Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Chapter 8 The Path to Commitment Attraction, Dating, and the Experience of Love

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. “Frisky Business”: Interpersonal Attraction Theories Evolutional Theory: The Evolution of Physical Attraction Evolutional Theory: The Evolution of Physical Attraction What men want: Reproductive promiseWhat men want: Reproductive promise What women want: Protectors and promiseWhat women want: Protectors and promise

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Social Exchange Theory: The Rewards and Costs of Attraction

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Filter Theory of Mate Selection Physical Attraction Physical Attraction Propinquity Propinquity Homogamy Homogamy Heterogamy Heterogamy Endogamy Endogamy Exogamy Exogamy

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. The Path to Commitment Courtship: Marriage Is the Goal Courtship: Marriage Is the Goal The Dating Game The Dating Game Dating Scripts Dating Scripts Heterosexual dating scriptsHeterosexual dating scripts Same-sex dating scriptsSame-sex dating scripts Online Dating Online Dating

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Internet Dating Safety

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Cyberstalking False Accusations False Accusations Attempts to Gather Information About the Victim Attempts to Gather Information About the Victim Encouraging Others to Harass the Victim Encouraging Others to Harass the Victim Attacks on Data and Equipment Attacks on Data and Equipment Arranging to Meet Arranging to Meet

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. What is Love, Actually? Lee’s Six Types of Love Styles Eros Eros Ludus Ludus Storge Storge Manic Manic Pragma Pragma Agape Agape Passionate Love and Compassionate Love Passionate Passionate Compassionate Compassionate

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Sternberg’s Triangle of Love Theory

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Characteristics of a Love that has the Potential to Last Investment in the Well-being of the Other Investment in the Well-being of the Other Appreciation/admiration Appreciation/admiration Sexual Desire Sexual Desire Intimacy/Inclusion Intimacy/Inclusion Commitment Commitment Exclusivity Exclusivity Understanding Understanding

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. The Negative Sides of Love Jealousy Jealousy An emotional reaction to the perception that a valued relationship is endangered and may be taken over by a rivalAn emotional reaction to the perception that a valued relationship is endangered and may be taken over by a rival Stalking Stalking An obsessive following, observing or contacting of another person, or the obsessive attempt to engage in any of these activitiesAn obsessive following, observing or contacting of another person, or the obsessive attempt to engage in any of these activities

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Distress/Protest Reactions to Breaking Up

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. The Connection Between Love and Sex Is Sex Better If We Love Our Partners? Is Sex Better If We Love Our Partners? Love can be an important motivational force.Love can be an important motivational force. Are There Differences in How Men and Women View Love and Sex? Are There Differences in How Men and Women View Love and Sex? Men tend to say “I love you” first.Men tend to say “I love you” first. Men tend to say “I love you” for sex.Men tend to say “I love you” for sex.

Copyright © 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved. Sexual Life Education Concluding Points Concluding Points