coming from heart) - Un-corrupt Self

Desire State of Being We want to be happy We want to be prosperous We want the continuity of happiness and prosperity Are we happy? Are we prosperous? Is there continuity of our happiness and prosperity? What is the Ultimate Goal (desire) as a Human Being?

Happiness is being in Harmony Disharmony or Contradiction means (brings) = Unhappiness Prosperity is Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. Then the feeling of not having more than required Physical Facility = Deprivation.

Ingredient for Happiness Prosperity Living in Harmony with: Self Other Self Family Society Nature Universe Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. Right Understanding Correct assessment of need for Physical Facilities. Right Understanding

Ingredient for Happiness Prosperity Living in Harmony with: Self Other Self Family Society Nature Universe Feeling of having more than required Physical Facilities. For continuous happiness & prosperity Continuous Right Understanding

More important dialogue within SELF Society Family Nature More important dialogue within SELF Process of dialogue Universe Self Other self Self Self Self

Who is the biggest stranger to you? Yourself Who is the biggest stranger to you?

How much do we understand self? Therefore,…. Self Self Dialogue within SELF Dialogue within SELF How much do we understand self? How Much???

Right Understanding is deficient Conclusion drawn based on: Pre-conditioning Assumption

Priority: Right Understanding of Relationship & Physical Facility 1 RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self 2 RELATIONSHIP with human beings 3 PHYSICAL FACILITY with rest of nature Feelings - Trust - Respect - … MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY

Priority: Physical Facility ? RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self ? RELATIONSHIP with human beings 1 PHYSICAL FACILITY with rest of nature UNHAPPINESS (Mutual) DEPRIVATION (Mutual) Conflict, fight, war Exploitation, corruption

9 Feelings in relationship: 1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE 2- Respect 3- Affection 4- Care 5- Guidance 6- Reverence 7- Glory 8- Gratitude 9- Love COMPLETE VALUE

Trust = to be assured = to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy & prosperous When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the other Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperity

Evaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance 1a. I want to make myself happy 2a. I want to make the other happy 3a. The other wants to make herself/himself happy 4a. The other wants to make me happy Verify on the basis of your competence 1b. I am able to make myself always happy ? 2b. I am able to make the other always happy ? 3b. The other is able to make herself/himself always happy? 4b. The other is able to make me always happy ?? √ √ √ ? Intention – Natural Acceptance What is Naturally Acceptable to Me Competence What I am (∑ D, T, E)

About the Other About Myself The other broke a glass The other makes mistakes intentionally The other intended to break the glass – The other is a bad person The glass broke by accident I make mistakes by accident Even if I make the same mistake 100 times, I never doubt my intention – I always feel I am a good person I evaluate my self on my intention (2a) ... I conclude “I am good” I evaluate the other on his competence (4b) ... I conclude “the other is bad” I conclude about the intention of the other on the basis of his competence ... I doubt his intention Irritation, anger, condemning the other are indications of doubt on intention Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships

When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the other Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperity

Check within yourself How many persons do you have trust on intention (natural acceptance) – unconditional, continuous? If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what will you do: Try to improve his competence Get irritated Get angry Have a feeling of opposition This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the foundation of relationship If Trust on Intention If Doubt on Intention

Respect Respect = Right Evaluation Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect Disrespect 29

Respect: Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I) Purpose I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity Our purpose is similar (on the basis of Natural Acceptance) Program My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all levels The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all levels Our program is similar Potential Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural Acceptance Desire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in the other. The other is also endowed with Natural Acceptance Our potential is similar The Other is Similar to Me Feeling: make him understand I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other Do not doubt Intention I feel related Doubt his Competency

Differentiation Differentiation = Disrespect Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition… Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facility or Beliefs (preconditioning) turns out to be differentiation and therefore disrespect Differentiation Body Physical Facility Beliefs Age Gender Post Wealth Isms Physical Strength Race Sects Info 31

Self Confidence, Ego & Depression Right Evaluation Over Evaluation Under / Otherwise Evaluation Self Confidence Ego Depression I am self referential The other is my reference Definite Conduct Indefinite Conduct

The unhappiness in your family is Check within Yourself! The unhappiness in your family is More due to lack of physical facility or More due to lack of fulfillment in relationship? How much time and effort are you investing: For physical facility For fulfillment in relationship The unhappiness is more due to lack of fulfillment in relationship Most of the time and effort is spent for physical facility

Therefore we can observe two categories of human beings Lacking physical facility, unhappy deprived Having physical facility, unhappy deprived

Affection The feeling of being related to the other (acceptance of the other as one’s relative) One naturally feels related to the other when one has the feelings of Trust and Respect in oneself for the other Absence of Affection = Opposition, Jealousy

Care & Guidance naturally follow Affection Feeling of responsibility toward the body of my relative The responsibility & commitment for nurturing and protecting the Body of my relative Feeling of responsibility toward the self(I) of my relative The responsibility & commitment for ensuring Right Understanding and Right Feeling in the self(I) of my relative Care & Guidance naturally follow Affection 36

Reverence The other is like me – I Trust, respect, care and guide….. The feeling of acceptance for Excellence Excellence Understanding Harmony & Living in Harmony The other is like me – I Trust, respect, care and guide….. Excellence and competition are not similar. In excellence, one helps to bring the other to his level In competition, he hinders the other from reaching to his level at all 4 levels In the Self, as an Individual In Family In Society In Nature/Existence

Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related to: None One Many Everyone Affection – The feeling of being related to the other (acceptance of the other as one’s relative) Love – The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value) X  The feeling of being related to none – in opposition to all √ The feeling of being related to one The feeling of being related to many Affection √ Love √  The feeling of being related to all

Program for Continuous Happiness To understand the Harmony at all levels of our Being Harmony in the Human Being Harmony in the Family Harmony in the Society Harmony in Nature/Existence To live in Harmony at all levels of our Being As an Individual In Family In Society In Nature/Existence Scope of Understanding Scope of Living

RELATIONSHIP with human beings Right Understanding RIGHT UNDERSTANDING in the self 1 Living in Harmony at all 4 levels: Individual Family Society Nature/Existence Living with Human Consciousness Understanding Harmony: Harmony in the Individual Harmony in Family Harmony in Society Harmony in Nature/Existence Living in Harmony at all 4 levels: Individual Family Society Nature/Existence 2 RELATIONSHIP with human beings PHYSICAL FACILITY with rest of nature 3 MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY

Let’s Living with Human Consciousness Let’s live Prosperously Let’s live Happily It only takes Right Understanding