Change No Really I am Willing - Holly Near

There is loss.

Change "Change is inevitable; misery is optional." - Ed Friedman

There is fear “Here there be dragons.”

Leadership Is to be in the role of Agent of Change. How do we do this? What must we understand?

Gil Rendle’s “The Roller Coaster of Change” The roller coaster of change is a model that identifies a natural sequence of feelings and relationships that are a part of change... It is impossible to talk ideas with people on the feeling side of the roller coaster. If change is to happen we must be able to tolerate the pain in others. FEELINGFEELING THINKINGTHINKING Sabotage

7 TRUST CREATIVE CONFLICT COMMITMENT ACCOUNTABILITY ENDS LINKAGELINKAGE LINKAGELINKAGE Five Dysfunctions of a Team - Patrick Lencioni

8 Understand the issue Do we have a polarity? Do we have a technical issue? Do we have an adaptive issue? Is this a homeostatic issue? Is this a size issue? 8

-- ++ Outreach Inreach Polarity

10 Adaptive vs Technical Technical issue has a quick answer Thing Adaptive is complicated we don’t seem to have the whole picture Relational 10

Leading Change Understand the deepest reasons for the existence of the congregation. Understand yourself who and what you serve remember you are a servant leader. Understand the principle that the change is based upon. Stay in relationship ask “What happens if we do this?” – “What happens if we don’t do this?” Act with humility.

Leading Change Take a principled stand for the good of the whole. Identify the individuals or group(s) that will be the most affected or have the most to lose. Involve them in the process early. Stand with the people as they struggle with their emotions. Do not stop the process because of discomfort.

Leading Change Expect, invite and empower additions to the vision. Expect sabotage and don’t let it take over. Celebrate success. Name Learnings. Thank people.

Leading Change Thank them again Moving forward Assess – what did we learn? – What went well? – What didn’t – How does this change our plans – Who else needs to know what we have learned? What is the next principled change that is needed for the good of the whole (the common good)?

Leadership Leadership is the spiritual process of discerning what one believes (clarity), acting on that belief in the public arena (decisiveness), and standing behind that action (responsibility) despite the varied responses of people (courage). - Rev. Frank Thomas

I am open and I am willing To be hopeless would seem so strange It dishonors those who go before us So lift me up to the light of change There is hurting in my family There is sorrow in my town There is panic in the nation There is wailing the whole world round May the children see more clearly May the elders be more wise May the winds of change caress us Even though it burns our eyes Give me a mighty oak to hold my confusion Give me a desert to hold my fears Give me a sunset to hold my wonder Give me an ocean to hold my tears

If we were really serious about growth we would keep a larger percentage of the children that pass through our congregations. Rev. Bill Sinkford

Success How did being a Unitarian Universalist change your life? What is the life saving message of Unitarian Universalism? What would happen if we were generous with and about Unitarian Universalism? What does the world need us to be?

Really good sound bites A faith beyond belief - Morales A faith that loves beyond belief - Thandeka The people of the promise and the struggle The people of the many paths People becoming and becoming and becoming yet again

Uncharted Territory No human being can discover new oceans unless they are willing to lose sight of the shore.