Expect Respect…and Give It Ralph Whalen & Parents April 23, 2010

Goals Connect with others. Learn one idea about respect that will help you promote respect. Learn from each other.

Respect Disrespectful child. What to do when your child is disrespectful. What to do when someone is disrespectful to your child. Handouts, evaluation and next seminars General Comments Partner Q. What topics of respect are important in your family? Respecting Differences Partner Q. How do you use the idea of strengths & challenges at home? Valuing children Partner Q. Too much respect?

Benefits of Respect For Kids I’m important Self respect Take risks For Parents Respect back

Respect I value myself and others, appreciate our differences, and treat others as I would want to be treated.

Respect for Others Age Ability Culture Jobs Opinions

Other Areas of Respect Position Property Environment Animals

Partner Talk Introduce Self What topics of respect are important in your family now (or when you were young)?

Respect I value myself and others, appreciate our differences, and treat others as I would want to be treated.

Difference AppearanceLikesFamilyPersonalityAbility

ReadingWritingSpeakingMathArtMusicBody

Walk/Run SportsSeeHearThink

Speed Knowledge Way Learn Concentration Attention

Students with Challenges Read the book Respect those with challenges We all have challenges Introduce special education personnel

Michael Phelps Video

Don't You Quit When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit- Rest if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a fellow turns about When he might have won had he stuck it out. Don't give up though the pace seems slow - You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than It seems to a faint and faltering man; Often the struggler has given up When he might have captured the victor's cup; And he learned too late when the night came down, How close he was to the golden crown. Success is failure turned inside out - The silver tint in the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It might be near when it seems afar; So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Respect Encouraging Others Encourage Yourself

We all have challenges and strengths. How do you use this idea at home? Partner Talk

Respect I value myself and others. No child can give back what he has not received.

Teaching Child to Value Self Communication Listen Talk Writing

Teach Children To Value Self Time Finish Learn new task Waiting for you To teach a virtue, one example (you) is better than a thousand lectures.

Expectations Consider child’s age Accept their limitations Accept their talents & temperaments. “Respect others if you want to be respected.” Philippines Teach Children To Value Self

Discipline In private Learning opportunity Consequences, not punishment Teach Children To Value Self

Teaching Respect Communication with others. Table manners Special places Special groups Cultural differences

P Share: Too Much Respect? Can a child have too much self respect?

Expect Respect Everyone is valuable Tone of voice Expressing opinions Frustration VS Disrespect Respect is commanded, not demanded.

Disrespectful Child Doesn’t value Doesn’t know their place Is Egocentric

Why Parents Tolerate Disrespect Don’t know Afraid of child Doing it alone Tried everything

When Your Child is Disrespectful Identify disrespect Conflict resolution strategies Ask for an apology Get help if needed

When Others Disrespect Your Child Listen for feelings Have faith in your child Support your child Monitor Teach assertiveness

Learning Respect from Others Siblings Peers Other adults Media “Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up.” Jesse Jackson

Group Share In what way did others help you or your children learn respect?

Evaluation Handouts Book Group Next Seminar Grade 5 Friday, April 30

Thank you for coming! “ Self respect permeates every aspect of your life.” Charles Joseph “Joe” Clark