Healthy Relationships SDUSD Sex Ed

Respectful Relationships What are some characteristics of respectful relationships?

Respectful, Disrespectful, or Undecided? Your partner: Wants to spend all their time alone with you Gets jealous when you flirt with other people Is concerned about where you go and who you go with Protects you from getting hurt by keeping their feelings to themselves Likes to party with you and get you drugs and alcohol

Respectful, Disrespectful, or Undecided? Has different interests or hobbies from you Grabs your arm during a disagreement Becomes violent when drinking Pressures you to have sex Has sex with you when you are drunk Compliments you Always apologizes after getting angry or yelling at you

Respectful, Disrespectful, or Undecided? Doesn’t get along with your family or friends Spends time with their friends without you Respects your boundaries around sex

Preventing Abuse Get to know a person as a friend before getting involved with them Tell your partner you expect respect Leave immediately the first time abuse occurs Tell someone about it and ask for help Break off the relationship, but make sure you are safe

Witnessing Abuse Pull a friend away from the abusive situation and out of danger, if it is safe Help calm down the abuser, if it is safe Tell a parent, counselor, teacher, or trusted adult Support the victim If someone is in danger, call 911

Types of Abuse Physical: hitting, slapping, grabbing, may or may not leave marks Sexual: Forced touching, rape, having sex when someone is drunk or unconscious Mental: Criticizing, blaming, threatening

Sexual Assault 73% of sexual assault cases involve non-strangers Motivated by power and control Most often perpetrated by males Females are most often the victims

Types of Sexual Assault Rape Unwanted sexual intercourse May include force, threats, or fear of injury Child Molestation A person of any age involved with a minor <14 years of age Unlawful sexual intercourse A person having sex with anyone <18 years of age A felony if there is more than a 3 year difference

Types of Sexual Assault Sexual Battery (Felony) Victim is held or restrained Skin to skin touching of body parts Sexual battery (Misdemeanor) Victim is not held or restrained Touching of body parts over/under clothing

San Diego Statistics 73% of assaults are committed by non-strangers 13% by “brief acquaintances” 14% by strangers 94% of victims are female 71% are years old 49% are years old

Discussion of Scenarios

What you should know Know your sexual limits and communicate them to your partner Always respect another person’s sexual limits Don’t assume you know what another person wants Be up front with friends..don’t be afraid to be assertive It is never ok to have sex with someone without their consent (drunk/passed out) Having sex with someone who is mentally or physically unable to consent is rape

What you should know Do not date or be alone with people you don’t know well There is strength in numbers, so arrange for group dates or double date It is safest to hang out with people in your own age group who have similar interests Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you feel threatened

If you, or someone you know, becomes a victim Contact a Crisis Hotline Call the police If it happens to you, tell someone you can trust If it happens to a friend, offer support Save your clothing from the attack Do NOT shower

Set your boundaries now… Sex Drugs Alcohol Parties Disobeying parents/sneaking out/lying Relationships So that when you are in a challenging situation you don’t make a bad decisions

Taking Inventory This worksheet is for personal use and will not be collected Complete the inventory checklist now

My Personal Health Plan Values are something that is personally important, desirable, or worthy for its own sake Physical Health: relates to you body, includes diet, exercise, sexual activity Emotional Health: personal feelings, thoughts Social health: interaction with others such as friends, families, partners Set achievable goals in each area and develop an action plan