Lessons on Listening Sophomore English Fall 2012 I sleep when I want. I cry when I want. I poop when I want. I’ll listen when I want.

Dynamite Definition Listening is…  The process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to verbal/non-verbal messages. This sounds sooo easy… even an infant could listen!

Hearing is… Listening is…  Being able to detect sounds  Natural  Passive  Getting meaning from sounds that are heard  A learned skill  Active “But Sullivan—I can always hear you, so I’m always listening to you!” And all this time I thought I was getting paid to listen… I love practicing my listening skills through work gossip!

Pointing at the Process  Step One: Sensing  Hearing the message You can also find this step in the CM when the sender sends the message to the receiver !

Pointing at the Process  Step Two: Interpreting the Statement  Decoding the message Find me in the CM when the receiver finds the meaning of the message! Sparky is thinking he’s depressed. Ball!

Pointing at the Process  Step Three: Examining the Statement  Preparing for feedback and encoding Find me in the CM when the receiver prepares to turn their ideas/feelings into feedback for the message! I love you, but I’m not in love with you.

Pointing at the Process  Step Four: Responding to the Statement Appropriately  Feedback Find me in the CM when the receiver sends appropriate feedback to the original message. YOU MEAT HEAD!!!

Pointing at the.  EVERYONE listens…  1. for F-U-N (or enjoyment)  2. for F-A-C-T-S (or to obtain info)  3. for F-I-G-U-R-I-N-G out stuff (or to think critically)  4. for F-R-I-E-N-D-S (or to be empathetic) Lessons on Listening is brought to you by the number 4

Above the Influence.  Four Factors for (in)Fluence:  One: Energy and Focus  Lucy Listener’s level of energy= Lucy Listener’s level of focus 2+2= QUESADILLA!

Above the Influence.  Four Factors for (in)Fluence:  Two: The Speaker  Lucy Listener’s willingness to listen = Lucy Listener’s liking of the speaker  Think about: personal bias AND speaker’s ability

Above the Influence.  Four Factors for (in)Fluence:  Three: Prejudice  Lucy Listener’s prejudgment on topic = Lucy Listener’s probably will/will not listen.

Above the Influence.  Four Factors for (in)Fluence:  Four: The Environment  Lucy Listener’s willingness to listen = Lucy Listener’s location

Breaking the Barrier.  Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers:  One: Retention  Lucy Listener can only listen to wpm, BUT Speaky Sullivan can speak at 500 wpm.  Lucy Listener only recalls 50$ of what is heard, and forgets 20-25% of that in 1-2 days!!!

Breaking the Barrier.  Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers:  Two: Physical Barriers  Lucy Listener can’t hear well = Lucy Listener can’t listen as well  Lucy Listener doesn’t feel well = Lucy Listener doesn’t listen as well A nose in need deserves Puffs indeed…and a day off of listening!

Breaking the Barrier.  Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers:  Three: Mental  Lucy Listener’s mind likes to wander = Lucy Listener’s listening is lost  SELECTIVE LISTENING ANYONE?

Breaking the Barrier.  Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers:  Four: Cultural Barriers  Lucy Listener doesn’t speak the language = Lucy Listener can’t listen as well!  How do I pronounce that? Why is she using smart people English? JIGGA WHAT?

.  You can become a LISTENING LEGACY if you are:  1. Prepared (stop, look, and listen!)  2. Concentrated (Focus on the speaker and message)  3. Concentrate..more. (record details, refrain from interrupting, review what was said)  4. Taking notes and studying them (write V.I.P ideas, word it your way, watch where you put it, wade through the info again) Lessons on Listening is brought to you by the number 4 “Pump the breaks Sullivan; you’ve made your point. How do I get better?”