WELCOME TO THE SMG DEVELOPMENT PROGRAM WEBINAR 2 FIVE STEPS TO SELF-AWARENESS

5 STEPS TO SELF AWARENESS

AREA OF APPLICATION EXAMPLE: CONTROLLING AND PROTECTING

WHAT IS MY AREA OF APPLICATION? WHAT CAN I EXPERIMENT WITH AROUND THIS? Arrogance: measures your tendency to project a large ego–behaviour that is experienced as superior, egotistical and self-centred. Driven: measures the extent to which you are in overdrive. Autocratic: measures your tendency to be forceful, aggressive and controlling. 4 Using IM, give us your ideas: What could be your ‘area of application’ if you wanted to shift this perception?

STEP ONE: MY AREA OF APPLICATION I would like to come across as more empathetic and collaborative to be able to engage people’s hearts as well as their minds in order to engender true buy-in vs. just receiving compliance. 5

STEP TWO: INITIAL REFLECTION IN COFFEE WITH SELF – ASK MYSELF: What’s happening right now? I am being too direct with what I say. I cut people off. I solve too soon/jump in too soon. I make people feel like I don’t care by not listening, or by being distracted. I show frustration and impatience. 6 Using IM, give us your ideas: What actions could you take if you wanted to shift these behaviours?

STEP THREE: PLANNING ACTION What can I do about it? Paraphrase. Ask more questions – be curious. Frame to soften my response. Use a different physiology. Reflect back feeling. Who might be interested in helping? Let my 2IC know I’m experimenting with this. What are the constraints around the situation? Sometimes I need to get other stuff done so I won’t do this. Sometimes I don’t like doing it; it doesn’t feel natural or comfortable. 7

STEP FOUR: OBSERVING AND REFLECTING DURING THE WEEK During interactions, meetings etc. Reminder prompts during the week: meeting planning/prep diary phone Post-it ® notes notebook on your desk 2IC during your commute. 8 Am I remembering to DO my five actions, especially if I feel frustrated or impatient?

STARTING SELF-REFLECTION 9 At first it will probably feel like “Well, damn, I did it again!” as you catch yourself after the fact.

STEP FIVE: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH WEEK Reflection: Learning journal prompts Going to the balcony! 1.Conversations, meetings, interactions? 2.Where was I able to use what I set out to experiment with? My five steps? 3.Did it work? Or not? 4.What can I learn from this? 5.How did it feel to do it/work with this area of application? What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following week around this area of application? 10

CONTINUING SELF-REFLECTION Eventually, through repetition and reflection, you are able to catch yourself in the act: “Here, I am doing it again!” As you catch yourself in the moment BE A FLY ON THE WALL! But you still may not be able to ‘do’ the new actions all the time, or at all. 11

CONTINUING REPETITION & REFLECTION 12 Catching yourself after the fact and reflecting each week. “Well, damn, I did it again!”

RESULTS IN GREATER SELF-AWARENESS 13 “Here I am doing it again.” Eventually catching yourself in the moment and making a different choice.

POLL: WHAT MIGHT YOU BE THINKING AND FEELING DURING THIS TRIAL-AND-ERROR PROCESS? 1.I criticise myself for making the same mistake over and over, thinking ‘why can’t I get this?’ 2.I give up; I’m too busy to deal with this, I’ll do it later. 3.I am frustrated and annoyed, but do it anyway, observe the emotion and be ok with it – at least sometimes. 4.I congratulate myself on the mistakes, because at least I’m catching myself and trying something new. 5.I feel that mistakes are good: now I can learn; let’s try it again and see what happens! 14

BONUS STEP: COFFEE WITH SELF EACH MONTH LEARNING JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR THE MONTH GOING TO THE BALCONY ABOVE THE BALCONY! 1.What key insights have I gained so far through the program and the process of reflection and repetition? 2.How do I think of myself differently as a leader in the university community? 3.What strengths have I identified and furthered this month? What can you CSS (Continue, Stop, Start) for the following month around this area of application? What needs to change? What else am I thinking? What other actions should I try? 15

BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS 16 It takes effort to create new habits! Area of application for growth: 1.Uncomfortable 2.Feels unnatural 3.I don’t do it well

BALANCING POSSIBLE + AND – FEELINGS 17 Balancing the effort it takes to create new habits with clear contributions you make through your current strengths. Area of application for growth: 1.Uncomfortable 2.Feels unnatural 3.I don’t do it well Remembering my strengths and contribution: 1.Strengths inventory 2.My leadership journey 3.My values 4.Informal feedback

Focusing on my strengths 1.What are my values? Realigning my moral compass. 2.Strengths inventory How they have helped me succeed. 3.Leadership journey Where have I been, what have I learned? 4.Informal feedback loops Informally calibrating your self-perception. The five steps in this webinar are also outlined in the self-awareness section of the OLE 18

SUMMARY OF THE FIVE STEPS Reflect in coffee with self: Step one: area of application Step two: initial reflection Step three: actions for the week During the week = repetition Step four: experiment with actions, observe self and reflect. Reflect in coffee with self: Step five: what’s working? CSS Bonus step: each month – balance the scales! 19

The value that you add through your area of application will be a result of your reflection and repetition. Enjoy the experimentation!