Relational Dynamics

Attraction Similarity Complementary Reciprocal

Attraction Competence Disclosure Proximity

Intimacy Dimensions: Physical Intellectual Emotional Shared Activities

Developmental Models Integrating/Bonding Intensifying InitiatingExperimenting Differentiating CircumscribingStagnating Avoiding Terminating

Self Disclosure Occurs in Dyads Occurs in Increments Few involve high levels Relatively scarce Occurs in positive relationships

Reasons for Self Disclosure Catharsis Reciprocity Self Clarification Self Validation

Reasons for Self Disclosure Identity Management Relationship maintenance Social Control Manipulation

I.Friends A.Three Types 1.reciprocity = based on equality 2.receptivity = imbalance of giving and receiving

3.association = cordial, but not intense B.Needs of Friendships C.Stages of Development 1.initial contact & acquaintanceship 2.causal friendship 3.close & intimate

4.cultural differences 5.gender differences 6.love & communication

II.Lovers A.Types of Love 1.Eros = beauty & sexuality, sudden & dramtic

2.Ludus = a fun game, playful 3.Storge = companionship that lacks passion & intensity, friendly

4.Pragma = practical & traditional (rarely deteriorate)

5.Mania =Extreme, Obsessive, Passionate Roller Coaster

6.Agape = compassionate & selfless

Communication Show Respect Don’t sweat the small stuff It is a package deal Make daily choices to enhance intimacy